I was recently referred to as a “complete hypocrite” in the comments of one of my posts! Why? - Because I was standing my ground on a specific matter which I feel strongly about. The accusation flew at me because I “pretend” to be inspirational and motivational but am actually really negative and aggro… especially “towards men” apparently. I have been enlightened to many an accusation and slander thrown in my direction of late – all of which simply make me smile, because small minds discuss people, average minds discuss events and great minds discuss ideas.
Can I just explain something right here – being a positive person (which I am), does NOT mean that you do not struggle. It does not mean that you lack a backbone or opinions when it comes to certain matters. Positive people get sad too… yip. We get mad, just like everyone else and we are also capable of outlook that may be offensive to some along the way. Just like the rest of you, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
I suppose, the one thing that does set us aside from others in many respects… could be boiled down to a word. Resilience - The definition of such, for those that are unclear… is: the capacity to recover from difficulties and/or to “spring” back into shape. This knack is not one which is generally handed as a birth right, but rather earned - Often born through adversity and for this very reason - worn with unwavering conviction.
If I were to wave a white flag every time someone threw a bucket of “shit” in my face or talked crap and lies about me behind it – I would not have made it past the age of 10! As a parent, one of the first things you learn in the “protection of your own” is just how CRUEL humankind can be… and very often, kids – because they have no filter - take what they hear from adults and conjure their own versions of such – which more often than not, tip the scales of brutality.
I was never a “social circle” girl… not in the traditional sense, no. I was born without a filter and apparently I never got a memo for the collection date and place for one, haha! I have had a voice since I was 4 years old when I told a cashier to “shut up” because she was interfering in my decision making process, haha! Yes, I suffered the consequence of that voice via the wrath of my mother - travelling air born over most of the speed humps on the way home in our little blue Mini… removing every single toy from my room, crying myself to sleep (after kicking at my door for a good hour) in my bedroom and then finally having to pack everything back again – but did that break my spirit? No.
There is much to be said for those that have spent large portions of their lives under the thumb of adversity and challenge. I don’t argue the fact that there are many that sadly surrender to the abuse of the humans that surround them – I knew one of them well. A “societal reject” but one of the best human beings I have ever met. He gave up on life at the age of 25 because the people that he relied on did not believe in him – ie. his family. Yes, I and “we” were there for him for a period of two years. Unlike many others who passed him off… we got to know Jake and ADORED HIM! There will forever be a part of responsibility I feel for his suicide, because when I closed my business I feel like he lost his life line of support. And THIS is precisely my point! NOT everyone has the internal emotional and/or mental capacity to repeatedly see themselves through external abuse and ridicule.
What YOU may see as “trivial” ridicule could be MONUMENTAL to the recipient. You have NO idea what that individual has already endured – so you have ZERO gauge as to the impact of your seemingly flippant remark. The week before Jake hung himself in his bathroom by his belt, he had gone to his father to tell him that he had seen an ad for him to get involved in the IT industry in the USA. His father’s response to him was “well fuck off then”.
WAKE UP PEOPLE! Your shallow and selfish cruelty towards others is the advertisement for HUMAN DISGRACE! Just STOP IT! Life is like this: We don’t all have to LIKE one another – quite frankly, life would be boring if we did… but we CAN be MINDFUL of our actions and at the VERY LEAST we can be CIVIL toward one another.
Life is so short! I wonder when people will start being REAL with one another! Stop bickering over TRIVIAL “KAK” (as we call it here in SA) and just work together! Glory, we have enough to contend with “on a world scale” – the LEAST we could do as “people” is stand together.
I have had some head on collisions with a few here, as have many others – can WE not just agree to disagree “on the details of shit” but stand together as a WHOLE?! I have had fall outs with other people and am STILL confused by the lies being told about me. I have lost a REAL LIFE friend compliments of this blockchain and it’s backstabbing… and I am just DONE!!!! Done with ALL this BS!!!!!! I gave up something (PHC) - deleted an entire server that I spent almost 4 yrs building because I am SO SICK of the UGLINESS in this place – so now I speak as nothing more than an individual on Hive. Perhaps that was what was needed… so I could have a voice without “public obligation & responsibility”.
So I re-published a handful of old posts once a year each over the last three years. Has any ONE of you weighed that up against what I have given to Hive as a WHOLE and the QUANTITY of RELATIVELY GOOD "new" content I have published? Probably not – and that is ok. But could we ALL STOP trying to ”rip the other a new one”. I was REALLY disappointed to see what skramatters went through the other day. Did anyone THINK to be emotionally sensitive to his REAL LIFE situation before reducing his earnings to shit? Seemingly not. I lost my mother, almost lost my eldest brother TWICE, almost died myself - and ALL I got after almost 4 years of dedication to this blockchain was a new asshole and some ludicrous lies?! WTF people.... seriously, WTF!!!! - Is this how we encourage one another in the 21st century?!
