Introduction to the man behind ZeroTolerance

in #australian2 years ago

A friendly hello to all! :D

I just wanted to put together a post to introduce myself to everyone far and wide. My name is Jamie and I was born and raised in Brisbane, Australia. I spent the first 18years of my life living my parents and two siblings. To put it mildly, a less then ideal environment for children to grow up in. I was very eager to move forward and out away from negativity and bad influences once I turned 18 and did so with my now ex wife. That experience amongst all the good and bad gave to me 3 beautiful children who I just can't imagine this world without them.

During my younger years as a child I lived in fear and both physical and emotional pain. I would not want anyone in the world to have to experience anything of the sort, especially children. I had a very poor understanding of as to why me and why this life but as a kid I would still try enjoy making my friends happy and trying to find my happiness somewhere in the world. The photo below is the only photo that I have of myself before 15yrs old. I believe I was about 5 years old in this one, with that sword behind the tonka truck as one of two xmas presents I remember as a kid.

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Heading into my teenage years I really was just as angry and happy as a person. I was a terrible misfit of a teenager who did not give a fuck about other people but at the same time I loved anyone who I deemed as family or friends. I had my first ever job as a paper boy which was good for about 1 year. I then moved onto the fast food industry at 13years old and enjoyed the work after school during the week and 1 or 2 shifts over the weekend. I had some work ethic there but I was a selfish teenager who would happily skip a shift in favor of having fun with friends or getting drunk around the age of 14-16.

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I really didn't know who I was exactly at that point in time, I was either very angry with something or very happy with things small or large in my life. I was a thriving high achiever during Primary school and once I moved onto secondary school that was just too boring for myself. I still managed to keep my grades high and satisfactory for the school and myself but I just didn't care about it. I decided to leave school after year 10 and pursue something else that interested me. That interest just ended up putting myself into a retail position at a supermarket at the age of 16.

I enjoyed the work and I really did find more happiness for myself being more free in my own choices in my life even at 16. I was independant enough to research and learn about anything and everything I had an interest in or lack of understanding. By 17 I was promoted into a manergerial position at the supermarket which really didn't bode well with all the older employees. Imagine a 17year old being put in charge of mid twenty year olds. After a year of being in management I found I wanted more out of life. Being indoors just didn't cut it for me so I went in search of another adventure and skill/s to learn and get good at.

This move landed me in a labouring position as a Metal Roofer in construction at 18. I was young and dumb, but I really put effort and care into my work in construction. During this time I also moved into my own place with my girlfriend at the time which was a big experience and learning curve. I stayed in construction work for many years to come, during that time I became Married at 20 and a father of a gorgeous boy by 21.

Over the years I kept working in construction between Metal Roofing, some concrete work and even some NBN installation. I was a hard working man and loved my work outdoors, over the next 4-5 years I started to notice a change in myself. I had 2 more children (2 beautiful girls) during that 4-5 years. I loved my life as a father and my children were everything to me. Sadly I also started to realise my marriage was toxic, it was bad for the kids to see or hear. I had to make the hard decision of walking away from my now ex wife. The decision was only difficult because I knew it meant I would not be with my kids every single day! I knew I would struggle with not being able to be with my kids all the time. They are my world.

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The picture above is my 3 little ones who are now 10 (right), 7 (left) and 5 years old (middle)
It was a struggle for me over the next 6months, I was just very depressed and lost. What was I supposed to do with myself? did I fuck up and fail as a father? what did I do wrong? The question I should've also been asking is what did I do right. Did I do right by my kids? myself? The answer is yes. I removed a toxic relationship that the kids didn't need to see as normal in their lives. My kids are the happiest, funniest little buggers honestly. I fucking love them so much, they make me strong and keep me happy.

At the age of 28 I met my current partner Terri, she is, amazing! I had never thought I would be able to put my heart on the line again. This woman really did change my life and every day with her is a blessing. She also had a young son who was about the age of my middle child. I am very happy to call him one of my kids, he is a very smart boy with plenty to say. I mean really he talks a lot!! so so much haha, love that kid. I am now 31 and soon to be 32 in mid december, I love my life. I love my future wife, I love my kids blood born or not. Below is a picture of a recent event I went to with my partner, it really was an amazing time for just the 2 of us to have together. I also have a photo of my step-son and I having a little swim at his aunties :D a tonne of fun, that kid loves his water.

