La maternidad me ha hecho reflexionar muchas cosas, a medida que mi hijo ha ido creciendo nuevos retos de asoman y a su vez también siento que voy evolucionando como persona y como madre. Considero que una de las cosas más difíciles es tener que sanar heridas para no salpicar con estas a nuestros retoños, una vez siendo consciente de esto siempre voy trabajando en mejorar y rectificar errores. Puedo decir que tuve una infancia muy linda pero con unos padres poco presentes porque trabajaban muchas horas y debido a esto he querido estar para el mío lo más que puedo, en mi lenguaje de amor están palabras, detalles y actos de servicio; por lo que siempre estoy reforzando que lo quiero y lo importante que es para mí.
Motherhood has made me reflect on many things, as my son has grown, new challenges have arisen and at the same time I feel that I am evolving as a person and as a mother. I consider that one of the most difficult things is having to heal wounds so as not to splash our children with them, once I am aware of this I am always working on improving and rectifying mistakes. I can say that I had a very nice childhood but with parents who were not very present because they worked many hours and because of this I wanted to be for my son as much as I can, in my love language there are words, details and acts of service; so I am always reinforcing that I love him and how important he is to me.
Una noche antes de dormir le digo a hijo: "te quiero mucho" y el me responde: "lo sé", a lo que yo le contestó: "¿y tú también me quieres?", el se voltea con una sonrisa y me dice: "claro", como que bueno ya eso se sobre entiende jajaja entonces eso me hizo analizar que la que tenía una expectativa de su respuesta era yo, que quizás para el era más relevante otras muestras de afecto. Espere al otro día y le interrogue que en qué momento el se sentía más querido por mi, si cuando le hacía la comida, cuando jugaba un buen rato con el, cuando lo abrazaba o cuando le decía cuánto lo amaba; si respuesta fue que cuando lo abrazaba y me quedaba dormida con el, entonces para el es importante el contacto físico y esos instantes de tranquilidad conmigo.
One night before going to sleep I told my son: “I love you very much” and he answered me: “I know”, to which I replied: “and you love me too?”, he turned around with a smile and told me: “of course”, as if that was already understood hahaha then that made me analyze that I was the one who had an expectation of his answer, that maybe for him other signs of affection were more relevant. I waited for the next day and I asked him when he felt more loved by me, if it was when I made him food, when I played with him for a while, when I hugged him or when I told him how much I loved him; his answer was that when I hugged him and I fell asleep with him, so for him physical contact and those moments of tranquility with me are important.
Tuve que negociar con el lo de dormir juntos porque ya tiene 7 años y estoy poco a poco haciendo que pierda el miedo a la oscuridad, que entienda que está un lugar seguro, cuidado y que no hay nada que temer, porsupuesto que lo de darle cuántos abrazos quisiera quedo pautado para siempre. Por los momentos acompaño en su cama hasta que se duerma y luego me retiro a la mía, he notado que ya no se pasa de madrugada lo cual ha hecho que ya no esté irritable por la falta de sueño. Que bonito es poder llegar acuerdo con nuestros hijos y entender que por más que los queramos es necesario conectar con ellos desde la forma en lo que realmente se sientan amados. Manifestar afecto tiene tantas maneras que es maravilloso poder descubrir que somos capaces de hacerlo otras formas a las que nos gustaría o estamos acostumbrados.
I had to negotiate with him about sleeping together because he is already 7 years old and I am gradually making him lose his fear of the dark, that he understands that he is in a safe place, cared for and that there is nothing to be afraid of, of course, giving him as many hugs as he would like, was scheduled forever. For the time being I stay with him in his bed until he falls asleep and then I go back to mine, I have noticed that he no longer goes to bed at dawn, which has made him no longer irritable due to lack of sleep. How nice it is to be able to come to an agreement with our children and understand that no matter how much we love them, it is necessary to connect with them in a way that makes them feel loved. Showing affection has so many ways that it is wonderful to be able to discover that we are capable of doing it in other ways than we would like or are used to.
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