In life, we are bound to make decisions because without making crucial decisions in our lives, going forward won't be possible. From the moment a child is born, he or she has started making decisions only that our parents are the ones making it for us until we are old enough to decide on what we want for ourselves.
As we all know making a decision is not something easy because it is not certain if the outcome of our decision will be positive or negative.
Every step we take in life, there is always an outcome for it and it could be good and it could also be bad. I have taken so many decisions that have bad repercussions but I can't give up on life just because of one decision that failed to work out for me.
I have also taken a decision that made me proud of myself so life is all about good and bad.
The step I take when making decisions
I am not the type that loves to rush whenever I want to make decisions because my mom taught me that if someone is too quick to make a decision, such person will or might run out of ideas or even steps to take next. So for that reason, I always take my time when making decisions.
I ask for people's opinions, my mom also taught me that "Abere ona ki sina" English "Whosoever asks for a direction will never miss the road". So asking for people's opinions is what I love because the decision I am about to make some people must have made it before and seen the end of it, why not ask so that I would know what I am getting into?
After asking I would then think deeply about the decision and then have backup plans in case the decision takes another turn.
How long does it take for me to decide?
Well, it depends on what I am deciding on because when it comes to life generally someone can't think for too long, life is all about opportunity so someone must not take too long before making decisions, to answer the question I don't take too long before making my decision on something, even though I do take my time as well.
How I cope with failed decision
Firstly, it is not all decisions that will work out, and like I said before I always have plan B whenever I am making decisions in case what I am planning doesn't work out and that has been helping me since I became an adult and started deciding for myself. I do feel bad when my decision doesn't go as planned or when it brings a bad ending that I have to deal with but with the help of having another thing at the back of my decision, I always get over it so quick.
Just like a post I wrote about one of my friends who was smoking in my shop, she did what I wasn't expecting and this was a girl I thought I was closer with among my friends. The day I decided to let her go I had a backup plan of making my work as an excuse because I was sure she would notice that I was not calling her or texting her just like before but in life someone has to make decisions on certain things.
It was a very hard decision to make because we had become too close and I even tried my best to talk to her about the act but when she got angry I knew I had to decide on what to do alone.
I also love interacting with experienced people for advice so as to know how to think deeply on how to go with my plans. Also having plan B at the back of ones mind also pays so that when the initial plan didn't go well, one will have a plan to fall back to
Yes o because taking the decision alone is a risk and thr plan B will definitely help me out.
It does most of the time
Having plan B is good. In my case, plan B causes hindrance for me to reach my goal.
Awww that's so sad to hear, anyway what works for me might not work for other.
Having an alternate plan whenever things do not go the way want it was a good plan since you still have the chance to change the outcome of your decision.
Yeah and that has been helping me a lot
It's good to have a second plan when taking a decision if possible. I align with your point that one should ask people with experience in such a regard when deciding on something.
Yeah because there is no decision we want to make that someone else has not made before.
Well being hasty in making decisions might end up having devastating results. Taking time to deliberate on decisions gives room for putting other angles into consideration.
Though asking people's opinion is good but it is not always advisable because not everyone is knowledgeable enough to offer the right advice.
I believe in this current era no one should make a plan without preparing a plan B because there is a high chance things might not go as planned. Like they say "life is what happens while we are busy planning other things"
It's not like I wanted to follow their advice but it will just help me to think of another way to make the same decision
Yeah, listening alternative opinions does matters.