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We all know a good mentorship will benefit both parties involved. But a lot of the time, we(as mentee) don’t know where to find the right mentor, or even if we have someone in mind but dare not to ask. Taking initiative is your own responsibility.
The company I work with has mentorship program. I tried to sign up for mentee once. As an industry veteran, the organizer took it for granted that I should be a mentor instead of mentee. They paired me with an associate who was looking for mentorship. But it really didn’t work for both of us. We didn’t even get chance to meet as I sensed unwillingness from the mentee. I guess she was also very disappointed with the arrangement as she didn’t need someone who does the same function as her.
My career has been stagnant for years. Even though I’ve been trying very hard working with my manager to develop my individual career development plan, and also expressed my willingness to take on more responsibilities. The opportunities are just not there for me. My contribution and value has always been highly recognized, but I guess it’s not high enough for a promotion. I am looking for qualifications that I may have missed, and I need a mentor who’s able to guide and help me mapping out a strategy.
I have never had a real mentor before. I looked into my network and tried to identify the best person to be my mentor. Am glad that I found one! He’s a highly respected veteran and has great knowledge and capabilities, he’s very caring and willing to give. He has all the qualifications that I am looking for in a mentorship. I had never approached anyone before for mentorship. Wasn’t sure if he would be interested in the mentorship and if he’s at a position to give with current climate. I would’ve never known if I hadn’t tried.
To my great happiness and gratefulness, he came back to me and accepted me as his mentee. Such joyful. I look forward to the mentorship and hopefully it would help me to develop my career, and also benefits him. A good mentorship is supposed to be of mutual benefits.
好的导师关系可以让双方受益。但是很多时候，作为徒弟的人往往不知道去哪里寻找好的导师，也有的，即使是心里有好的人选，可是碍于情面或胆怯不敢主动去问。在导师关系中，一定要主动。
我服务的公司内部也有导师服务。我也曾经去注册想在内部寻找导师。可是，因为我在业内的资历，公司想当然就让我做导师，并把我和另一位同事强配对。可是，这样的关系无法持续。我们甚至连见都没有见面。从唯一的一次电话中，我听出她也很不满。我想她也许也不满意我从事的部门和她是一样的吧？
我个人的职业已经多年停滞不前。我也一直和自己的主管来设定自己的职业发展计划等，也明确表态我是宁愿接受更多的职责。可是，机会似乎一直和我擦肩而去。虽然我的贡献和能力一直被高度认可，可是，似乎没有好到可以让我升职的程度。我希望知道到底我缺什么，我需要导师的指点和帮助，让我可以更好地制定接下来的策略。
我之前并没有真正的导师。我把自己的人脉圈子看了一下，并惊喜地发现有个非常好的导师人选。他在业内非常资深，很受人尊重。能力也非常强，更重要的是他很愿意帮助人。是个非常好的导师人选。之前我并没有向任何人寻求过导师关系。而且，我也不知道会不会太冒昧，也不知道现在的环境下，他是否有意愿去帮助我。但是，如果我自己不问的话，我是无法知道他的态度的。
非常开心的是，他居然很快回文并答应做我的导师。真是太好了。非常期待导师关系的建立，并希望这种关系可以帮到彼此。毕竟，好的导师关系是双赢的。