Growth sometimes might look invisible; it may seem unnoticed by you, especially when it's not about your physical height and other physical features but about your personality. However, one thing I am sure of is that for the past years of our existence in life, growth has taken place in different aspects of our lives, either for good or bad. In fact, we will continue to experience growth until the day we stop existing.
I think it's important that once in a while, we observe a personal reflection to really understand better how much we are growing.
Sometimes, life can force one to change her dreams and future aspirations to something entirely different, but yet the person still experiences growth regardless. Personally, the life I live today, 20 years back, if you told me I would end up even with my course of study and what I do for a living currently, I wouldn't process such information, but then, life happened, but I am glad that regardless of the changes in my dreams, I am still experiencing positive growth in my personality and life in general, and that's what matters, right? I am better than yesterday, than last month, than last year, etc.
If I should look back fifteen to twenty years ago, considering everything that's happened to me and the big decisions I've had to make, obviously I am no longer the same person as yesterday. If my past self from years ago saw me now, maybe she would recognize me with my face, with the way I smile, and with how committed a Christian I was those past years, which hasn't changed, but in many other sides of my life, she wouldn't recognize me any longer. She wouldn't recognize the many choices I have made that have shaped my present self, the unspoken battles I have fought without tearing apart but standing strong, unlike me many years ago, who would replace where I should stand up and take charge of what is facing me but rather complain, cry, and feel overwhelmed by circumstances without taking the needed action.
A lot has changed about my personality for good; I see the much growth, and I am loving the woman I have become.
Do you know what it means to feel entitled? I used to score that habit A1 those years as a young girl. Not getting what I felt I was entitled to makes me rage! I was so bitter and angry and could question you for denying me whatever it is until I had an encounter with my big brother, who opened my eyes to the realities of life. Today, I am diligently teaching my children never to feel entitled to anything from anyone, be it your friends or your aunties and uncles. It was an attitude and also a habit I wasn't proud of back then.
The way I have changed from this mentality, I don't even remember that it's the responsibility of my husband to take care of me, no! Enough of over expectations from people; I do things like I am nobody's responsibility, with no atom of entitlement to anyone, and that lifestyle pushes me to work hard for myself and be happy.
There are diverse ways I have grown better in the past fifteen years, which, if I begin to pinpoint all of that, I could write a term paper here, but in all, I can highlight two major turning points in my life where many things changed about me. One was the time I stood my ground and made my family budgets our priority, without having to keep sacrificing my kids' school fees over financial requests from other family members.
I got myself and my husband to say no to such a life even when it was difficult for him to ignore certain requests and make his family his top priority. But you see that single NO that faithful afternoon by me; it made other future NOs super easier, and we began to reclaim our peace and do things for others without any pressure from anyone. Secondly, the moment I boldly reclaimed my voice in my home, many other things encountered change too, and I live peacefully with mutual respect; it was something I craved!
You see, every single day in life, we are being exposed to something new capable of changing our life's perspectives, even our beliefs. The way we saw things years back will change, and as for me, it's been a good change without losing myself in the process.
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Having a personal reflection once in a while about our life matters a lot.
Indeed .it does
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Nkem mama this your pics is fine ooo
Lol..thanks brother math
I was using one side eyes to look at it too
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Sis, this is it, just a true reflection of a personal growth check.
This has reminded me so many aspects of my own growth process after getting married. You said it all and very well.
Yes..growth happens every time but we pray for a positive one
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Yeah, this is something I'm trying to change.
I wasn't always entitled but I slowly felt myself getting that vice and I've challenged myself not to feel like anyone is responsible for me. As an adult, you can and should be responsible for yourself.
Sure..we can as an adult
I am taking responsibilities👌
We grow everyday truly but there aspect of our lives like our character trait that always remain the same or gets difficult to change.
Sure..no doubt 👌
Very well indeed! Change is part of the course of life, and we will be present with opportunities to change ourselves in the process before it's done for us. I think the part about standing your ground on both occasions is very important, it's our own job to make people understand that they're not in the driver's seat of our own life :)
Exactly ..it took me time to be bold enough to stand my ground but I did at last and was happy
True growth isn’t always visible, but the strength, lessons, and mindset shifts you shared say it all. I admire the woman you’ve become🙌🙌
Lessons from a growth always speaks louder
Thanks for engaging
I was bad a few weeks ago because someone couldn’t help me with something. But my friend told me something that made everything make sense to me. He said it’s because I had my own expectations that’s why I was angry this other person said no to me.
I guess we learn everyday.
Wow..indeed we learn everyday
Dropping some habits is a good way to grow
Hehe... When you stand your ground you do it for yourself and your family, and even more, your sanity. Learning to say no is a very good skill. Because if you're not careful, you'll use everything you have to do charity. And when you need help, the people you've helped out will have nothing but stories for you.
You got it..I saved my sanity as well and till date, I am proud of myself for such change
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STOPThat feeling of entitlement is one that we all have to get rid of because it does us no good at all. I’m glad you no longer score A1 in it, lol.
We have all grown and it’s just for us to take our time and count our blessings.
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Interesting read my sister
You know a lot of people measure growth just in body size or probably life fortunes
For me real growth is when you've grown in character and personality.
That feeling of entitlement is something I share in which I've also outgrown. It's a very subtle way to deprive oneself of one's actual rights.
Daily life throws at us lessons that if we refuse to learn and adapt, we lose that opportunity of becoming better versions of ourselves.
It's well
Thanks for sharing this
Exactly my dear
The moment we stopped learning ..danger looms
Growth can be invisible most times, we have fought and conquered more battles of life than we can see.
In all we need to be grateful for every win and success.
Nice post, I learnt alot from reading, thanks for sharing ♥️.
Yea .being graceful is a great habit while pursuing more growth
Thank you sweet Vani ❤️💞
You are right, Nkem. The way we saw things yesterday will be different from how it is today. A lot of changes and decisions we have to make but have turned great way for us. I am glad of the woman you’ve become and I believe more transformation are still coming.
Yea..more coming for good