My Naija people!! How una dey!
One of the most amazing phases of my life was the year I served my fatherland. I was exposed to a lot of things, and I also got to learn more about life. I met with new people and also faced new challenges.
My experience back then was an interesting one, because I could remember myself bragging so much to my friends while we were in higher institutions that the reason why I didn't have a girlfriend or get into any serious relationship with them was that I was yet to serve, and when I do I will get into a good relationship.
They were all shocked by my response but didn’t take it hard on me, instead, they patiently waited for our service year so they could get me red-handed. And as time flew, the service year came upon us. Then I had to prove them wrong and prove myself right.
From the beginning of our journey to the east, I encountered a lady in the vehicle. I felt she was the calm type and didn’t even speak much. So I admire her beauty and personality. She doesn’t tag around with others that much. She just kept her calm.
I studied her for the days we journeyed and she was still her same self. Others went to sleep in a hotel but she didn’t. I don't know where she slept that day but I was sure she didn’t move with the crowd.
We got to camp, and throughout the camping exercise, she was still the same self. She moves with just a few guys and is not the talkative type. From afar, I would wave to her and greet her. That was all between both of us. But deep down I admired her and hoped someday somehow we could meet again.
I don't even know how it would happen. But I felt her presence in my life was just like an illusion that would fade away. My friends who were crazily unserious started pressuring me about my promises. I told them I already got someone but I don't think anything can work out between us.
With God so good, when we were about to end the camp, I realized she wasn’t redeploying to another state, and so was I. I felt at ease a little that the probability of getting in touch with her was within a close range. So I was happy.
When we got our letters to our place of assignment, I couldn't ask where she was posted, I didn't get her number, I just left everything to fate. If we are bound to be together, I believe our paths will cross each other again. And then the camp session ended as we all went our ways.
I reported to my place of primary assignment, and after all of my documentation, I was about to travel back home, then one morning I saw her come out from the lodge where I was posted too. Wow! At this point, I couldn’t resist any longer. I was overwhelmed with joy just seeing her.
Then afterward, we discussed for the first time, since we were new there and at least knew each other somehow. Still better than trying to mingle with strangers. I didn’t miss the opportunity to have her phone number. Mission accomplished.
The happiness in me made me extend my travel date just to wait for her. At the end of it all, we departed differently because she was traveling a different route from mine.
We spend our holidays, and I have been trying to build a relationship before the next time we see each other. I wasn’t so quick to express my feelings for her. But just building a strong connection between us.
Finally after resumption. I had the advantage of seeing her almost every day. We have verbal conversations occasionally, but our chats have it all. After I knew much about her she also got to know a lot about me. One day our discussion went the wrong way.
I asked her a question about her marital life with her husband. She wanted a soft life like every other lady would wish for. Then I asked what if things changed and the soft life was no more? How will she cope?
I gave an example that if she gets married and the condition warrants her to fetch water from a well and not the easy borehole water system. Can she adjust to the changes?
She said NO! That she can't live such a life with a man. Indirectly I began to think around her words and see myself in the shoes of her husband. So this is who I want to marry?
I pitied my future self and decided to end the relationship with her. She didn’t know my reason to date. But in the long run, I thought about it and realized that it was just so silly of me to have ended our relationship because of that.
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What if that's who she truly is? A lot of things in life can't be predicted and some unfavorable changes can occur that would require us adjusting.
What if she can't? Some problems are better avoided now than in the future but it might be a joke. She might be a better person than she presented herself.
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There might be more to what she said. To me I understood what she said as... she can't manage with a man, she wants a made man. Well, who doesn't want a soft life ?
But, it sounds so weird when a lady doesn't want to build a life with a man and prefers a man who appears succesful already.
I wonder oo. You know the funniest thing was that in the lodge we reside then as corpers. We don’t have running water. We always outsource water from a distance and she did that for the whole year 😂
Oh wow. It was a good thing that you saw that red flag very early.
Yes ooo. Haaa. She can’t fetch water? What if gen spoil and we don’t have light. 😂. I will be the one to go and fetch water 😂
Thank God you saw that already. She can't adjust when situations aren't fun and easy.
🤣🤣🤣 I can't hold myself I mean what did I just read, why did you ask her that question why, just like that feeling was gone no na!!!
😂. I can ask anything 😂. This is going to be US forever oo. Lol. One wrong step and I am gone forever
I will come back to this.
Hahah. Why? 😂
Ok I dun come, so you were using poverty to test somebody's daughter?? in this 21st century???
But on a more serious note, you can't conclude on the type of person that she is when you have actually not dated her.
One thing I know for a fact is that sane women always reciprocate love and kindness shown to them.
She might say now that she can't put up with a man at his lowest, but if that man contributed to her growth and success?? Trust me she will stick to you in whatever condition be it the good, bad and ugly.
You have really come indeed ooo. 😂 and you are welcome. Lol.
Is it prohibited to test with stuff like that? God self do test us with anything. So let me too just try small. 😂. Wasn’t really intentional. But make I prepare for the worse too.
You are right about that though. The presentation really matters and goes a long way. I pray to have a good woman who will understand and love me as much as I do for her.
It is haram to test with such my dear.
One relationship hack is to always pay attention to your partner's actions not their words.
Haram? 😂. My bad. Am sorry to my unknown partner then because I might test her a lot 😂. And she is free to test me too.
Yeah. Action speaks. So I think i shouldn’t even listen to her words thanks for the hack 👍
If she test you too, relationship go scatter o 😅.