Spending money on women is an act a man always finds himself having to accept to do or not.
In most societies, you'd simply have a female friend and she's expecting more monetary favours from you than she would expect from her female friends.
You date a girl and she's thinking you should help with her bills from time to time, get her food, get her gifts, etc.
You marry...
As a man, it's very common, except you're someone who avoids females entirely, or you're lucky to have less demanding females around you or something.
Of course we know all of these is because of patriarchy and in some societies patriarchy has waned more than other societies. The societies where patriarchy has a stronger hold these things are way worse!
Now What Are the Sane Rules you Should Follow as a Man?
It's very simple, actually. Only give to females who don't mind giving to you too.
Say you meet a girl and you want to go on the first date, it's not so bad if you pay for the date or get her gifts or anything during the begining stages of your relationship. But after a while it should become clear if she is someone who doesn't mind giving to you and getting you stuff too.
She'll show this, most likely after a short while of getting to know her.
But if after getting to know her it becomes clear that she's a girl who doesn't think she's supposed to give a man anything even though the man gives to her, then you should dump her or never get serious with her and never give her anything anymore.
Because why should you be giving something to someone who thinks they're not supposed to give you stuff too? Isn't that the dumbest thing ever?
How could you be friends or partners with someone, you buy them things, you're kind to them but they never get you anything?
People who want to only be at the receiving end should have no space in your life.
But if you're buying things for them and doing your part to be a sweetheart, and they reciprocate, you guys are in mutual love, look out for each other, and try to show each other as much love as possible then that is a keeper. That is someone you want to have and want to spoil with your love for as long as possible, why? Because they also love you and want to spoil you with their love!
It's as simple as that.
She doesn't have to be rich, but from the little she has she can also show you love if she cares. Also from conversations you can also find out if she thinks she's supposed to be a receiver and not care about giving.
A lot of women, in so many societies, have been conditioned to only be at the receiving end of gifts and expenditure, that even if they have money it doesn't cross their mind to get anything for their men even when their men are getting things for them.
Some of them would even tell you they can't get shit for a man. That's okay if the man is the type to not get shit for her either, but when it comes to a man that gets her things, if she says something like that she's the exact woman you want to avoid.
Apart from a good mutual relationship like this the only other option open to a spending man is somewhat like the relationship between a sex worker and a client, it's more like purchasing services, and certainly every man can decide for himself if he wants to purchase services or not.
But when you're purchasing you should never forget that you're just a customer.
The End
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You're a misogynist. See your comments below.
"Only give to females who don't mind giving to you too"
(You're egotistical and materialistic)
"if after getting to know her it becomes clear that she's a girl who doesn't think she's supposed to give a man anything even though the man gives to her, then you should dump her"
(You're entitled and selfish)
"But if you're buying things for them and doing your part to be a sweetheart, and they reciprocate, you guys are in mutual love"
(You have a warped sense of love)
"A lot of women, in so many societies, have been conditioned to only be at the receiving end of gifts and expenditure"
(A truly misogynistic comment)
"Apart from a good mutual relationship like this the only other option open to a spending man is somewhat like the relationship between a sex worker and a client, it's more like purchasing services"
(Fucken hell, are you serious?)
This post of yours is a clear example that you are clueless and I'm not at all surprised. It's people like you who give men a bad name although I assume this sort of behaviour and ethos is typical over your way as it's not the first time I've read such rubbish. You should be ashamed of yourself.
You made claims without making any argument to support your claims. You said, this is white, that is black, that is red, without saying why you think (an argument) that is white/black/red.
When you say something is something it should be backed with a reason why or else your claims cannot stand.
For example these are the reasons backing what I said, what could be wrong with these? On the alternative are you saying it is better to keep giving to someone who thinks they are not supposed to give to you and who thinks they are only supposed to be on the receiving end and have a one-sided relationship with you?
Look what I said here:
Clearly I'm saying there's nothing wrong with being the one who started giving and showing the love, but if after a while it turns out the recipient of the love only cares about receiving and never reciprocating the love then it is a huge problem.
What could you have against this?
Once again:
On the alternative are you saying it is better to keep giving to someone who thinks they are not supposed to give to you and who thinks they are only supposed to be on the receiving end and have a one-sided relationship with you?