ANGER & SILENT TREATMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP

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Hello everyone and welcome to my blog at this hour. It is not always a good time when you notice that your partner is very angry about something and the only thing on your mind is how to make them feel better and come back to their normal self. However, it can become a daunting challenge for you when your partner who is typically jovial and lively retreats into his or her shell without stating the reasons for their mood. It can become more worrying when all they say is "nothing" when you ask what the problem is. Well, sit back, relax and enjoy all that I have packaged for your reading pleasure.
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It is not easy to communicate with a partner who is unresponsive because you cannot possibly force him or her to speak and this makes a one-sided communication sort of discouraging, confusing and annoying, so to speak. A lot of thoughts would be going through your mind at this time. You'd wonder if you are taking the issue too seriously or if it is actually what you think. You start to wonder why your partner is refusing to have breakfast - is he truly going through a lot at work? When he turns down your advances in the house, you may feel like he might have been exhausted from the day's work and all he needed is to rest.

Now, when you look back and realize that it has been a long time you last had a decent conversation with your partner or ate together happily at the dinning table or even sit down to see a movie together, or the little kisses and pecks you both share randomly are not forthcoming, then it could be a sign that something is wrong somewhere and it needs urgent attention. It is possible that he or she is upset when they turn down every of your attempts to initiate and execute a couple moment with excuses that do not hold water.
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Another sign that your partner is upset about something is when your communication is not the way it used to be. It can be painful when you barely talk up to three minutes with someone who you could spend the whole day speaking to on the phone during work hours via video or audio calls to the extent that you argue on who should end the call first. When you notice that one on one conversation, texting and calling between you and your partner is becoming strained, you need to ask questions.

Your partner may choose to be uncommunivative when they are upset about something and may decide not to talk about it with you yet. It is important to exercise patience with them at this time until they are able to put their thoughts and feelings together. There are some people who prefer not to talk when they are upset to avoid conflicts. However, it is unhealthy for couples not to discuss about their relationship issues with each other as soon as they arise as it could lead to resentment. Some conflicts are highly necessary for the growth of the relationship.
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In situations where your partner is giving you silent treatment and refusing to talk about what is happening to them, you might be tempted to give them the same vibe and swell up in anger. This is an attitude that will worsen the situation between the two of you. It is better to speak up and let them know how you feel by having a conversation about the whole issue. In all of these you must be considerate with your partner and try to manage your emotions. Speak to them in a manner that they will be comfortable to open up to you. It could be a hard task to communicate our your emotions clearly when you are going through a difficult time - be patient and compassionate with them.

All contents are originally written by me, @williams-owb

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Williams Oluseyi is a Linguist by discipline from one Africa's Most Prestigious Citadel of Learning, Obafemi Awolowo University. He developed interest for blogging at very early stage which motivated him to study English Language in College. He is a prolific writer, an inquisitive and judicious reader, to say the least. To get his daily bread, he is currently working in a Logistics company in Nigeria.
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Being silent while upset with a partner ain't the best way to approach issues
You just cleaed the air @williams-owb
Keep it up bro ✊

Relationship also come with it issue just like the one you focused on in this writup...how we handle it matters alot and am glad you were able to spell out ways on how to handle them. Thanks for sharing.