That was really a good read @jacksonizer! And I definitely resonated with the process you did to be happy most of the time. I've been there - smoking, partying, being lazy, and just wanting the easy life but things happen. I am glad for people who were able to turn their life around even when they did this at 40 years old! 😁
In my part, it's always the "acceptance" part that is the hardest and there are still things I did in the past that I'm still learning to accept and forgive myself for doing.
Happiness shouldn't be the end destination. As what you said, we should learn to be happy most of the time.
That is the problem when you are having to much fun, you forget that you're already turning 40. :)