I Got Engaged!

in Reflections9 months ago (edited)

ENGAGED!

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not the most glamorous photo but it was in the moment

No I haven't gone mad, there is a woman out there who doesn't actually find me insufferable and ugly, so I asked her to marry me, and on that moonlit night, she said yes!

The details of the event are temporarily a little under wraps and I'll surely open up about it here in the future, but suffice (it) to say, it didn't go quite as planned, but it was, in the end, a romantically successful endeavour.

It took me 36 friggin' years to lock in the soulmate of my dreams, probably because I'm annoying, but also because I refused to compromise or 'settle for less'.

Good things come to those who wait

I like to think of it as simply skipping the first failed marriage which the majority of the western world suffers through, and landing on the right one first time.

Life up to this point, as for most people I suppose, has been quite a challenge, in terms of money, career, social, romantic, family and health. but after all that, the second she said 'yes', it just felt like...

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The game is far from over, but this save point is solid, and the rest of the game is gonna be so much more fun playing with the love of my life by my side the whole way.

Can't wait!

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Take a closer look

Since my girlfriend-now-fiancé is a professional designer, it was a pain in the arse to find the confidence that I had gotten a style she would love.

In short, I was looking for a theme of minimalism, modern, non-traditional (as solitaire setting would be), and not too dainty and overly princess-like-effeminate. In short, after some sneaky subtle questions over many weeks, I went with platinum & diamond in a new-fangled 'tension setting' technology, where huge forces from the platinum setting pushes against the sides of the diamond, locking it in place allowing the entire diamond to be visible, almost floating in mid-air.

This is what I landed on:

All three diamonds floating there with a sparkle that I couldn't possibly capture on video. I'm much too poor historically to have ever seen a diamond before, so I was totally mesmerised. Still am, every time I see it. It's quite addictive to stare at with all that diamond real estate.

Pair this ring with easily the most expensive vacation I've ever spent money on (to be blogged about in the future), and I got myself the wife I almost certainly would have gotten even if I handed over a plastic ring in a McDonald's. But hey, worth every effort.

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Congrats!

Haha thanks!

It took me 36 friggin' years to lock in the soulmate of my dreams, probably because I'm annoying

Felt.

Blink three times if she's hurting you.

After 12(ish) years, mine has finally broken me down into the marriage game. It's so incredibly expensive.

haha, actually I'm clearly the one more into the idea of marriage, and neither of us are that into the idea of the big wedding stuff which, to me, just seems extremely uncomfortable given how I have basically zero family or friends to show off to about it.

Better to just buy a ring, sign the legal forms for like 20 bucks and enjoy a bargain honeymoon!

I fucking wish. Maybe if I hit mine over the head with a rock enough, she'll agree with me. That's a method I haven't tried. I am into the sign the papers and honeymoon plan. She wants the princess "you better do it because I've waited 12 years for this" wedding.

Hahah your marriage sounds like it's gonna have a lot of character. Starting to make mine sound dull. Too amicable heh

I was like "hey we don't even like each other, why are we doing this?"

A lot of the "tension" comes from the fact that we never get to see each other. Conflicting schedules and waaaaay overbooked on my end. Whenever we do spend time together we get along alright.

She's still stubborn though (as am I).

Every time one of our kids are being a demon I say, "man, they're acting just like you right now."

Haha, I dunno, sounds like healthy conflict to me - other than the 'never get to see each other' part. I suppose if it's temporary and necessary for a year or handful, its ok. But wouldn't want it to become the status quo.

Traditionally marriage is really a pledge of commitment to your children so, you got that much right!

I have never actually heard that before. It's temporary in theory. Seems like it's taking longer than has supposed to. In any case, I'm happy for you man. I wish you and the soon to be wife many good years together.

Congratulations Bro! May the almighty God bless this engagement.

Thanks for clicking in!

Congrats!

Thanks!

Congratulations!😊

Thanks! A rare comment from fredrikaa! There's a nice wedding gift heh

Congratulations 😊

Cheers!

Well done!

It's still medium-rare right now, but we'll see what the future holds!

Oh, and the ring is really nice. Good choice on the platinum. I did the same, the only problem being that the wedding ring and the "baby ring" had to be diamond and platinum too ;)

I had no idea there was a ring for babies too!

Yeah the problem with such hard metals is you can't wear gold rings on the same finger cause it'll get wrecked. But she doesn't wear rings anyway so it's all good heh

Sounds like something is cooking in the oven.

Congrats and definitely a super nice touch to go for the floating diamond looks.

Thanks, glad you like! For the same budget I could have gone classical solitaire style with fancy decor but... yeah, just didn't feel right. A bit cliche or something I dunno.

In the end, its what pleases the eyes. Perhaps you have to look at this ring more than your wife-to-be 😉

Muchas felicidades. Los seres humanos somos gregarios y en algún momento debemos acompañar y acompañarnos por una buena mujer. La base de toda esa nueva experiencia es el respeto mutuo. Yo llevo 44 años de matrimonio y esa ha sido la clave. Es un sacrificio leve a nuestra libertad individual que vale la pena. Saludos desde Venezuela. aliriera

wow a long time! I'm too old now, i'll probably be dead after 44 years X(

I think we have to make small sacrifices whichever life we choose, so I don't see it that way. I see it like carving a third path together, one that goes away from both original paths, but leads to somewhere much better!

I hope that metaphor can be translated haha

Seguro que van a ser felices. Sigan su corazones. aliriera

I missed the post, and thus the announcement. It's really, really nice to see someone find happiness. You two look wonderful together.

As for the ring, it is beautiful but I told my husband to skip that part. I loss things all the time and didn't need that pressure.

Truly, I am happy for you, @mobbs. Congrats to you and the lovely lady.

Thanks! Apparently we've already looked like we were gonna be forever for a long time.

I wouldn't be too bothered if she lost or broke the ring, despite the price... for me it was more a symbolic gesture that I had to prove to myself, that I was ready, that I understood who she was and what she liked, and I was able to financially support our future (even though she earns more than me lol).

I think it will spend 99% of its lifetime with us safely in a box though haha. I'm looking forward to the wedding band but like you, I'm a klutz, I must lose my phone at least 17 times per day -__-

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