We will NEVER get anywhere if we continue to “pretend” to work together but stab one another in the back at the same time. Communication is ALWAYS key. Families manage to get through this BS, we can too. We are a family – of a different kind - and NOW is when we should be leading by example.
Earlier today I listened to @pixiepost rant and I have to say that it was like inhaling a breath of fresh air. The frustration is REAL for every single one of us, but turning against one another is NOT the answer. Giving up is not the answer. Blockchain is supposed to be the ESCAPE from the chains… of what use is it if we are all strangling one another at the start?!
I came to this blockchain because I wanted to find a way OUT of the “rat race” – It became my home, a place of solace and reprieve. I promoted it over the last 3+ years because I not only LOVE what it stands for, but I love the PEOPLE here. How about we work TOGETHER?! We have BIGGER problems coming our way and when that finally becomes a realisation – all this “SHIT” will be of ZERO consequence.
So - here I am, "positive me" - reaching out to all of you! Enough with ALL THE crap already! Enough with the bullying and BS! Enough with the lies and deceit! Enough with the negativity, pessimism and self-defeat. Take a look at the BIG PICTURE - we are ALL in this TOGETHER. and I am speaking out - being HONEST - TRUTHFUL because if I don't, it will ALL be forever grey. NOT a rant, NOT dramatic - just REAL! because BEHIND THE KEYBOARD we are ALL REAL!!!!!!!!
So there you have it. Take from it what you will and leave the rest. I am SO sick of bitterness! One divorce afforded me enough of that to last a life time. I am FAR from perfect. SO are ALL OF YOU! How about we just make it work! We might even find that we enjoy it along the way!
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Edit - I have actually removed all the tags originally placed in this post because whilst my intention behind this post was PURELY to try and "fix" certain things (if that is even possible)... or to at least open the platform of healthy and constructive communication, I think perhaps it may do the opposite. Sigh. Guess its the thought that counts at the end of the day.
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Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
Jaynielea
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Show me a person who isn't a hypocrite, and I'll show you a hypocrite.
True, however... If that was all you took from this post... then I dont have much to add.
What I took from this is similar to what I've taken from many other posts like this... People invest too much of themselves on here and over extend themselves. It sounds like you've perhaps interwoven yourself a little too intricately into the politics and drama of this place, as have the others. Proximity causes friction, so to lessen the heat it might be advisable to create distance.
This place just isn't worth what you're going through / have been going through, same could be said for many others on here
You are 100% correct... hence I took a massive step back - however, this place, "space" is not illusion - real things happen and in order for life to move on, there needs to be honesty, clarity and closure.
Jaynie
I really don't know that much what is going on, but you are not alone. I too am a hypocrite. Guilty.
People fail to understand those of us who seek out peace and light do so because we know the dangers of the dark, and well. Yep ... you don't want to get me mad. I had an ex who outweighed by tens of pounds, shadowed me by half a foot, and had dealt some pretty unsavoury folks ... compare me to a charging white rhino. I didn't actually hurt him or even touch him and by most folks estimation, he had certainly earned my anger. But he said I was absolutely terrifying when angry.
So here I am on one hand promoting peace and love ... and most of the time that is who I am. And these are good things and well worth growing, but if you push far enough ... well, get out of the way.
But what I have learned is that to avoid getting to the point, I have to turn the other cheek, focus on something else, and allow time to diffuse a situation rather than my tongue, pen, or anger. I have learned to just walk away or ignore, early on. Most of the time. LOL
Naming people in a public forum is not diffusing the situation; it is keeping it alive. Because now those same people are going to feel the need to name you and defend themselves and so on.
I am not saying you don't have cause or aren't right about a number of things... but like you, I just want to see this thing come to an end.
Mostly for your sake, hun. Think how long the feuds went on with steem. There is no end to this. Unless you end it by choosing to not engage for as long as it takes for time to deal with it.
Anyways ... this was meant to help. I really hope this turns around for you and you can go back to feeling great about your time on HIVE.
If people dont talk, there is never closure. Denial of reality and emotion is cowardly. No fight is sought in this post - just truth. If people cannot be honest with one another then we truly have lost it all.
Cowardly. I am generally not seen that way. But there is a first time for everything. I see it more as choosing the path of least resistance and spending time creating something better than what I currently find lacking. But I am not here to choose the path for another. I do not know the full story. Wishing you well.
