One thing that still baffles me to this day is why people seem so comfortable with trying to use emotional blackmail to get something they want. Many times, they even use it in cases where it is very much needed. They try to appeal to your emotions, making you do things that you know you are very uncomfortable with.
And funny enough, they do this knowing that it won’t touch them. They won’t be the ones to suffer the blowback from this. They won’t get to pay the price, but they’ll try to goad someone else into doing it all the same. It’s cruel, to a large extent. This is why when I see people who try to use emotional blackmail on me, I don’t take it easy with them. Young or old, I could really go all out on them.
It’s these people who will advise a woman in an abusive home to remain with her husband, even when the man is beating her black and blue. They will use bible verses to support it, they’ll try to make it look like she has it in her to change a toxic partner, making it seem like she’s not prayerful enough or woman enough to stop him from beating her. As if changing a person is something that can be achieved with a simple wish.
When I think of such people, it makes me boil inside. Because I know that they’re not doing this from a place of care and love. They’re not doing this because they want the marriage to be intact, as they will falsely claim. Instead, if you look into their own homes, they’re probably also in unhappy homes and for some reason, want someone else to go through such madness. If not, why would you advise a woman to remain with a man who takes pleasure in beating her up?
What’s making me talk about this today? My sister was telling me today about how she and some of her old course mates got scammed by someone they thought was a friend. So, the scammer pretended to be seriously sick, going as far as using old pictures he had taken while he was in the hospital some years back to trick them. And based on the fact that many of them thought they knew him, they were willing to help out.
He asked for financial aid, talking about how he needed an urgent surgery and he would die if he didn’t get it. All he needed was 70k to complete the money that he already had. So, they began to chip in. Little by little, everyone giving the little that they could. And in the end, they were able to raise more than three times what the guy was actually looking for. He took the money, and he thanked them.
When it started to fall apart was when the very next day, he went to another groupchat (the alumni groupchat I think), one where many of them were also members. In the other group, he told the same sob story. He thanked his coursemates for raising the money, but then he went on to ask for more funds, saying that they were not able to raise up to the amount that was needed.
He must have forgotten that some of the people in the group had already helped contribute to him. And they were shocked that he still needed money. After all, he said he needed 70k, they gave him over 200k, it should have taken care of everything concerning his medical finances and left enough change for him. Why then was he lying that they didn’t raise enough?
Not long after, the information got back to the group my sister was in and they were livid! They couldn’t believe what was happening. However, at the time, they still thought that he was really in the hospital, some people were saying maybe unexpected bills had come up. However, someone was able to get in touch with the scammer’s younger brother, who had no idea what was going on. This younger brother confirmed that there was nothing wrong with the guy. It was all one big scam!
When this was revealed, the scammer was really as remorseful as you would expect. He was instead giving them reasons for his actions, talking about how the country was hard, he had no job and he had to eat, which was what forced him to do such a thing. He was still telling them that God should touch their hearts and they should still help him with anything that they can.
Imagine me defrauding you of your money, and when you figure it out, I try to explain it away and ask you to give me more money. Like, can you imagine the effrontery. But then, this wasn’t even the part that got me mad. The was a criminal, so nothing really surprised me.
The shocking part was that there were some people in the same groupchat who were on his side. They were employing emotional blackmail, talking about how they should forgive and forget. After all, God is the source of all wealth, no one is clean before God. They should just help the guy in anyway that they can. Help someone that had already defrauded them of 200k? Like, make this make sense!
At that point, many people started leaving the group because they couldn’t endure it anymore. My sister is one of those who left. And for a long time, she was pissed. I had to be her sounding board, because it was only after she had ranted off to me that she could get all that anger off her system. And now, I’m bringing it here because I also can’t keep it inside me.
People like the scammer, we all know them and we do our best to avoid them. But people like his supporters… they’re not wolves in sheep clothing, they’re simply sheep that will convince their fellow sheep to befriend the wolves, knowing that they would get eaten. That’s their only mission in this life. They’re the kind that when a girl gets raped by a family member, they’ll use “family” to kill the matter and make them not say a thing. Or when you’re robbed by a friend or loved one, they’ll want you to forgive the grievous act they did to you and forget everything that said act cost you.
I’m sure that when you look into it, the people supporting the scammer didn’t contribute to it. Hell, they’re probably in on it with him.
Omo… people are mean, and people will be willing to go to great lengths to get your money. However, the ones who take great pleasure in manipulating people emotionally, fear them. They’re snakes, and if you’re not careful, they’ll make you do the very thing that you will regret for the rest of your life.
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This is pure wickedness indeed. And how selfish many could be in life without shame.
Trying to scam others for your own selfish interests is unforgivable. And playing mind games they know will eventually catch up with them.
And those using emotional blackmail on others surely know you that what ever goes around comes around. You can’t see truth and turn it into a lie, giving wrong advices to souls that are hurting.
Thanks for sharing @bruno-kema . Best of the weekend 😎
Omo... some people ehn, the way they try to use God to justify actions ehn, you'll wonder what exactly goes on in their minds. It's just terrible.
So crazy 😝. People need to stay away from such individuals.
Enjoy your weekend.
I don't think those who supported that the scammer should be forgiven had a die in the 200k. I believe in forgiving but not through this means, blackmailing to get forgiven. The scammers reasons aren't even enough to justify his actions, not everyone that contributed had it very easy; they live in same country as he is. I so much hate emotional blackmail of any type.
As in ehn... even after he was outed, he still try to get more money from them. As if the people are foolish. Some people really have mind ooo!
I have also seen similar things happening with my own eyes. Every human being is emotional and if the compulsion of a single person is known then people use it to get their work out.
It's justs ad that we see things like this on a regular basis.
I hate emotional blackmail and whoever tries to blackmail me through emotion I intentionally hurt those people mentally as they never expect such a behavior from me. I don't care about the emotions of such kind of people who dare to blackmail me.
Your sister helped the scammer to get money for the second time but if I were in the place I would not help the person even if the scammer was supposed to die for real. Money is important to me compared to the life of a scammer. I really mean it.
At first, they had no idea that he was only lying, which was why they all contributed the money to help him. It was when he tried to get money the second time that his gig was revealed, and thus, his treachery! No one dropped a penny after that! It just shows the lengths people are willing to go just to get what they want. It's sad.
Thank you for this.