Six and Counting

This morning, we had very strict instructions that my wife and I were meant to wake Smallsteps up for her birthday and she would lay in bed until we do.

She woke us up at 630.

We had set an alarm for 8, as that is when she has been sleeping til, when she needs to go to preschool.

Like father, like daughter.

It is so cute though, as this is the first year that she has really been excited about her birthday and has tried to introduce some extra special parts. It is cool to see how she is becoming more aware of herself in this regard and starting to make preference decisions on who she will end up becoming.

She also got a chocolate muffin for breakfast.

That is not normal. However, she didn't want to eat it alone, so she shared it between the three of us so we could all celebrate together.

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We had a party at an indoor activity park aimed at younger children with several of her friends from her daycare (they all go to a different preschool than her now), where there are slides and trampolines for them to play on, with a lot of padding everywhere. They also have hosted theme-room parties and of course, Smallsteps went with the "ice princess" room - which I am guessing is pretty popular in her age group.

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The room had a staff hosting for an hour, where they served popcorn, ice cream and some juice - which was about the only time they were mostly quiet, until some of them they started mixing the ice cream and popcorn into the juice. It was simple and they enjoyed it.

Last year we hosted it ourselves, but without a kitchen and our house filled with all of the stuff that has been pulled out of there and the office ready for renovation, it was just impossible. Also, it was far easier and likely cheaper to have it at this place, since the cost of hosting with food and some basic decorations is about the same and, takes a lot more work and running around.

This was just turn up, pay - party - leave.

A good idea for us at the moment.

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The kids all brought little gifts too of course, which seems to mostly be the same for everyone on their birthday - a coloring book (unicorns or princesses), a fancy pencil (has something glittery stuck to it), a puzzle perhaps. It is nice though, as they are all excited and are happy when someone says, "I have that too" - which is likely going to change in the next few years where they will want to be the only one with something and get annoyed if someone "copies".

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There was also a treasure hunt for the birthday girl, which was walking through a dark tunnel to find a pile of present bags, with instructions that they can choose one.

And then, onto the fun part - the playing in the park, where no matter how many times the kids might have been there, they always seem to run around for the entire time, which was two hours on this occasion. And the parents, don't really have to do much either, so it is a win-win.

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Smallsteps isn't the bravest when it comes to these kinds of activities, but when she is there with her friends and see them doing something, she puts on a brave face and gives it a go. It is good to challenge her, but it also worries me that she runs the risk of becoming a follower, rather than self-directed. This is her journey though and I am just an interested observer, for the most part.

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And what did we get her?

Well, for the last month or so she has been very excitedly counting steps when she has been walking with her Mummi. To do so, she carries her Mummi's phone in a little sling bag over her shoulder and is frequently clocking up 10,000+ during the day.

Since Smallsteps doesn't have a phone (maybe next year), we were able to find a basic fitness watch from Goji (€19 - less than a single movie ticket), that is now paired via bluetooth to my phone. It counts the steps and heartrate (if it was able to go tighter on her wrist), but it does have some limitations. For example in the App, it is only able to set the height at a minimum of 120 cm, which is 15cm "too tall" for Smallsteps at the moment, so even if the steps are accurate, the distance covered will show a little more than what is actual, as it estimates the gait length.

She is super keen on it and loves being able to check the steps for herself, and I am interested to get an idea of how much they are moving at preschool too.

Good call parents!

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And, because she put it on not long before going to the party, we have a pretty good idea of how much activity she actually did in the two hours whilst playing with her friends.

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Not too bad at all!

I wish I was burning an extra 400 calories a day...

I am always surprised at just how much energy kids can expend in such a short time, needing almost no recovery time before running onto the next thing. If I could run non-stop for a couple hours like that, I would be on the couch for the next four days, to worn-out to stand up. Chasing after and trying to find them as they split up during that time, seemed like enough of a workout for me.

Now though, it is time to dive back into the dust of renovation and get my own weekend activity time in.

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Happy birthday to smallsteps. I think it will be a surprise to you and us just how active kids in general are during the day. I remember those non-stop days of running biking and just fooling around when I was a kid.

Now you will need to set her up an actifit account.

I think it will be a surprise to you and us just how active kids in general are during the day.

First day, she finished with 16,000 steps!! :D

A very active little girl you have there.

Happy birthday to the little tike! I love it, such a fun time! The splitting of the muffin is too damn cute, that's absolutely something the little man would do as well! It's incredible how generous and true they are to everyone around them.

The play place looks like it was a lot of fun! We haven't been to one of those in a long time, I know he's itching to go somewhere one of these days so hopefully I can convince my wife to let him go some place lol she dislikes the germs but I had such fond memories as a kid being in those places.

