Why Are We So Lonely? (LOH #123)

Humans have been walking down the path of loneliness for a long time now. It's almost like we have been trained to walk most of our lives alone.

From the moment of birth, babies, inside of being placed in the arms of their mothers, are taken aside, to be weighted, assessed and washed.

The first feelings of separation, begins right there, when we, are at our most vulnerable. When we first enter this world.
Is it any wonder then, why so many people walk alone in the world.

We really have, been trained to do so.

In school they pit us against one another. Introducing the idea of competition, of exams and tests. Praising only a select few, as the others watch on and feel excluded.

Schools were never about unity. They aim to indoctrinate, to create adults, that obey and follow blindly. Some people may not want to hear this, but I am just sharing how I see it. How both pupils and teachers, are being deceived into thinking that they are doing what is needed, in order for everyone to thrive.

But really, we are being herded.

Most schools, are also cesspits for Bullying, where there is rarely any resolution. Only more segregation.

Then there are the homes that people live in. Some have, massive houses, where each member has their own room. Where they spend most of their time, absorbed in their screens. I have witnessed, one too many times, families eating out, with all of them on their phones. Instead of enjoying their time together.

The media, also plays a huge role in alienating people. Our young people, are being bombarded with images of how they should look. Leaving them, trying to reach unrealistic expectations. Which in turn, ends up knocking their confidence.

On top of that, the media, loves to spread fear and fear makes us all the more compliant. Using certain ideology to separate us. Introducing more labels, for us all to hang on one another. Driving more wedges between us all.

Once again, is it any wonder, that we find it so hard to connect with each other. When we are being continually guided further and further away from one another. Unless we step out and find our own way back, we will continue along this path.

There are certain things that we are told to strive towards, things that will make us successful, that will bring us real wealth. But the wealth they talk about, does not include the greatest wealth of all, true heartfelt human connection.

Instead most interacts we have with others, are shallow, most times we are too distracted to be really present for one another.
Because too many of us, do not value human connection. And yet, we so badly need it.

I love my own space, spending time by myself. I really value it and need it for my own mental health. But when I am alone, I do not feel lonely. I feel at peace, I feel content.

The last few years I have been getting to explore more heartfelt connections, with some of the people in my life and it has really reached it's peak, since I became involved in Biodanza.

Which has helped me to reconnect with myself and ultimately with others. You can not have one, without the other.

This disconnect, we have with others, it is because we are disconnected from ourselves. I believe that is why so many feel lonely, because they are no longer connected with their true self. Which is severed from us at birth, for the exact same reasons as I have stated above.

It's all connected, what drives us apart from ourselves, drives us apart from others.

This is my response, to the latest Ladies Of Hive Community Contest #123. Which asked the following question ........

Why are there so many people who are lonely? Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections?

The image used in this post is my own.