It can feel depressing when you look around and don't see the life you want... But the key in changing that reality is all about training your mind to look for the things you are grateful for. When you do that your more receptive to the things in life that will move you towards your goals.
I always think of it like this @steem.moon:
If I'm driving down the road and I'm looking at the rocks, trees, and power poles then I'm probably going to end up veering of the road and hitting those obstacles.
If, on the other hand, I'm driving down the road and I'm looking where I want to go... Chances are pretty good that I'm going to get there... in one piece!
Are those obstacles still there? Yes they are. But when your more focused on where your going your more likely to creatively find solutions around those obstacles... and your likely going to expend way less energy overcoming them.
We all have obstacles and limitations... It's all part of being a finite human being... It's something we all have in common. That's why we all got to try our best to encourage and support those around us. It's all about positive energy.
Here's another thing to think about...
I believe in making my own luck. How about you?
Hi @newpioneer
In my life there is very activities have around me there there is lot of fun good things i live in good life my independent everyone wants to live my life😀...
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But😔 every one dont knows about about my tentions, pains my in my lifes booklet where is hardness i work with sincerity i give them all respects and want everyone should respect me feel my depressions but there is nothing.. After sping a most beautifull day at night when comes i feel depression i thinking about all my tention who gives me from anywhare i feel bad i feel in depreesed and crying everytime
I think about that why people like do with me bad behaviour tell me about my mistake
In life there is for females so tough to servive people want to killed 👭 girls
I beliving to make my luck i do it far i get up with more power and still stand and fight these things.... But when people tease me tease me tease me 💯 times when i feel low decresing my power of strongest....
On that moment what should i do @newpioneer
When i saw you @newpioneer you i feel you so lucky you are male you stand for yourself you are independent you can do it everything you want to do but i am not... Because i am a girl and spend life in socialism... When i 😢 crying many time and feel powerless
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Hi @steem.moon. I think I understand the gist of what you are saying. Personally I think that you need to learn more about healthy boundaries. If there are people in your life (even family) who are tearing you down in order to keep the power balance in your relationship... Then the best thing to do is slowly carefully detox from those relationships. Every minuet you devote to unhealthy people is a minuet you could be giving to someone who lifts you up.
Another thing... Depression could be coming from caring to much about these negative people... Finding a different way to think about them could be objective.
For example: If I get on the bus and someone I don't know on the bus says a lot of hateful things... I might be upset... But not really because I'm probably never going to see them again... So who cares. It's the caring that brings your spirit low. You don't have to care about people who don't really care for you... Right?
It's all about establishing healthy boundrys and thereby forcing the people you allow in your life to behave in healthy ways.
In my opinion success has nothing to do with being female or male. Culturally there could be difficulties... But if women band together and support each other then I'm sure the culture would slowly change.
Now... As for your comment, "servive people want to killed 👭 girls".
Could you explain this to me? I'm guessing that your making use of google translate or something like that and it may not have translated your text in the correct manner.
Yes i can explain the power people mean to say that whcich is have ability to creat some sharp activities behind me and every one preffer her to that she is right and i am wrong so that is so embarrassing for me she have tge power to convincing them and stands people behind me and takin me as a toye and talk me that i am so durty and so bad i feel that i have no ability and some time i want to spend most of time outside my home my town and in my office that there is i fell relaxation but when i going for home i feel very sad like that nighits come and every where feel darkness
From what I can deduct from your words... This is very sad. But remember @steem.moon! You have a choice. You and only you can define your life. No one else can do that. Choosing your own identity puts the power back in your hands. Don't let other people think they have that control in your life. The main thing is that you know who you are... and your not afraid to be genuinely yourself. Know your worth and walk away from the people who can only find their worth by dragging others down to their level. When your surrounded by small minds... it requires big thinking.
Don't let anyone make you into a victim because in the end... We are all not better than the other anyone else... and neither are we less than anyone else.
But i want to tell you one thing in that world tgere is nothing without successfull so i want to be a successfull girl 👧 that have everything.. In my life i need but still anyway i need that personss who love me because i am nothing without any one
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Feeling successful is pretty important. You are right about that. Just make sure your clearly defining what success means for you... Don't let other people tell you what it is... It's your life. You get to decide! That's the best thing about this life... Don't you think? :)
Another thing I wanted to mention here @steem.moon is that it is definitely a cultural thing (and we are all programmed genetically) to believe that finding someone who loves us is "success".
But, in reality, their are so many levels and different types of success. It is wise to be very careful with love because love is like a fire... it can keep you warm at night but it can also burn you.
Healthy love always begins with loving yourself. This is the key to finding someone who really loves who you for who you are.
And another thing! Your value doesn't come from someone else loving you... but rather, your value comes from loving yourself enough to be you.
I hope you understand what I'm trying to say here... Because fundamentally, in my opinion, it's the difference between living a fulfilled and happy life... and not.
Or some time i dont care and spend my life very easy when those people gone so far from my apartment means my place but when they come again ohh shit then
Tention come me again i think most of time that how people are so sharp why not hambleness in their hearts why so crazy mad selfish greedy dog foolish saico some time i want to do someones kill but my limit not permit me not allow me to do that
Why peoples have so durty and black heart 🖤
Please don't ever feel down for being a girl. They are many motivating women personalities in history . Take time and read about them. You feel better and motivated.one more suggestion is that please get surrounded by good people who encourage you and fill positivity in life. From whatever you said I can see that you have gone through so many hardships in your and that might have toughened your character.
See all I can say is people who are grown up easily cannot survive in this modern world. So chill chill😀😀
Thanks
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