It's insane how much energy they have and how fast they spend it, to then seemingly have an extra bottle of it every time you turn around lol the little man wakes up and is go-go-go until we put him to bed. Keeps us healthy and young that's for sure!

It's incredible how generous and true they are to everyone around them.

I wonder at what point that stops? Perhaps at school age they have to start competing more with peers.

she dislikes the germs

We were talking about this the other day too - however, perhaps it is better for the immune system in the long run, just annoying in the short term.

Aww, congratulations! I really miss the days of indoor park parties and princesses. It's such a special time to be a papa. It's always a special time to be a papa, but those days are phenomenal. Those strict instructions, though, they'll always stay with you 😆

It is a lot of fun seeing the kids enjoy themselves so much. I don't remember being that happy as a kid. you?

Up until about the start of school. ;)

She's already 6! Wow!

Times flies, huh?

It's a really great thing she has all this excitement built for her own birthday. I was never a fan of mine. And also, having a party organized and hosted by someone else eases the responsibilities and the focus on other things. I wish she has a lot of great birthdays!

About the other things, challenges are great for kids as we always had this idea of trying ourselves to see how much we can do of this or that. And about the lead or follow idea, we can't be sure what will become of any person as they grow up. I think sometimes it ends in a not-wanting-to-draw-too-much-attention scenerio where kids are good leaders but also like to see what are the skills of others.

It has flown.

When I was a kid, group birthdays were rare and they were for the older kids mostly. I think my first was when I was around 10.

I think sometimes it ends in a not-wanting-to-draw-too-much-attention scenerio where kids are good leaders but also like to see what are the skills of others.

This is what I am wondering too, as she doesn't mind taking the lead with other people, but she seems more reserved, even with friends.

We all find our own path eventually.

When I was a kid, group birthdays were rare and they were for the older kids mostly. I think my first was when I was around 10.

I only had like 1. The rest was family reunions with cake. Guess that's why I'm not too keen on celebrating my birthday.

This is what I am wondering too, as she doesn't mind taking the lead with other people, but she seems more reserved, even with friends.

It isn't a bad trait to have a leader.

I only had like 1. The rest was family reunions with cake.

Exactly. I remember the one I had was a bit of a disaster (due to the organizational skills of my parents), so I never had another until I could organize my own - which by then, had a few more drinks involved :)

Drinks make it better! 😂

Wow, this week I was on the same wave. We had our son’s birthday, but he is still
twice as little as your girl. He celebrated his 3rd birthday.

Your daughter seems pretty happy with the party and everything seems pretty well organized. Best wishes and all the happiness and joy to your kid!
Cheers!

3 is such a cute age! Did you have fun celebrating?

We were having a pool party at the balcony and it was a lot of fun for the kids!

Looks like your princess has a great birthday with all the celebrations and birthday party. Happy birthday

Indeed. I think after another long walk, she is finally worn out.

Having a good time with the kids are ever lasting. I have a 5 month old daughter and as soon as she looks at me she gives me a smile in the morning and that gives all the energy I need that day.

I also have a 9 year old son, and it reminds me every day that time goes so fast. I swear I remember him when he was a baby and needed to change diapers but now he appears to be a mini me. Make the best out of the time we have to our loved ones~

Love the photos~ Her emotions can be felt through my screen. :) Awesome dad~

as soon as she looks at me she gives me a smile in the morning and that gives all the energy I need that day.

Funny what a difference small things can make. Also, it sometimes works in the opposite direction ;D

Ah, she is going to have a very protective older brother!

now he appears to be a mini me

Does this ever worry you?

Yea your right~~ it can for sure work in a totally opposite direction. LOLZ
Parenting is such a skill that one can only improve on but never master.... and I realize I have a long wayyy to go.
I become a friend when at play and I myself become like a child back again... and then there are times where I need to wear the "father" mask. :)

A mini me.....

You know... there are some moments where my son and even my daughter (even though she is only a baby) express such emotions in a way I actually get surprised and makes me just speechless for a moment. Its the times where I never taught but maybe through genes? can inherit personality traits? of myself in certain situations.

Of course there are ones that I do like... but also there are equally as many where I wish I can improve upon. When I see the (ones that I dont like) traits that copies mine from my son or daughter, I look at my wife... and she dont say.. but I can hear... "thats gotta be from you." Hahahahaha!
and then I silently but surely become concerned.... OK... What to do... What to do.

Does it worry me? Sometimes... and at the same time... I believe its my second chance to get it right. :)
So I call my mom... and ask... "ummmm when I did this... what did you do?" LOLZ!!! Oh man...

Every day with the kids... is a Cracker Jack Prize Taraxkp.
No right or wrong~~ Just trying to embrace and enjoy the moment~
Going with da flow~

... and then there are times where I need to wear the "father" mask. :)

I dislike these times, but they are necessary - there has to be a mix :)

Its the times where I never taught but maybe through genes? can inherit personality traits? of myself in certain situations.

