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Reality is very harsh and no one's responsible for that solely. Collectively each and every individual might have contributed to it, but the truth is that there's a grander scheme that's responsible for the harshness of reality and that's even too wide for the mind of a human to fathom. Personally I'm an advocate of facing reality and standing for the truth that reality brings because Irrespective of how much we cower in denial, it doesn't really change anything. That's why we need to look at life in a broader perspective rather than only thinking that what's right by your standard us actually what's universally acceptable.
I was talking to a person who says men who wants sex in a relationship are vain and should never be given a chance but then I told her another broader perspective to the issue which is; someone can still have sex with you and go on to love you forever another person on the other hand might decide not to have it with you and still scorn and treat you wrongly. Sex isn't the basis to judge how far a relationship can go this is often miscalculated by a lot of people and hence the reason why we have so many wrong marriages built on things that shouldn't really matter.
Personally I'm not the sex freak type of people but I definitely try not to be subjective when basing my argument. Truth is, meeting the right person is difficult and saying because a person wouldn't have sex with you means he's the right person for you is totally wrong. Irrespective of the fact that morality and godliness frowns upon sexual relationship in a umarried situation I Just feel ladies should be more better in their analysis of who they presupposes to be the right people because I'm still saying it, we have a lot of divorce because the criteria people create in their mind of who the right person is, can be totally wrong and lacking substance.
Sex is powerful and with the right people it can be magical, however the world we are now see sex like a usuality that carries no significance. Sex is a big deal, it sells hugely; in the pornographic industry and other places and this is something that's become the center of most decision some people make. People have actually made terrible decisions based on sex and people have left their original position based on sex and sometimes when I begin to think properly I see that sex is a tool and it's the center of life of most people and it actually guides them.
In conclusion, we're guilty of giving sex the value it has currently. Nevertheless cultivating the right habit and following one's personal standards on the issue of sex is currently essential. When you don't give meaning to the thrill that sex can bring it'll enable you to generally make decisions that will affect you better. Be positive minded about sex, yet give it no value at all. Let it not lead you astray or also determine or influences your choice. Truth is women that places too much Meaning on sex always makes emotional calls that might stay with them for life. Sex isn't a proof of anything in life so don't let it guide your imagination of what's right or wrong
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Wise words on a touchy subject. I think that the new age of feminism is driving the whole stereotypical assumptions about male sex drive to a turning point.
On the one hand some women are taking sexual justice into their own hands (sometimes literally). We see on social networks women either asuming the male posture (oversexed or practicing it without attachments) or banning sex from their lives, at least as long as it is suppose to only provide pleasure to a man. We know that with the discussions about emerging sexual orientations the issue becomes even more complicated but as far as male-female goes there are some changes for the better.
I think that the big campaign against sexual abuse or misconduct is changing the way men behave all over the world. It will probably take longer in some cultures where these kinds of changes are hard to implement, but you are right anyway when you argue that sex should not be the conditional factor to judge how much affection in involved in a relationship.
Sex, and the pleasure it produces, is a biological imperative. The more we thwart or twist it the worse. I think that people can be wise enough to tell when it is just sex for sex's sake and when it is sex deriving from love. That is the passion that must be nurtured and protected, the one that will shelter people from stormy times.
I believe this is absolutely the case and truth is, sex is basically a big deal in relationships nowadays and the original purpose or meaning attached to it has been stretched farther than what we now fathom. I believe women themselves play a huge role in why this is so. Needless to say, love is love irrespective of whether sex is involved in it or not and it's even farther More enigmatic and sadly this isn't what people feel nowadays.
Thanks for the splendid comment sir
Baba... wisdom full this post.
Personally i like to talk about sex and the way people see it.
I see sex as something that can give you a false sense of judgement if you are not emotionally stable.
The other day i asked one of my friend who is also a hivean whether sex meant anything to her and she said if the guy is still going to fuck up he will whether you have sex with him or not. So why not have fun? And just be critical.
You have spoken a whole lot of truth in this post. Really nice post
Wise words indeed.
I have never been (and don't think I ever will be) one that can do the whole one night stands and open relationships but that's not to say that I judge people based on my own ideals and what works for me.
I believe in honesty and communication so that nobody feels cheated or played.
To each their own.