I was not in any way referring to you, but rather - to me. Sorry if you felt that was directed at you hon. I just meant that I felt the time had come to at the very least "attempt" to lay cards on the table - in the hopes that we can ALL move forward, even if another word is never spoken but some form of "peace" attained. I value you AND your input - always have always will.
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Hopefully ... we can:)
Saw the mention and didn't really read the post, but, actions have consequences. I noticed his post at random and wasn't even sure which post he was referring to when I dared to mention that anyone can create a Hive account and use it, no matter the background, etc, only to be accused that I want fascists, etc, to join just so it would pump the price of Hive. On top of that he was bragging about how much money he's pulled off of Hive while snarkingly asking me how I've been doing with that. Point is that didn't even matter, people can sell whatever they want, I don't curate or restrict my curation based off of who's selling, they all have their own reasons and sooner or later they may come to regret that decision. What triggered me is that he was putting words in my mouth saying I want pro-trump fascists to join and that that's what I was saying. Did I stop to consider his story/background he came out with today? No I wasn't aware of it, maybe he should consider his need of earnings more before behaving that way.
There you were again calling me things because I dared drop into your moderators post and ask him to be transparent about the obvious scam he was promoting. People are easy to jump to conclusions and judge things on this chain, most of the times whatever I say doesn't matter at all who I'm saying it to, it's about the matter at hand. You're a difficult person who seem to like arguments and dragging things out so I relied on adding some thoughts on what I've heard about you and your reputation, I'm only human.
What I want is Hive to be different than the rest of the internet, a place where we protect eachother from scams, fake news and charity scams like another interaction I had today with someone literally using a whole countries misfortune to grow his own stake. If I see something I feel is wrong I call it out, the biggest difference between you and me is that if I realize I am wrong or if someone I respect and listen to tells me "hey, I think you may be wrong in this case because x and z", then I back down and apologize. Maybe that doesn't happen a lot because of the stake I am in charge of, thus I go the extra mile to look at the situation another time a day after when things have cooled off. Anyway, I have not many regrets about vulgarities or downvotes I've used on this platform, most of my regrets are of people I've trusted and upvotes I've given out to some who turned 180 later to just take a big fat shit on the platform and the ideals of it.
You can believe what you want, I curate based off of content first, look at your friend who came to your rescue and called me a pedophile and shit, he was trending today because I looked past that and rewarded his content. Not saying that makes me superior or an angel, I'm just trying to take curation seriously and put aside personal arguments as much as I can even if that's really hard to do some times, especially on this platform where transparency is big and earnings can come and go at a whim. As for the user mentioned above, maybe I just felt like taking the rewards I had given him sometime in the past and that he'll learn not to accuse people of things just because they happened to voice a fucking fact about how Hive works.
This is the first time I have ever felt you being Real. NOT AN INSULT, just an observation... one which is greatly appreciated. Sometimes raw emotion is all that is needed, and I really DO appreciate this reply. Perhaps I am unaware of precise detail regarding yesterday's issue.
I, am not a difficult person - just a completely transparent one. And I agree with you in terms of professionalism. I hope you can see that I too have had to deal with my fair share of that here - be it on a smaller scale.
Your emotions ring true to my sentiment. We want the same thing. Detail aside (which was my intent with this post)... can we find a way toward level ground?
I do not want to fight with anyone anymore.
I would like to see us share a vision instead of feeling confined to a split one. My intention with this was to make peace with one another, nothing else. Nobody likes animosity.
This isn't the time or place. Thanks for being the judge and jury
I am sorry you feel the way you do. My intent was NOT to hurt nor frustrate you. I am just tired. Tired of feeling like we are supposed to be team players yet we all keep stealing the ball from one another. Just wanted to try and rectify that - even if it was only 10%.
I have no idea why the app put my comment where it did in the thread. I meant that acid is indecent amoral and I don't need his lies, manipulations, and lectures while he doubles down on his typical abhorrent behaviour.
Please don't think any of that was directed at you. My problem is with him and his spinning my disagreements on being openly welcoming to hate speech, as well as the hypocrisy of the lessons in life on this disastrous experiment.
It's an indefensible position to say we are recruiting the dregs of society that have been 90% excluded for good reasons and simultaneously saying we will flag them and segregate them so they know who's boss.
Also of course if one is accepting a recruiting as dictated by they call me and supported by the majority here it's absolutely about the price and not retaining any ethics. To say but they're free to come it's an open platform is missing my point that it's unprincipled and disgusting to lure OR bait them here.
