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RE: Advice and taste explosions

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That food looks pretty yum!! Even the bushes, looks like an elk might be hiding in there, be careful!

Advice is a tricky situation especially in that situation. I personally would would have done the same especially when it comes to someone's employment situation. Helping them weight the pros and cons is about as best as you can do for her.

I have seen where a similar scenario didn't go to well and even experienced something similar where I took a job that the position wasn't officially approved yet and lost it a month later when the company headquarters didn't see the need for it like the actual branch did in the end. I did get a few weeks pay settlement to make up for the bad experience while I looked for a new job but I still couldn't go back to my old job since I had been replaced. It did push me to pursue higher and am in the job I am now so it all worked out well in the end but it was still an uncomfortable and worrisome moment in time.

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I found no elk hiding in the forest they put on the top of my food, but I wouldn't have been surprised if I did!

Women handle advice a bit differently to men (mostly) so that was a factor for me also. Men can be more straightforward so delivering an opinion can work; not always though. There's situations in which, if someone stepped me through the process I did with April yesterday, I'd probably be a little annoyed. I tend to do that in my head anyway, it's how I reason things out. Sometimes a direct answer is required and if I ask someone that's what I want, because I value their direct opinion. That doesn't happen often though. Very rarely in fact.

Mostly, delivering advice like that is fraught with danger and I rarely do it.

That job situation, the same sort of thing as April's, must have felt pretty shit for you. To be dropped like that and with no chance to go back to the other role. It happens though which is why April was uncertain. Yours worked out though, and I think her's will also, even if it means she's back out on the job market.

I found no elk hiding in the forest they put on the top of my food Well that's too bad. You know what they say about an elk in the bush!! It makes a good steak. I'm shameless I know, I love all these critters but wouldn't think twice about putting them in my stomach!

Seeking major advice from others is dicey on the best of days, since nobody but me is in my head and understand my needs the way I do therefore I should probably figure it out myself. You are right, men and women take advice differently, as a woman overall I think we need to become more sure of ourselves and you may have actually given her the steps to get there and that will also be useful in the future in other situations.

Oh I was crushed, it was def a harsh welcome to the real world and my realization to rely on my own self moment. My initial intuition said it was a bad idea but I wasn't sure why but everyone around me was telling not to pass it up since it was it was a good opportunity. The same for my current job, my surroundings tried to talk me off the ledge but it clearly was a better choice to ignore everyone's advice and just go for it. so many ways this shit can work out. Life's wild surprises.

I've never tasted elk, maybe I'll have to EMA one to death and sear it up on a fire then give it a try. Of course, there's no elk down here in Australialand.

I've learned the hard way about giving and taking advice over the course of my life; I did it wrong in the past, I'll admit because I'm a guy who knows how to display ownership, but I learned from it and now I think I do it pretty well, most of the time. In the case of my friend yesterday, that's certainly the case.

Life's wild surprises.

This is a thing of course, sometimes they're good ones and sometimes not. Either way, it's life.

There is no learning life lessons quite like the hard way, they tend to stick to the back of our heads real good!

An EMA match is in order then!! It's delicious in a port or balsamic reduction. You can put a bush on top too if you want to keep it comfortable in it's natural environment. 😂