Sometimes thing happen in life that are largely beyond individual control. That, for whatever reason, damage is done and the only way forward is to stem the flow, or bleed out. The faster the tourniquet is applied, the higher the chance of survival, so time is of the essence, even if the pain doesn't hit immediately. Several times I have been in this position, and I think I am going to find myself in the midst of it again.
Disappointing.
It is not where I want to be right now, but it is where I am likely to find myself. So, time to make some tough decisions in order to stem the bleeding and work out what the next steps are. What I find is that what hurts people the most who are in similar kinds of situations, is that they wait too long in order to change, so they are hoping that something will come up in between, so they don't have to. Even though I have done it in the past myself, it rarely happens that way and in hindsight there is the I shoulda self-reprimand.
This year, I have been going through various personal changes and trying to get myself into order. This latest evolution in personal conditions is largely negative, but also might tie into some of the changes I have been looking to make in areas of my life, to improve the impact I am having. Plus, there is a certain "get back to the roots" potential that is likely to do me some good.
With only so much time and energy, I have been neglecting some parts of my life in order to favor others and this is likely a good time to reprioritize. I was listening to a book the other day where they were talking about the best times to sell to someone being when they are going through life changes, because that is when they are overwhelmed and are seeking help. However, it is also an opportunity for someone in that situation to change their habits and restructure their processes.
A reflection point.
I was talking to my wife about various options I have, because of course changes to one in a family don't live in a vacuum, they affect all. She tends to have pretty good advice (don't tell her I said that) when it comes to life planning (not great for financial advice - you can tell her that), and she mentioned a couple extra opportunities I hadn't yet considered. It always helps to have wider perspectives added to the plans early, before committing to any course of action.
If this situation does go ahead as I expect it will, I will add more detail here in the future and document my journey to some degree. Writing helps clear the head and direct the heart, which is why I think that no matter how someone might feel or what they are going through, they should write it out. Of course, they needn't post it to a public forum like Hive, but at least for me, writing with the intent for an audience to see it, also helps direct the mind to process in a different way, to broaden perspectives further.
The blood is mine.
But, it's only a flesh wound.
Taraz
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Based on your other posts, I think I know what this is about and I truly feel for you. I had a similar situation a while ago and unlike you, I didn't see it coming. I was taken totally off guard and it left a lot of bitterness in me for a long time. I'm still probably mildly bitter about it today. In the end, a lot of good came out of it and I hope the same ends up being true for you.
There are going to be some interesting times ahead for sure, but I am confident that it will work out okay :)
That's great to hear!
Re-Prioritizing is very much necessary, because those who always look forward to work, have more work and less time and energy. At least, I feel that way...And over time priorities also change, even sometimes because of other actors with whom we are attached.
I wish that this decision would be the best to be taken.
Good luck, my friend.
I hope that the pain is transitory, and that you can make it through...
Hopefully you will make it through whatever you are going through and come out better on the other side. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Perspective from others is always an opportunity to learn. Sometimes, when we are conclusion shopping to fortify an opinion, it doesn’t always feel that way. Otherwise, I tell myself that committing to always be learning, and hopefully improving, means constantly asking for new information from situations and people.
As for those changes, they will most likely be an adventure, potentially of inconvenience, that will stir your soul and intellect. The path will put mud on your boots but that comes off and the steps bringing you back to where you should be will have been worth the inconvenience.
Not enough info!!! You've got me pretty worried here, but I'm know that you, if anyone, can find a good way to turn this into a good thing.
Sounds like life x_x
Checks out, also seems shady.
Good luck with the thing, hope everything works out favourably..
Am that is why I love hive it gives the opportunity to pour out our hearts,. And get more opinions to our suggestions
I wish you the best whatever decision to take to face the new situation.
I think after a certain time or age or whatever, it is not easy for us to do change, especially our comfort zone.
Embracing change, even when tough, is the first step toward growth. Your honesty is inspiring, and I’m sure this journey will lead to something great.