Embracing the New

in ecoTrain2 years ago

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Trying new things can be scary. Are they good for my health? Are they useful? Beautiful? Worthwhile? These are some of the value judgments that we often go through before finally deciding whether we want to experience novelty or stay as we are. And sometimes it's actually very wise to stay where we are, no doubt, but since we're here in this world to feel and grow, we can't let the fear define our course of action. Yes, we should avoid jumping into a jungle alone with no survival toolkit if we can, but if we find ourselves in such a situation, we have to make quick work of accepting it so we can learn and evolve. Paralysis is death against the predator, and we're seeing the many faces of that predator now like never before, aren't we? The system of deception that we've all created and enforced for millennia can no longer conceal the truth. We see the tooth and the claw, where do we go?

We go where the weapons and the hatred hold no sway, because they depend on resentment and anger to operate. We go where the predator can't hide, right in the middle of the spotlight, a land unknown to the beasts of night. By facing our own fear of exposure, we can expose the dread and disarm it, not only to get it out of our way but also to learn from it. We can only do that if we embrace the new and are willing to let go of the defense mechanisms and the customs that stop our expansion.

@EcoTrain's QotW is about habits, patterns of behavior that may help us by increasing our peace and discipline, or hinder us by diminishing our independence. One of the most pervasive habits that I've had to get rid of was the tendency to judge other people's actions and interfere with their processes directly or indirectly by imposing my opinions; to do this, I had to realize that I was actually expressing unhappiness with aspects of myself through criticism, suppression and complaint, meaning that I was holding myself back from exploring a different point of view. That doesn't mean that I like everything now, that I'm willing to do anything, I've just become much more assertive in how I manage my energy, the people with whom I share it and the places where I use it. What I don't do is refuse offers without a reason, I always give myself the opportunity to empathize, to change perspectives. It wasn't easy but it's part of my daily life now.

Another much more subtle habit that I've had to alchemize, especially in recent months, is the false modesty of keeping myself small before others. Failing to recognize my rank and authority isn't a form of humility, but a sophisticated form of vanity, a holier-than-thou attitude based on insecurity that actually limits my capacity to do my service properly. If I don't recognize what I can do and keep my talents to myself, I'm not fulfilling my task, that's not something to be proud of and it doesn't even feel good, it seeps joy out of living. Conversely, accepting the awards of my effort brings me greater understanding and precision, broadening my prospects and empowering my choices.

These are only two examples out of many, but I think they illustrate the point very well. Whatever keeps us from finding new meaning, fostering new thoughts and building new connections, is a pattern that we have to disassemble. In this dual world, difference brings noise if we resist it and growth if we accept it. We have to get into the habit of reviewing what we do and don't do, identify the triggers and consequences of our movement and passivity. This is especially important with conducts that we deem positive or correct. Tradition and convention have their uses, routines provide a sense of stability, but the nature of this Universe is constant change, rejecting this inevitably leads to suffering.

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Mannaz inverted. Impediment, Adaptation, Reach

Stuck mechanisms, blocked routes; a simple but important procedure is being held back by the tiniest of obstructions. Pay minute attention to the working of the gears, the pattern of noise in any process, and you shall find the resistance. You must remain in movement, increase your speed and agility; the territory becomes steep, difficult to transit, but if you choose to learn you may experience great progress in a very short time. If you build bridges in your mind, you build them in your life; allow yourself to get to other spheres, expand your range of action, stagnation and specialization go against basic survival. Recognize and use your reach, do not restrict your options, you may have to suddenly change course or channel. Do not go where you have not been invited nor stay where you do not feel welcome.

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Wow! Your messages - and the words you choose to convey them - are becoming more and more powerful. There's so much I can relate to here, that I don't even know where to start.

It's amazing to be a member of your audience and - even more than that - only a step away from actually connecting with you, no matter the 'physical' distance.

Abraço

Thank you so, so much, my friend! This is highly encouraging and inspiring to me. I plan to travel to Europe as soon as I'm able and I'll make it a point to drop by Portugal to meet up with you! Blessings!

I'm sure it would be amazing to meet up with you in real life :<)

 2 years ago  

Interesting post! There are different human beings with different opinions and perspective and if we allow ourselves resist such opportunity to learn from them, we can never grow and such habit must be disassembled. We learn each day as we grow and it's important we see other people's differences and accept them. Thanks for sharing.

Indeed, accepting and appreciating difference is essential, especially for collective growth. Thank you so much for your comment!

 2 years ago  

Another much more subtle habit that I've had to alchemize, especially in recent months, is the false modesty of keeping myself small before others.

I do this a lot, the truth is mine stems from my fear of failure. I am someone who lay emphasis on my incapabilities and this is because I do not want to wrongly measure my capacity. Sometimes in life, I have had people tell me that I'm good with doing something, even if I know that I'm capable of that thing, you sometimes I allow my fear of failure belittle me. I grew up in a society where people focus on what's wrong with you rather what isn't wrong with you. They lay emphasis to your weaknesses and it was why I grew up thinking so little of myself.

@tipu curate for your efforts

Thank you very much for your comment and the vote, man! Yes, it's a hard habit to dismantle, especially if we're inducted to it an early age, because the way society works cements those attitudes toward ourselves to such an extent that they persuade us that this is part of our identity and not a perspective that can be changed.

There's a lot I could comment on here, very interesting, as always. Thank you for sharing 🌸

This really made me stop and think:

Another much more subtle habit that I've had to alchemize, especially in recent months, is the false modesty of keeping myself small before others. Failing to recognize my rank and authority isn't a form of humility, but a sophisticated form of vanity, a holier-than-thou attitude based on insecurity that actually limits my capacity to do my service properly.

I tend to keep myself small a lot too. I haven't made this connection and I have to contemplate more if this feels true for me. But I struggle a lot at the moment when it comes to expressing myself. I tend to second-guess myself a lot. I don't really recognize myself, to be honest. It's been a rather regressive journey lately, or at least it feels like that. So I can see that keeping myself small is based on insecurity somehow. Mostly in the sense that I have kind of lost my purpose. But I don't want to come across as too pessimistic, I never know when things will turn around 🙂

Blessings to you 🌻

Thank you for your comment, dear! Yes, that's a tricky thing, because we're told almost from birth that we should never stand out too much which, coupled with all the other ways that our opinions are diminished when we're younger, creates the conviction that we're really not that important. It's really hard to work through that.

For what it's worth, I've always seen you as a truly remarkable person even though I don't know you too well. I think you live in Light and spread kindness, and that's beautiful!

Thank you, that means a lot to me to hear from you 💚

Kindness is actually something I have started to question lately. I’m not sure I can call myself a kind person and feel that it’s really true. But it’s still something I aspire to be but I fail sometimes.

Your message has been received wise one 💯.

You're a wonderful writer ✔️

Much obliged! Thank you so much for those words!

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