Single and Looking For a Spouse? Here are 3 Mistakes to Avoid

By J. B. Chachila

Prayerfully — and wisely — choose who to marry.

Marriage is very desirable. Having been dsigned by God to be a perfect to be a perfect Christ-centered partnership between a man and a woman, it has joys and benefits that no other kind of relationship has.

Many singles, however, need to know who to marry. Marriage might be very beautiful, but marrying the wrong person will end up in a lot heartache. Just think of the many broken marriages around the world and even the unhappiness that can exist between those who stay together.

In this article, We'll take a look at the most common pitfalls that every single man and woman needs to avoid in choosing a spouse.

Mistakes To Avoid In Choosing A Spouse

Seduction

We Often equate seduction to sexual temptation, but it's more than that. Webster's 1828 dictionary defines seduction as "the act of seducing or of enticing from the path of duty." It simply means being enticing or drawn away from what matters most.

Many men fall for this type of pitfall. They see an attractive woman and end up Pursuing her — ultimately forgetting that marriage isn't about looks at all.

To be honest, we are all going to age. Any handsome or pretty face today will not look the same way thirty, fifty years from from now. The physical quality that men (and women) fall for today won't be there tomorrow.

Don't be seduced, friends. Being seduced, based on that definition above, may very well mean "straying off from the path that God wants for you." This simply means that that Seduction will draw you away from the person you ought to marry.

—proverbs 6:23-26 warns us: Reads

"For the commandment is a lamb, and the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of seductress. Do not lust after the beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids. For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life."

2. Different faith

Many Christians singles make the mistake of pursuing an unsaved person for marriage. While we must pursue the unsaved to preach Christ to them, no Christian must desire getting married with an unbeliever (although you can) in the Lord Jesus Christ, more so if the person is deep in other faiths.

This is the fall of the wisest man who ever lived, King Solomon. 1kings 11 tell us that he married so many women --700 wives and 300 concubines-- and these women turned his heart away from the Lord. He ended up worshiping other gods, building altars for then and offering sacrifices to them (see 1kings 11:4-8)

Solomon might have been wise, but he was foolish to chase after the love of wrong women, especially those who worshipped false gods.

Single Christian men and women, then, should make it a point never to desire or chase after an unbeliever for the purpose of partnership and marriage. That's a very dangerous thing." You can covert that person to Christ if you really Want her.

"Do not be unequally yoked together with the unbelievers. For what fellowship has the righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14)

3. Fun and enjoyment

Lastly, many singles make the serious mistake of choosing who to marry based on the fun and enjoyment they get to experience while with certain so-and-so. Marriage isn't based on fun; neither is it dependent on a person's capacity to make one happy.

It is commitment to love one another no matter what.

Some singles foolishly choose a desired spouse based on his capability to throw Jokes, or ability to laugh at even the corniest thing a person mentions.

Don't Choose a spouse that way!

Just because a person laughed at your corny jokes doesn't mean she is the perfect partner for you. Just because a person's fun to be with, doesn't mean he should be your husband years from now. Just because a person makes you happy doesn't mean you've "found the one."

While marriages should be happy and undoubtedly fun, these aren't the qualities that make for a good spouse. A Christian spouse should first love God above all (including the spouse), love the spouse next, then the children, then the family, and then everyone else.

Friends, the spouse you choose should love God (more than you). God is top priority, higher than you.

"in all matters one must consider the end" - Jean De LA Fontaine (1621- 1695)

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Thanks For reading friends,

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