When we are faced with a conflict we have the option to see it as a problem, then we will be faced with a problem. However, we can see the situation as a lesson that life offers us. In this case we will be in front of a master. When properly harnessed, the result will bring personal transformations and an inevitable evolution.
At that time I fled from that responsibility, alleging injustice, wickedness and betrayal by all those people who were in my life. But if I had not acted driven by vanity and pride, there would not have been the conflicts, nor the fall and precipices on which I found myself. The trap would be harmless and its evil would be consumed in itself.
The silence of humility speaks louder than the cries of pride; the light of simplicity has an infinitely greater and more enduring reach than the glare of vanity. In short, if there was conflict it was because I created it; if there was a fall it was because I threw myself over the precipice; if there was frustration on my path, in this case, it was because I used inadequate instruments to move forward correctly. There is no evolution without the exercise of virtues; there is no victory without the light.
As long as I refused to see myself in the mirror of truth, lost for not understanding my strength and weakness, I would be imprisoned in the cell of my own victimization. Without pride and vanity as my counselors, none of this would have happened. If I see myself as a victim of the evil of others, I could not move forward or transmute the pain.
What is most interesting is that we are conditioned to use pride and vanity to feel strong when, in fact, it is exactly these shadows that make us fragile. It was exactly at that moment, feeling powerful, that some people imprisoned me. What defeated me was not their evil, but my own shadows. My weakness was my illusion of strength. Understanding this, with love and wisdom, is the first step in transforming and strengthening myself for the days ahead.
In the same way it is the case with offenses. We can only offend those who, puffed up by the vulgar shadows of pride and vanity, they think they are better than others, they think that respect comes from others and not from the knowledge that one has of oneself.
Those whom I considered friends, deceived me with the skillful game of shadows. The deception was only possible because I wanted to believe it, doing good to my ego which, in that situation, showed itself to be misaligned. Believing myself to be strong, I showed myself to be vulnerable. It is not necessary to walk between the borders of infantilism and radicalism. Not all praise is sincere and not all criticism is fair.
When we understand who we are, we have already developed good levels of humility, simplicity, compassion and sincerity. Thus, we are able to discern the value contained in every word that is addressed to us; taking advantage of the loving content, dispensing the fruits of ignorance.
I realized that both I and those I have had in my small social circle were advised by the same shadows. All were driven by pride and vanity, each in his own way. It was the Law of Affinity that brought them together and enveloped them. This makes me more like them than I would like at the moment. However, it can also help me.
Their shadows allowed me to discover how involved I am with my own. This makes it possible, if I work in this direction, to transmute pride into humility and vanity into simplicity in order to move forward. To all of them I give thanks because, although involuntarily, through the shadows they were messengers of light. It is the precipice that allows us to discover the value of learning to fly.
Forgiveness is the enlightened ending of all stories because it frees the characters involved in the plot. Moreover, forgiveness heals the evil that corrodes us. Forgiveness is paramount to fly higher, not only by unmooring us from the ground or by making us lighter by freeing us from the useless baggage we insist on carrying, but mainly for making us understand the perfect size of our wings.
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Excelente post. El perdón nos hace libres a nosotros mismos, eso me gustó. Y no te creas, no es fácil perdonar. Nuestra humanidad no lo permite así no más. Me alegro que estés en ese camino de luz y entendimiento. excelente post, gracias por compartirlo.
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This is GREAT and so important. I think a lot of people struggle with this. Personally, I have had many self esteem issues, but I think I do respect myself. I will walk away when I'm being treated badly, for instance, and I don't generally give in to peer pressure. Often that means I have been lonely, but I do think it feels better to respect myself and feel lonely sometimes than to accept mistreatment just for company.
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