I had one genius tell me I can block or ignore them and in the same sentence say only through discussion can change occur?!? So he is unwilling to tolerate opposing views yet also wants to change them, and help them see the light? He blocked me 😂
Acid takes it personally when people don't share his investor view of this place and out of spite he stole my grocery money and tried to spin it as I accused of him wanting fascists when the reality of supporting such an initiative is self evident. He already stole my rewards before I said anything to him except my above sentiments that it's not a good look and doesn't make sense for an already smeared start up. Butthurt he went on a tirade and told me how once mass adoption happens I'll be irrelevant. See, he seeks to silent dissent. That's fascist and @jaynie I don't consort with filth. Again you're very sweet and I'm sorry you thought I was speaking about you. All my ill will is towards @acidyo which if he has any decency will remove his flags.
I learned to leave after 13 weeks and that you are not a, decent human. @acidyo had already stolen my rewards before I ever even mentioned him or spoke about his intents. I was merely pointing out rewarding recruited fascists was a bad look. He then called my friend a douche and said I can eat shit like I have for years here.
The humble brag about my success here is no secret and only was brought up after he told me I had eaten shit here. He is a punk
And I reciprocated, I see no reason to act professionally with such a loser that acts like he is some God of this place.
I don't recall many rewards from him in the past but if so it begs the question why was he rewarding my shit? His attempt to drag me and make it seem as if I antagonized this and should learn how to respect bullies is asinine. Remove the flags now, all can see you're a fraudulent jerk.
I'm here because you have been kind every time we have interacted here or Twitter. As a Christian, kindness matters to me and I really have no idea what is happening here on the blockchain... in the states we are fighting big things and you may be, too. I'm so sorry for the conflict. Thank you for sharing part of your life. Hugs
And thank you too hon! Really appreciate your love. Nothing of concern, simply trying to heal wounds and repair bridges xxx
I know you will. 🤗
Oh I wish people would just leave others alone, they should be concentrating on there own lives instead of breaking down others. Sad world we live in, all it takes is a little change.
I hope we can see that change HERE. 💗
Me too. Its not hard to Be Kind 💕
Hive could be the catalyst where the online ecosystem starts to change in a more positive direction for all humanity. We should all act accordingly.
We can fight over this "KAK" shit later 😀 I am glad you said what you did and how you laid it out!
Luv ya even more @jaynie 😘
Thank you 💗 really value the positive vibes!
Guilty, as charged. I let myself become overtaken by the sadness at the loss of yet another great community here that I didn't check-in with you, as I should have. I am sorry for that. 😞 I started a post about it, but have not brought myself to finish it yet.
No need to apologize. Here you are. Just felt the need to express the hurt. I have actually removed all the tags now because whilst my intention behind this post was PURELY to try and "fix" certain things (if that is even possible)... or to at least open the platform of communication, I think perhaps it may do the opposite. Sigh. I am so tired. Tired of it all. Anyway, I appreciate you stepping forward very much.
In response to this
I wrote this.
My sentiments have not changed.
There I leave it.
10 years of friendship and you could not pick up a phone to ask me what was wrong? Send me a whatsapp or even a DM on discord? Instead you opted to write a post about it? That is not how friendship works.
10 years and this was the FIRST time I ever displayed ANY kind of anger toward you - SURELY that would be indication that something was VERY wrong and perhaps speaking to me would have helped? Instead, you chose to listen to ear worms and assumptions from people you have never even met in real life.
You were hurt? So was I fiona - by what, you still don't even know because you never bothered to ask.
And as for our friendship or the loss thereof - that continues to hurt to this day.
And the other matter...My mother died. Not my pet. The right thing to do would have been to send ME a message directly. Not leave a comment on someone else's condolences post.
I will stand my ground on this. If you do ever decide to find out why this all happened to begin with, by all means make contact with me - in the real world, as REAL friends would.
Ok i started a blog, a draft and another draft, than I decided to do a comment and I erased it 4 times now, so I am now just gonna write what comes to my mind first. I have seen a lot here, people here only for the money , bigmouths, assholes , bitches and witches and all with a strenght that all depended on the length of .. or the amount in their wallets. Some fair and truthfull others just lying. Hell, I experienced it a few times myself and sometimes it was funny sometimes hurtful and sometimes a real dissapointment. All times the voice inside was the most important, I read the comments and I love the honesty but what does that bring you. You moved on, been greeving the biggest loss and still experiencing things that I don’t wish on you, but that’s life, your life. Rise dear, and see them as a passed station. Some people just don’t care or have it in them. We try to find people we like, who think alike, or do things like you would have done them.
And fuck I am just gonna write a blog about this NOW
3 words. I LOVE YOU 💗