I think so. My wife's nephew is "just like his dad" in many behavioral ways, who passed away when he was just a baby. Has to come from somewhere.

I look at my wife... and she dont say.. but I can hear... "thats gotta be from you." Hahahahaha!

I know that look!

I believe its my second chance to get it right. :)

This is the thing, isn't it? We aren't forced to have them make the same mistakes as us, we can be different ourselves. Learn from our own past to improve our weaknesses and show that it can be done.

So I call my mom... and ask... "ummmm when I did this... what did you do?" LOLZ!!! Oh man...

She must love this!
"I told you so!"

Every word you have replied back I am wholesomely onboard with you 1000%, and I am relieved I am not the only one thinking like this. A lot of times I re-evaluate the actions and decisions I made for my son and think it through before bed if I did it the best possible way?

The crazy thing I realize is that we are never educated how proper parenting really is so most likely we mimic the experiences we had with our own mother and father. There really is no guide to it... so our logic and emotions have to make the best of what we have on hand. and I hope that we both will result in a loving, caring, happy daughters and sons that will march into the next generation jungle.

It was really refreshing discussing with you on this topic.
I can feel your love for your daughters celebration through your post and I just had to stop by and read through it. Hope to read more posts about how you experience the world through your eyes. :)

most likely we mimic the experiences we had with our own mother and father.

This is what worries me! :D

It was really refreshing discussing with you on this topic.

You too. It is nice when people can have some fun and take things seriously at the same time. Thank you.

I see you are so totally prepared for this special moment, Mr @tarazkp.
Every father and all parents will do the same as best they can for the sake of their children.

However, there is something far greater that you prepare for Smallsteps' happiness, namely the character of his future success. I saw it in your posts regarding this beautiful little princess.

Let me also wish her a happy birthday,
May she always be happy and all her dreams come true.

WE were prepared, but were still running a bit late to get there! Seems to be common in my family.

Children are full of energy and trying to complete with them is just loosing the little strength we have . Smallsteps turns six happy birthday supper girl. Thanks to dad and mom for making your day very memorable. Dad had kind of made a comment about getting you a phone maybe when you turn 7.

Lol - that is definitely a big maybe on the phone at 7. it is common here from 6, but we have been pretty analogue so far with her.

Maybe not just being analogue but a value for the family not introduce phones at the tender age I'm better with the analogue style till they come up to a better age . The most important thing is her happiness which she has 100% phone certainly would come when it would. Role of parenting

This is the kind of parties I like. Pay some cash and everyone else deals with the mess and nightmares. Looks like a wonderful selection and she will really enjoy the memories she has made. I love the treasure hunt room that looked awesome!

It was much easier to do it this way. Last year, we spent hours and hours organizing it and it likely cost us more. It was fun last year, but "easy" was a good option for this :)

They should make these places for adults too. :D

Haha they do in Australia their called escape rooms and we've even got these smash rooms commencing where you pay to go smash things.

Although there are pubs and bars 🍸 🤔

yeah, there are escape rooms here too. At the start of the year, I was even part of a digital version for a distributed group. They are okay.

The "smash things" is funny. As a kid, our school fair included having an old car that people paid to beat with sledgehammers until there was not much left :D

Oh that would have been hella fun! Can't see that happening today with the fun police tho

Yeah it was - the only thing they took out prior were the windows.

I'm a very proud uncle of this super cute and special little girl. I think of her every day, miss her and look forward to all those hugs she owes me...and I owe her.

She had a ball and she is also keen to get onto the painting for you too :)

I'm looking forward to my painting, I have a spot ready for it already. 😊

Happy birthday to smallsteps😍 She's so pretty😊 Kids are just so beautiful to watch. I read something not quite long that says “Remember how you were as a kid, happy for no reason, be that again”. I love it. Just reminded of how much we need to appreciate and live our best while we still have the time. I enjoyed reading your posts @tarazkp You've been a great dad to small steps. I don't know why but I prefer to call her “Smallstepper” Sounds more dramatic. I love.

“Remember how you were as a kid, happy for no reason, be that again”

Easier said than done, once responsibilities of life take focus.

Happy birthday to smallsteps! She'll be taking bigsteps in life very soon before you know it!

She'll be taking bigsteps in life very soon before you know it!

Metaphorically at least - she is "blessed" with her parents height, so she isn't likely to have very long legs :D

Happy birthday baby girl. You are such a cutie. May bless more and grows into a good person. ☺️

So so pretty.

She is a cutie :)

Having read this post, I wanted to be a kid :)

The celebrant she having a good time happy birthday,