¡Hola chicas hermosas de LOH!
Es un placer para mí participar en la iniciativa semanal de esta gran comunidad, en su edición 225, en la que abordaré la siguiente pregunta:
Hello beautiful LOH girls!
It is my pleasure to participate in this great community's weekly issue 225 initiative, in which I will address the following question:
2️⃣ ¿Cuáles son los límites personales que considera importante mantener en una relación? ¿Qué opinas de la independencia y la unión en una relación?
2️⃣ What are some personal boundaries that you feel are important to uphold in a relationship? And what are your feelings around independence and togetherness in a relationship?
Soy del tipo de personas a las que no les gusta que invadan su espacio, normalmente no invito personas a mi casa y evito comprometerme con los demás, porque me gusta tener, en lo posible, tiempo para mí.
Hace algunos años, vivía sobre-comprometida, mi agenda estaba siempre full de todo tipo de compromisos, al punto que me enfermé. Ahora, marco límites y sólo quiero que mi tiempo libre, sea mío y usarlo como quiera.
Entonces, sea cual sea la relación, no pude ser invasiva ni controladora.
No tolero que alguien me diga lo que debo o no hacer y no es que no acepte sugerencias y no escuche ideas, es simplemente que no acepto las imposiciones. Aunque esté en una relación, soy una persona pensante y capaz de tomar mis propias decisiones.
Desde hace mucho dejé de ser una princesa a la que rescatar, creo que con los años, los seres humanos nos volvemos más independientes y a medida que vamos superando obstáculos, nos damos cuenta de lo que somos capaces y eso nos genera seguridad.
I am the type of person who does not like people invading my space, I normally do not invite people to my house and I avoid getting involved with others, because I like to have, as much as possible, time for myself.
A few years ago, I lived over-committed, my agenda was always full of all kinds of commitments, to the point that I got sick. Now, I set limits and I just want my free time to be mine and use it as I want.
So, whatever the relationship, I could not be invasive or controlling.
I don't tolerate someone telling me what I should or shouldn't do and it's not that I don't take suggestions and don't listen to ideas, it's just that I don't accept impositions. Even if I am in a relationship, I am a thinking person and capable of making my own decisions.
I have long ceased to be a princess to be rescued, I think that over the years, human beings become more independent and as we overcome obstacles, we realize what we are capable of and that generates security.
Creo que en una relación debe existir el respeto mutuo y no debe perderse la individualidad, porque somos dos personas que nos unimos porque tenemos sentimientos y propósitos en común; pero contrario a lo que algunos dicen en ocasiones, no somos uno, seguimos siendo dos, dos que remamos en una misma dirección y construimos una vida juntos.
Tampoco es que pienso que cada uno debe ir por su lado, por mi parte, intento un consenso en las decisiones, y la estrategia que utilizo cuando hay un desacuerdo, es que si lo que estamos discutiendo no me afecta, lo dejo ganar a él, así tengo margen de negociación para otras ocasiones.
Aún así, no siempre estamos de acuerdo, pero si algo es realmente importante para mí, lo hago aunque mi esposo piense que no debería. Hasta ahora eso me ha funcionado bien, porque cuando voy contra el mundo por algo, es porque lo he pensado concienzudamente y los resultados han sido satisfactorios.
I believe that in a relationship there should be mutual respect and individuality should not be lost, because we are two people who come together because we have feelings and purposes in common; but contrary to what some people sometimes say, we are not one, we are still two, two who row in the same direction and build a life together.
It is not that I think that each one should go his own way, for my part, I try to reach a consensus on decisions, and the strategy I use when there is a disagreement, is that if what we are discussing does not affect me, I let him win, so I have room for negotiation for other occasions.
Even then, we don't always agree, but if something is really important to me, I do it even if my husband thinks it shouldn't. So far that has worked well for me, because when I go against the world for something, it's because I've thought it through and the results have been satisfactory.
Tampoco soy mujer de perseguir a mi marido, revisarle el teléfono, interrogarlo, ni nada de eso. Además de respeto, debe existir la confianza entre ambos. la confianza es una decisión, yo decido confiar en él, si el fallara a sus votos, es su responsabilidad y no habría nada que yo pudiera hacer contra eso.
Yo elijo cada día vivir junto a él, respetarlo y honrar nuestro matrimonio. Espero lo mismo de mi esposo y mientras no se demuestre lo contrario, sigo confiando en la promesa de amarnos, cuidarnos y respetarnos que nos hicimos en el altar. Eso me permite vivir en paz y no nada vale que yo renuncie a ella.
Para mí, una relación sin confianza, no tiene sentido, preferiría estar sola.
I am also not a woman to chase my husband, check his phone, interrogate him, or anything like that. Besides respect, there must be trust between the two of us. Trust is a decision, I choose to trust him, if he should fail his vows, it is his responsibility and there is nothing I can do about it.
I choose every day to live with him, respect him and honor our marriage. I expect the same from my husband and until proven otherwise, I continue to trust in the promise to love, care for and respect each other that we made at the altar. That allows me to live in peace and it is not worth anything for me to give it up.
For me, a relationship without trust makes no sense, I would rather be alone.
Hasta aquí mi participación amig@s, manténganse a salvo y sean felices, tanto como puedan.
So much for my participation friends, stay safe and be happy, as much as you can.
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Your perspective on boundaries, respect, and trust in relationships is both thoughtful and empowering, @syllem. It’s clear that you’ve taken important steps to ensure your own well-being and maintain healthy dynamics with those around you. Your experiences have taught you the value of setting limits and prioritizing your own needs, which is essential for personal growth and happiness.
Your approach to relationships, emphasizing mutual respect and individuality, resonates strongly. The idea that two people come together with shared feelings and purposes while maintaining their own identities is crucial for a balanced and fulfilling partnership. Your strategy for handling disagreements and your commitment to trust and respect are admirable and contribute to the strength of your relationship.
It’s wonderful to see how you’ve learned to navigate these complexities and create a harmonious and respectful environment for yourself and your loved ones. Your story serves as an inspiring example of the importance of boundaries and the power of trust in building lasting connections.
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I think that a common mistake in relationships is when one of the two loses their identity, trying to please the other, then, with the passage of time, you are no longer the person the other fell in love with and little by little cracks open up, which if not seen in time, can cause a breakup. When you become someone else's shadow, you lose their respect and admiration.
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Es cierto que el respeto y la confianza son la base de toda relación.
Excelente tu post.
No concibo una relación sin esos ingredientes que me regalan paz.
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