SOMETIMES, IT'S OKAY TO LET PEOPLE GO

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One thing I have come to realize in this life is that it is okay to let some relationship go and it might not be possible to be in good terms with everybody. One thing I used to struggle with a lot is letting people go, especially if I really care about them. This often leads to me overlooking so many things and tolerating many things that might be inconveniencing me. I just tend to focus on the good sides of people than the bad. Maybe it's just a way I try to keep them around and not lose them but then, I have realized that some people are actually not meant to be in your life forever and that is totally okay.

I am actually not one to quarrel with people, I might be a preacher of peace. I avoid conflicts so much because asides from not having the strength, I get overly worried and stressed easily and I do not like the feeling at all. The matter will be the only thing playing in my head and it will be in a loop, going over and over again until I have it sorted. So, as much as I can, I just try to prevent any uncomfortable situation from arising. However, I think I have grown now and I don't allow things to bother me like before, I love it so much.

The example I want to give might not exact be the worst reason I have had to let a person walk put of my life but its the example I remember and I can give right now. So, I used to have this friend that I have known for quite a while now. She can be really cool sometimes and other times, she can be really hard to understand. I won't really go deep into that but let me share with you something that happened during my convocation ceremony, which led to us not talking till date.

My phone was really bad at a point, the battery was bad and it would go off at any point in time whether charged or not. As if that were nor enough, it would deprive me from browsing many times because the service dissapears anytime as well. I was telling this friend of mine about this issue I was facing about a week to my convocation and I was even telling her how worried I was because people might be unable to reach me on the day. We were not really tight friends but we were more than acquintances and we talk once in a while. She was even encouraging me on that day that I shouldn't worry, that they (she and other people that would be coming to celebrate with me) will find a way to reach me regardless. We didn't really talk after that day but of course, my convocation was still on the way.

I didn't close my eyes for good 48 hours before my convocation day because I was helping out at a photography studio and this made me sleep off on the morning of my convocation when I got home. I woke up around 11 and I was already disoriented. The hall ceremony was already almost over and I had not even taken my bath. I rushed and ran out to school with my swollen and tired eyes. Things got worse in school when I realized network was down and it was even general. My phone on a normal day has network issues, so with an actual network issue, you already know it would have been chaotic. I couldn't make a single call or even make posts on whatsapp. It was such a shitty morning for me.

My parents were on their way as well and they had to reach me. At a point, I had to start looking for someone that came from lagos to celebrate with my family because I couldn't reach the woman on phone. Mind you, my phone was misbehaving and going off in between all of this. Honestly, you cannot even imagine how much frustration I faced that day. Cutting the long story short, I later saw my family but we couldn't stay in school because of the crowd, so we went to the hostel.

Back home, some friends called me and came around so there was a lot of serving and running around to do. When the tension died down a bit, it was already evening. That was when I realized I didn't actually hear from this friend of mine that day and two other people that promised to come around. I put a call through to all of them and my friend's response to me shocked me so much. Guess what? She said I didn't call her.

I was very very pissed upon hearing that because I wasn't expecting that response from her at all. I mean, she was actually waiting for me to call her! Maybe under a different circumstance, I wouldn't even hesitate. Probably if she knew how crazy my day went, she would judge me less but I wasn't given a chance to tell her about it. This girl didn't even congratulate me or anything, she had probably been angry since morning and she didn't even bother to call me once. To me, that is another level of pettiness. I was even worried that she might have called and not be able to reach me because of my bad phone but she didn't, at all.

Even if it's the calling that vexed you, you could have still scolded me some other time and try to put a call through, right?. Even if she called and abused me first, I would have even found a way to calm her down and explain things but that sadly, didnt happen. The call ended in a really weird way and that was the last time we ever spoke. If that's what friendship is, then please I don't want. It was giving entitlement mentality and selfishness so I had to just let go.

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