[Week 130] I admit that I was wrong.

After I left my previous job, something happened. I felt disappointed and did not believe that I would be viewed in such a way. However, I knew that I had erred in some way and had to own up to my wrongdoing and apologize.

In this apology letter, the manager's name will be scarlet, and the supervisor's name will be Supervisor. The name of the person who introduced me to the job is the director.

This was what happened. Scarlet had been viewing my Whatsapp status. There was a day I posted a video of myself and my sister working out. She must have seen that video but did not reply to it.

Another day I decided to repost an advert for the gym. Due to miscommunication, a misunderstanding occurred.

It was my expectation that I would be summoned so that I could say what I had to say. Instead, I was reported to the person who introduced me to the job, I was also living at the person's residence at that time.

I sent a message to Scarlet, and she replied telling me to get my facts right before laying accusations on her.

I thought to myself, "why didn't they (Scarlet & the supervisor) get their facts right first before accusing me?"

In the letter below, I expressed how I felt about what happened to Scarlet and owned up to my shortcomings by apologizing.

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Dear Scarlet,

Good morning and I hope you are doing well today.

I would have sent a message to you ever since I met with the director and the supervisor. But I didn't because I was still processing all that had happened. Most of it left me shocked, speechless, and weak.

Having analyzed everything, I realized the information that sparked this whole thing came from you.

When I met the supervisor on Wednesday, I felt that I needed to explain to her that it was all a misunderstanding and also apologize. I apologized for everything but didn't get the chance to explain much because she was annoyed. However, it didn't turn out too bad either.

I may not know you so well but for the few months I spent working with you, I can say that you are a person who would tell someone straight up when you feel they are wrong. I guess that's one reason why this is shocking to me.

Based on our relationship after I left, I expected that you would send a chat to me immediately after you saw what you felt was wrong.

During my stay at the gym, did I give an impression of wanting to take clients from the gym or do anything as such?

Why would I do that?

The video of my sister and me that I posted was just for fun and entertainment. I often do that on my status. Even if that was my intention, don't you think I would have customized the privacy of my Whatsapp status?

However, it wasn't, and that's why I never thought of it or imagined it would be misinterpreted in that way.

I admit that I broke the rule and I'm also apologizing to you for that too. I just needed to stay in contact with the people I had made friends with since I was resigning from the gym and that was it.

About the advert, I screengrabbed it after the supervisor posted it on her status and reposted it on my status. I also posted the summer class advert for children because I felt I could still advertise the gym even though I wasn't there anymore. Unfortunately, that was also misunderstood.

It was the part where the director told me she heard I looked as though I was not well-fed at the place I was staying and that I was offered lunch by the company on different occasions that left me speechless and weak. I was made to look like a terrible person.

Honestly, I was speechless because I was told that it was like I was ruining the reputation of that place. It got me wondering how I had given you that impression. Whenever I was asked if I had eaten, I usually said "No" because it was true.

Due to the distance from where I stayed to the gym, I always had to wake up very early, get dressed and start leaving. There was no way I could be preparing food in the morning. I didn't have the time.

I always got home at night and prepared food for dinner before I ate and that was the response I always gave you. I would say I had not eaten yet, but I would when I got home. I also wasn't spending money buying things during the day at the gym because I was seriously saving towards renting an apartment for myself.

Up till now, I still wonder how it gave the impression that I wasn't eating well at that place. I thought you all understood everything about me and that was why I felt comfortable discussing things. I thought I was understood not knowing I was only being misunderstood.

I had assumed that the lunch the company bought for me was out of generosity. However, I didn't know that it was because it was thought that I wasn't being fed well.

Hmmm...

I understand the supervisor's annoyance. However, I probably would been more annoyed if I were her. However, it wouldn't have been that way if you had asked me for an explanation immediately after you saw it before passing the information to her. I would have explained it to you and clarified that it was only a misunderstanding. But, sadly, I wasn't given a chance at all.

I admit that I contributed to the supervisor's annoyance by having the phone numbers of some clients. It was clearly stated in the rules that staff was not allowed to take clients' phone numbers or collect gifts from them. I broke that rule and I admit that I was wrong. I am truly and sincerely sorry about that. I collected their numbers so I could stay in touch with them because I was resigning. Getting a job at the gym helped me make friends with new people, and I didn't do it with dubious intentions. I know that this isn't an excuse and I am deeply sorry.

About the gift, the client came with a cake and gave it to me. I didn't think that I had to present the cake to you and the supervisor. I am sorry too that it added to your frustration.

I hope that I am forgiven and that we maintain our relationship as ex-colleagues.

I hope you have a pleasant day.

Yours sincerely.

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