Awe thank you @honeydue, you're one of my very special friends here.
I never thought of it that way, but it's so very true, imagine dying without any dreams, awful, such a waste of life!
Hubby was super excited to go to the Netherlands but I took him with, in my heart.
My Mom lived to 90 and even though her last month was an awful suffering, she still had dreams. All the other men, Dad, 2 brothers and my special uncle, died while still active and living life!
Seeing it from your perspective makes me realize it wasn't in vain. Thank you for that💕