We live in a world where everyone wants to be heard. Open any social media page, and you’ll find people shouting their opinions, arguing back and forth, but very few really listen. Over time, I’ve realized that understanding someone first is often the best way to solve problems, build trust, and even get your own point across.
I remember one time at work when this lesson hit me hard. A coworker and I were stuck on a project. He wanted to take one approach, I wanted another. We’d sit in meetings, talking over each other, defending our ideas, and walking away frustrated every time. Nothing moved forward.
One day, instead of jumping in with my argument, I asked her to explain her plan fully. I sat quietly, took notes, and asked questions only to understand , not to attack. For the first time, she didn’t get defensive. When she finished, I repeated what I understood, and she actually smiled. Then, she asked about my idea, and for the first time, she truly listened back.
At the very end ,our ideas were both combined and we came up with something better than if we had done it alone.
This same mindset works at home too. Imagine your child comes home upset about something at school. Many parents jump straight to advice or scolding. But what if you just listen? Let them pour it all out.
When you ask questions,you show them that you really understood what they are saying.
It builds a bridge. Only then will they trust your advice.
Listening first is simple, but it takes discipline. Next time you’re in a disagreement, pause. Don’t plan your reply while the other person is talking. Really hear them out. Say back what you heard to be sure you got it right. Most times, people don’t even want you to fix their problem ,they want to feel heard.
When you truly understand others, they’re more open to understanding you.
This is a small habit,but it has the ability to strengthen your friendship and family bonds.
Many parents need to learn to give their children listening ears, the fact that they don't listen to their kids is why we have many bullies getting away with what they do as kids cannot open up to a parent who does not listen.
You are right my dear , some parents also create an image that makes the kids to be afraid of then thereby leading to lack of connections between parents and children
Such a powerful reminder! Listening with the intent to understand, not to reply, truly does transform communication—both at work and at home.
Active listening help solve a lot of issues we are facing in this time, a lot of time conflicts comes and this can make things easier
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STOPThis is a very good and powerful content..
Listen to understand, it is unfortunate that many of us today, listen just to make comments or reply...