I think this is something we all have to do as you can't live otherwise. Long time ago someone said the pain had to be forgotten and not cultivated. It is not exactly what you say here, but even so, it is connected. We need to learn from our mistakes, then let it go as torturing ourselves forever for something that has already passed has no point.
You're a smart woman Emma and I'm glad you wrote this post as it is helpful not only to me but for others too. God bless you and I wish you good luck!
Thanks Erika, it's something that I try to remind myself of often, the things behind us are done, we need to move forward without it weighing us down. I hope you are having a lovely weekend, I appreciate your comment.