No to physical discipline

I am not a parent yet, and I wouldn’t deny the fact that I always wonder what it feels like to be one and how much I was planning to train my children even though I don’t have one yet. It’s funny when someone who hasn't given birth talks about different methods of how to discipline a child.

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It is easier to say that I will do this and that when we don’t have one yet, but trust me when I say if that time comes, people do forget all that they have planned because being a parent is more than just planning something you don’t even know how it feels like; it is logical, and that is why every parent should be very careful with the kind of discipline they will give their children.

Based on how I was raised I have come to realize that there are ways to discipline a child without raising your hands on them because everything is not about beating them though some kids really do need the cane but it not everything a child does we should beat them over.

I was raised with a cane, and of course anything that has to do with beating a child is what I was raised with. I guess that was the way every parent was taught when they were growing up back then, because then every parent believed that beating a child whenever they were wrong was the only way to discipline a child and put them on the right path.

I remember some parents in our neighborhood back then; they always brought their children to my mom so that she could help them beat their children, and that was how strict and wicked my mom was back then. She doesn’t believe in listening to what the children have to say; once you do something wrong or what she told you not to do, then expect a beating that you will never regret in your life.

There was a day I got beaten mercilessly, and I wondered if she was truly my mother because I didn’t want to believe a mother could close her eyes to beat her own child that much, but after seeing some parents bringing their children for beating to discipline them, I realized that parents back then were just obsessed with beating a child all in the name of discipline.

I wouldn’t want to beat my child all in the name of discipline; there are lots of ways I can discipline him without laying my fingers on him. And the discipline will be according to his or her age because you can’t discipline a two-year-old child the way you will discipline a ten-year-old child.

For instance, if we finish eating, I would have been telling him or her to take his plate immediately after he finished eating even at a tender age so that he would grow up to know the right thing to do, and if by any chance he is being stubborn and not listening, then I will introduce another method by not letting him have what he loves so much, I mean, what he can’t do without a day so that he would listen and do as I say. That way he wouldn’t want me to do that, so he would do whatever I asked him or her to do.