There is no middle ground...

It's never too late to start prioritizing and building the life we really want. Sometimes we get so used to putting others first, that we forget our own happiness. But I know if we can change that story.

Because there is no middle ground between justice and lies.

Everyone has their needs and desires and we can all be mature enough to let go of those who do not want to work, be friends or be a partner of one.

That being said....

Living implies being the protagonist of our own life, the director of our own biography. Let's not give that power to others or take on secondary roles in our own life.

When we have our self-esteem screwed up and look like very good people in front of others, in reality that sacrifice is a self-esteem problem because we are looking for them to love us through sacrifice, humiliating us or keeping quiet in deeply unworthy situations.

In other words, to leave one's life for another, when it is not necessary, producing an act of humiliation. It's one thing to give one's life for a loved one, for children, or for a certain element considered by us fundamental in our personal existence, and it's another thing to sacrifice oneself for the whole world, or to be assuming the emotional responsibility of others, depending on whether they love us, love us, approve of us or, what's worse, not to feel guilty.

It is that there are many manipulative people and that, from there, makes one try or do things for them, of course also us through sacrificing ourselves for others, we could also be manipulating love and acceptance towards us.

This type of manipulation is passive, and often aggressive.

What do I mean by this?

Simple, that to the extent that we can decide where we sacrifice ourselves and where NOT, well, to that extent we will be responsible for our happiness and for really being who we are.

A few days ago I told one of my children, the youngest one specifically "my love you must have self-love, always put yourself first in everything, think about your future that however we get ahead", never stop working for your own goals".

The worst thing we can do is "take out one eye so that another can see, this is valid for everyone"... This is undoubtedly a great selfishness on our part.

Personally I believe in helping others efficiently, but not doing it from sacrifice and suffering, that noooo!!! And many times trying to do it has a high price, besides it is exhausting and frustrating.

I've stopped thinking that I have to meet people, leaving me aside and de lonque really makes me happy.

Janitze.🌷❣️