nAMES i AM SOMetimeS Called
Ma, Mam, Ma'am, PsychoBitch, DumbCunt, Honey, Baby blows kisses, Sweetie wink, The wild purple-haired lady that seems nice but might lose control, The DontMessageHerOrShellFlagYou Woman, Lose Cannon, FEMINAZI, Fat, Fatty, Fatso, Fatcunt, Fatbitch, Sexy, Darlin, I get a mixed bag of names that highlight the inherent sexism whomever wants my attention.
What is in a name ?
A name is a label. It gives an impression upon the value that a person has placed on you. It tells people what to think of you as far as where you are from, your age, potentially your demeanor. If I called myself Betty Or Brunhilde you would have a completely different perception, I believe. I think im gonna look for research on this.
What if its a name that I don't call myself?
My name is who I am, it is in essence me especially my chosen name.
For a while I have been choosing beautiful names for myself. These are the names that show me respect. If you choose to use them, i will feel happy and honored.
NamEs I CALL mySelf
Smartypants, Cookie, Wild at heart, Young at heart, Her BadassedNess, Cuddly-sized, Curvy, Creative, Funny, Thoughtful, Kitch-Chic, and
Lima Being -- Originally from Lima Beans, my friend used to call everyone things that were in animate objects. One person was lampshade. I was limabean.This guy was a very talented writer and poet and not bad with cartoons. I hope he's out there taking care of himself now but i figure he's probably not. Thanks anyways.
Capn Girlpowa--- Resulting from my obsession with the concept of girl power when I made the server specifically for it, inspired by @kubbyelizabeth
Jacinda Glass --- I used to look like a woman on The Real WOrld named Jacinda so another guy friend gave me that nickname. I loved that name and looking like her. Then i though Jacinda Glass was a nice pun for someone who is very into Alice In Wonderland.
Lisa Marie-- My father named me. I used to hate it. Now im okay.
Today I am writing a post that ends with me affirming myself and the things I love about myself as well as the names I prefer. I hope you find it interesting.
Mentalhealth challenge --- Show us the names that other people call you, even though they are not your names.... then show use the names YOU CALL YOURSELF both literally and figuratively.
I don't think I've been called any bad names, certainly not since school.
I do vaguely recall being called a nerd, as if it's something bad.
The names I've been called are mostly my own. Itai, Francois, Raccah. My first middle and last names.
I've been d00m for a large part of my childhood, after the video game. I've added poet at some point in my teens, when I started writing poetry. I've removed d00m when the teenage angst went away.
I've been known online as poet, poetics, material poetics, poetic matter. The last two were a sort of brand I was trying to build, but I left it behind. I still like it, it's just not really me.
But the most special name of them all, is Aurore. Aurore means dawn in french. I've been saving that name since I first heard it. I never planned to have kids though, so wasn't sure what I was saving it for. Then on January first 2017, I received a latex catsuit with breast forms, and when I put it on, Aurore was born.
I love your post! why? Because during my school times I always changed my name, because I could not identify with my birthname and I had the feeling, that one name is not enough. I chose names from books or music I loved and with every new teacher I told them this new name. They used it up to the next parent-teacher conference, then the fun stopped.
I love to get (nice or funny) nicknames up to date, but I also experienced the ugly side of naming. And I think being called something negative (or with a negative attitude.) Some people called me "Aphrodite" which does not sound hurtful at the first glance, but they named me so, because I looked like the opposite of a Greek sexy goddess: means I had no womanly body, no breasts combined with red hear and a very big nose. While writing it down, it sounds so weak on my side, because there are so much more negative things you could be called - but these people really hated me, and I felt excluded. I think this name calling is so hurtful, because someone is trying to define you and tries to erase (ok, many this is a little exaggerated) your self and self-confidence and everybody can hear it.
So, thank you for this post. I think names and how they define the world is a important topic <3
It all started with 'Eloise' from the tripods (I can't remember her role, only that I wanted the name) then various names from stories followed: Larian, Raven, Mildred... I made role playing games for decades and some of this names also sticked.
Today I am much more modest 😆 and my nicknames mostly are related to my birth name (Simone) like Monetta or Sisi or Mone or to animals (from suricate to naked mole). But I still change names for my art projects.
Who run the world!! Girls
Yeahh....we girls are still undervalued in this blockchain jungle I feel. Loving the fact you are trying to upgrade this!
I always love it when girls have 'dude' as a name for each other hehe
I love this!
Names people call me that I embrace: Appie, Pearl, Auntie (my favorite name), Friend, Bestie, manager, mentor, love, dog whisperer, babe, baby, Pet and Apes.
Names people call me that I choose to ignore: bitch, fatty, fat bitch, boss, boss lady (I particularly loathe this one), and ma’am
Names I call myself: Radass.
Name calling and slut shaming is what we girs have to deal with constantly mamabear!i intend to do an article on slut shamimg with girls talkin abt their experiences!
"Her BadassedNess" is a personal favourite.
I was once in an online group with some friends, and everyone was named something that ended in some variation of "-ness". I believe I was "Batman BananaNess", although I can't for the life of me remember why.
I've seen firsthand (from both sides of the coin, no less) how much a havoc a name can wreak on a person. Thankfully, I've also seen it can be a source of enormous good, and have instead chosen to focus on that as much as possible.
This inspired me to make a post, and I mentioned you in it, I hope that's okay. I also kind of spinned your inspiration for this post, and I hope that's okay too. If it's not, I'll make the necessary adjustments.
This was a pretty good way to start the day, thanks for this.
Bye. 😊
I get Sir, Dude and Bro
and Dear
apparently my name would lend one to picture a guy playing WOW who also blogs on Steem
A lot of these are things ppl call me irl.
Oh wow. This could be a VERY difficult and yet very empowering challenge for me to do. I really REALLY loved reading through this. I'm having a hard time describing it, but it really resonated with me. Like on some sort of soul vibrational level. I hope that doesn't sound weird or stupid.
Seriously, this is so awesome and I don't think I've ever heard anyone really speak on the power behind a name like this. I changed my name at age 18 and still to this day have relatives whom I rarely see, but who will purposefully call me by my old name the second they see me and it has too much power over me...
But... somehow this post makes me feel less bad about that, if that makes any sense. Names have power. This post was awesome. Thank you for sharing.
@byn
Mentalhealth challenge
You left off "dude", I know I have been guilty of that one though I am trying to retrain my brain away from the dude-ness. I usually think of you as "awesome" in my head.
haha I was a trippy, hippy, punk, stoner, teen in the height of dude, man. I don't have a problem with dude or man. I wrote this because I was picking up chinese food on the way home and some drunk guy was like "hey baby" and blowing kisses even after I told him do not call me that. He harrassed me, tried to sit with me, and then blew me kisses after I left with my food.
I was in full winter gear. No makeup.
SO i made myself feel better by reminding myself that those are names someone else puts on me and i dont have to respond to them. And I can request these other names that I like.
David is my name. No one calls me that.
Didi is what most people call me.
didic is what Twitter and Steemit friends call me.
The Dark Establishment is a name I picked for an old website, and darkesta was the LJ version of that. People have called me that, but not in a long time.
My dad recently called me fat. That wasn't fun.
Nerd and geek and every other form of "this is a person who READS" have been derogatory when I was a kid, but are just facts now.
Kike, cuck, libtard have been hurled at me through the internets. That wasn't fun either, but not nearly as anxiety inducing as my dad calling me fat. I care about him. I don't care about them.
Fascist (for being an Israeli) wasn't great.
Bad Ally was pretty crappy. And only happened once. And was retracted. So it turned out okay.
But, mostly? I'm Didi.