Electronic perception can be pretty exhausting at times. I suppose it is wonderful that emojis were invented, being that text lacks tone. Tone of voice, I mean. I moderate a group on another platform, which has some basic rules. Nothing unreasonable - very basic. Without these very basic guidelines the group implodes and becomes useful to no one. And people hate being told what to do, and are quick to assume that I am a nasty tyrant that is shouting rules at them, often when they have never interacted with me before. I must use the most exaggeratedly pleasant language. So many pleases; so many thank yous; so many "it would be helpful if..." People see what they want to see, sometimes even when there is little evidence for it - or at least when you are a figure of authority this seems to be the case.
It burns me out and I find myself enjoying the advice "don't talk to strangers," which I have decided includes most people on the internet:)
I'll be honest and say it's unlikely I'd have the patience for all that please, thank you and such. I mean, I'm a polite man Ginny, but online, as you say, the sensitivity level is off the chain and so...I'd not want to moderate a group.
Like with THE WEEKEND community and The Pew I have. I just mute posts that don't follow the guidelines rather than waste time with the please and thank you. If people don't like it they can posts elsewhere. My community, my guidelines. I don't think that's wrong of me.
If someone came into my house and ignored the established guidelines and pissed all over the floor instead of using the bathroom I'd deal with it in similar fashion, that is to say decisively what's the difference online?
Don't talk to strangers is a good piece of advice.
Yes, I think it takes a personality that innately likes to keep the peace. The group I moderate was started by other people and is created specifically to benefit my local community, so I feel less of a sense of ownership and all-powerful as you do on one that you created yourself. The unfortunate fact is that a lot of people just don't understand the rules, and those are the ones I try to help. I'm not implying that you should - this is a much different environment where people are more technologically savvy and independent. Other platforms require a bit more hand-holding, especially with the 65+ crowd.
The rules factor is actually part of why I don't really like communities here and don't post in them that often. I came here to write random crap how I want to do it, with my pictures that are random crap from my phone, and I don't really want to have to make sure I did certain things before I hit "post." I get it though - most people come here for rewards and want to collect the max amount of followers, etc., so I suppose channels make sense for them. This is my blowing off steam writing place, and I just don't care about what I get for it and who read it. Having more people read as great...but it isn't worth it to me. Ha.
Yeah, I understand about communities here. My rules are simple though:
Seems rather simple to me. 😉
Those community sites like you moderate can be difficult, or so I imagine and yeah, so understand the need for patience - You're probably the right person for the job being
(mostly)totally legit. 😁Yes, simple enough. Maybe I will stop by sometime. I did post in one or two recently. Innerblocks kind of resounded with me. What is self cross-posting - putting a post in multiple communities? Sorry, I'm sort of that person at a party who stumbles into different conversations, gathers a couple of tidbits, and then walks away before really learning anything. I like hors d'oeuvres more than I like talking. I think we are getting back to that "don't talk to strangers" bit.
I'm glad you have decided I am totally legit. Looks like it was a close call :)
Wasn't a close call.
Cross posting is when one does a post then posts it into different communities. I don't have a problem with it and have done it myself for other people's posts, but not on my own posts. I see self cross posting one's own posts as a bit desperate and so don't permit it in my communities.
I see. As a person that has been with the same man for 16 years, dropping one post in multiple communities sounds like a scandalous lack of constancy :) I didn't realize that was even a thing.
People get desperate I guess and think that by doing it they will get more votes. It turns me off though and I don't vote them.