I am used to being in high demand by those close to me. I have managed to have a supply that meets most of those demands, but at some point, I felt that I forgot about myself somewhere along the way. I have learned little by little to prioritize my demand because otherwise, I will not be able to give an excellent supply to others.
Those cafe moments or whatever we choose to do are priceless, and you should always try to have them at the top. Meeting the demands of others, especially if they are our affections, is important but it is even more important to be well ourselves, after all the people who demand from us if they want to continue to do so will have to learn to be a little more patient sometimes. And in my experience, they learn pretty fast if we give them the right signals.
Patience is something many don't seem to have these days. Everything happens so fast so people are trained to expect it. I think that's behind some of the demands people place on others. Lowering theie expectations is important I think, setting boundaries, as it means we can find the time for ourselves which is more important than satisfying other people's demands. If we are not right, we cannot offer much outwardly.