IS LOVE REALLY A BEAUTIFUL THING?

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They say love is a beautiful thing, I doubt..
How can love be termed beautiful when it comes to give pain, fear and tears..

Love is something we don't have control over because our heart does mostly 80% of the job, we see ourselves doing what we never thought we could do, making sacrifices even if it's gonna hurt us..

When we meet friends, have fun, tell jokes and play together , you can hang out, give hugs and it's just so nice and we wish the feeling continues and even when we don't get to see our friends again maybe they relocate or go back to school, we feel it for a while, we make new friends and move on..

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But when it comes to love (relationships), it's different, every joy has an atom of pain but we keep searching for it..
Spending time with your lover is a very good feeling but knowing she leaves soon changes the whole mood, your heartbeat fastens, you become so worried, you feel so empty as if she ain't coming back, you get worried and jealous seeing another guy make her smile because you Think you alone should get those cute lovely smiles..,, 🤦🤦

She missed your call and you start thinking if something bad has happened, you just don't get to relax because you have a queen to keep..

But my question is, does this queen of yours really feel same for you, does she really get scared of losing her king...

Why will a relationship filled with smiles, laughter and good memories end..?

Sometimes I don't know if what I'm doing is right or wrong, i try to be the best I could in a relationship but it just ends the same...

I really find it difficult to explain this situation as it involves me directly...
I still want to feel love again but with pain, how can I find one?

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Please I need answers this questions, I'm so confused..

How do you manage your relationship?
how do you make love a beautiful thing?
how do you keep that relationship after the pain and tears?
How do you detect if someone feelings for you is fading away gradually?

I will be glad if i get answers to these questions...

Thanks..


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Love is a beautiful thing for as long as it last. But it's funny how someone you loved dearly could turn to an enemy you hate so much, it happens.
I'm not exactly an expert but I could try answering your questions,

  • How do you manage your relationship: managing one's relationship is about determination first. How determined are you? Are you sure you really want to managed the relationship? Then you go for it. If you're not truly determined, you'd prolly just take the relationship for a ride showing some nonchalant attitude. You manage to relationship by not being selfish, not thinking of yourself only, by communication. Communication I really vital for any relationship. You ask questions too, don't just assume.

*How do you make love a beautiful thing: I think this could be achieved by showing your partner that you care and you're always there for them. Appreciate their little deeds. Be there for them in rough and smooth times and watch how the beauty plays out.

*How do you keep the relationship after the pain and tears: this is where the determination comes in to play again. A relationship with tears and pain isn't a true one. You have to pass through all the stages. But deciding to keep your partner is up to you. You can't just end things because of one fight. If you keep doing that then I guess you'd get tires because I know my gender and I know what we are capable of doing purposely or unpurposely.

*How do you detect if someone's feelings for you is fading gradually:
This hasn't always been a hard part. You'd start noticing some changes. The person no longer wants to be with you as much as before. The person purposely stalls you, avoids you, get angry at little things. The vibe or connection you once had would be fading. You would even be tired at some point because you know that whenever you two are together, there must be a form of disharmony. It gets sickening.

With the little knowledge I have, I guess those are some answers. I hope they answer your questions and clear your doubts.


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Talking about being determined here, it's a two way thing... She has to be determined too or all my efforts will be wasted...
I can accept that caring for your partner and appreciating little deeds also supporting her can go a long way..

I love the part you said you know your gender, you guys can be so unpredictable and you only stay when your partner allows, what if she said she is no longer interested...

You did well @wongi.. Thanks so much


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If she says she's no longer interested, ask for reasons.. and if it's a genuine reason, you could.. after trying yunno.

Determination on her own path is also quay.. but i guess were referring to you at this point


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Okay... Thanks for your help once again


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You're most welcome dear.


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If I comment everything I think about love I will go far and it will be a great comment hahaha

I see true love is hard to find. People are often needy and comfort themselves with quick and fleeting passions and think they've found true love... And that's not quite it. Real love (in my view) it takes time to appear...

Please, I will really appreciate if you post and Comment all you know and think about love.. I still have a lot to learn


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I need to be really inspired to be able to write about love haha

Maybe I've already written on a blog of mine.

I'll look it up and if I have it I'll just bring it here translated hahaha