I really built myself a shield, I let few people pass through it, and so far I had a margin of error about 20% in that shield but it is better than before, our conversation makes me reflect and go back to the past, when I thought in how I wanted to be, and I was just far from reality and boy!! reality hit hard!! I'm trying to be careful too but I'm not so good when there are emotions involved that's one of the reasons why I just avoid that
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When emotional factors come in to play it can be difficult to limit contact with people although I guess we all need to make a decision about what's important to us and what may not be. I believe one needs to be true to oneself first and foremost.
You are completely right about everything! It is difficult, hard and painful when emotions are involved, talking about my own experience!! I used to put other people before me 🤷🏻♀️ kind of sucks... I'm starting with me now, loving me, thinking about me, and sometimes it is like I want to do the same and put people before and when that is happening I start to slowly disappear for a few days to think about what I'm doing
.. the thing is that i know I need to work on myself more, need to improve for example right now, this year I decided not to involved in a emotional way with people because I still need to learn how to put myself first and not like something selfish! You know I think this is something we should learn since we are kidz, how to love yourself first but Meeeh! We make mistakes to learn that !!! And not only that, there are the shitty people you get to know along the way too 🥴
Sometimes it takes a little time and experience to understand oneself but once it happens, and we come to love who we are, then our relationships with others are deeper and our lives richer.
Anybody that tells you that they haven't had some of the bad experiences and pain is part of the problem. Just sayin'
What do you mean by that cause I'm having some ideas about what you say but I'm not completely sure
I mean if anybody tells you they have lived their life without pain is either A: a liar or B: one that causes the pain that others feel.
Ohhhhh !!! You are totally right!! I'm more into your second option, hmmm, some people like to cause pain and then acting as victims