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I just want to also talk quickly about my friends, these boys are family to me. I love them so very much and I am very protective of them. Even though we don't always manage to catch up every single week I can't imagine not having them around in my life at all. Through the bullshit fun times and whatever hard times any of us ever go through, we are always there for each other.

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These boys really help me stay positive, we love to just shoot the shit and have fun! have a laugh! smile! be positive and just throw around some solid banter. Look at these turkeys below haha, love them.

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Recently I had to deal with something rather large and imprtant in my life. My best friend moving to canada. This 6ft fucking giant is a truly good man and amazing friend, always there for me and the reason I have neck pain because looking up to him was so difficult with our heigh difference (on account of he is a giant haha) We keep very regular contact and I really hope he has the best time over the next couple of years travelling and living life <3 Below is the last photo we had together before he left for overseas the next morning. So to my friend the giant, fuck you :D haha miss this dude.

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To make a quick and maybe lacking paragraph about my current interests :D I love my gaming and over the years really enjoyed my competitive FPS, then my dota 2 and moved into Path of Exile. I have a new love and that is of Gods Unchained, this game to me is just something I have never experienced before and am such a huge! fan and supporter of this game. Outside of gaming I really enjoy my food and iced coffee/coffee. I enjoy my outdoors still aswell, just simple walks can be so nice for the body and mind. Music wise I am aussie hip hop focused but I do really appreciate all music and genres (maybe not kpop) A few artist to name would be bliss n eso, complete and chillinit.

I am becoming lost for words, I feel like I have barely scratched the surface of who I am. I am a really happy dude, I like to help people and am just an emotional caring guy. I like meeting like minded people and even people that aren't. Can't pass up a solid conversation or debate, knowledge is power. If you made it through this I would just like to thank you for giving me your valuable time. I do appreciate anyone and everyone who gives me, a nobody, the time of day. If you have any questions or want to discuss anything please feel free to ask I am known to be a little too honest so if you ask a question that I think isn't appropriate I will tell you that it is just that.

Much love friends <3

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Hello Jamie, welcome to Hive! :-)

What's up :D Thank you, super keen on what's to come in the future. Thanks for the welcome

Love the vulnerability of your post

Thank you, I am who I am. the good the bad it's all happened. I look forward to writing more like this in the future. Open book :D

I am pretty meself and am still finding way around. I am glad younhave that picture from when you are a boy, bit it is also heartbreaking from a mother's perspective. I hope that you do get to see your other 3 children often. Your kids are darling. How do you think your up ringing has affected how you are as a dad? I think all your experiences have helped shape who you are through fast food, retail, etc. Thank you for the intro! I hope to write one soon as well.

I do get to see my kids, sometimes it is made more difficult then it needs to be which sucks but I also talk to them over the phone or messenger and get to play games with them online throughout the week as well. I imagine I wanted to raise my kids to not have to ever go through anything like I did. I do understand that hardship at all levels can have varying effects on people and I am lucky enough to come out of it who I am because really it could've gone either way. Thanks for the questions, good luck on your post :D

Thank you! I will make one soon hopefully. I am glad that you are able to change things for your kids. They, in turn will use your example with their kids. It is amazing what an impact we have . I try to remember that everyday with my own kids.

Welcome :)

Thank you :D excited to talk to so many new people

Welcome to HIVE! Hope you enjoy and enrich the community :D.

Welcome!

Thank you for the warm welcome :D

Welcome aboard brother! love to see my gu family coming together! cheers!

very happy to step into this world :D Thanks brother

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Hey! Welcome to Hive. Hope you have a great time here. :)

Hope to have a blast! Thank you

Welcome to hive, your username is dope plus your kids are sooooooo cute🥰🥰.

Welcome to the platform. I hope you find some communities here that you can feel right at home in! This is a really great place and it looks like you would fit in perfectly!

Thank you :D yeah I have come across some very nice people already. I'll hopefully find some perfect spots for myself to fit in somewhere

Awesome! I am glad you are finding a home here!

how cool that there is a photo. Everything can be captured
<3 <3 <3
Glad to welcome

It is nice that so much can be captured, I am usually very bad at taking a photo more often, I get really into just enjoying moments.

Whoa data overload. Thanks for sharing your story.
That's a write up.
Now I have to go into a hole and process it....

Joke.

But seriously thanks for sharing your story, good read.

Would you believe I had to limit myself? haha this could've been way longer. I was happy with this overall, plenty of anxiety hitting that publish button. Thanks for reading :D

Should've gone full hectic.