I Adore Men Who...

Believe it or not, it's taken me a while to get to a stage in my life, where I can honestly say that I adore men. That I am now able to fully appreciate them for who they are and not feel intimated by them or fearful of them. Growing up in a abusive home, has that affect on you and until you get work through those feelings of fear and anger, you will continue to hold onto them and it will frame how you view the world. I was in my twenties, when I first experienced a sense of safety around a man. A male friend of mine called James, someone that was authentically himself around me, which enabled me to be the same around him.

(Me and Alex Serra, a man who music is medicine for this world.)

It was a friendship built on trust and love, with no expectations. That was huge for me, feeling that there was no expectations, only friendship. A very, very important friendship at that, one I am forever grateful for. Writing this, I don't think he was ever aware of the huge impact he had on my life, I certainly didn't at the time. I recently reconnected with him, he still lives in London and when I next get to see him (hopefully at some point this year), I'm going to tell him. Because he deserves to know.

( Some of the wonderful men (and women) in my life)

So yes I adore men who are not afraid to be themselves, who don't feel like they need to cave into the pressures of society. Men who are authentic. I also adore men who are wild, who embrace the warrior within, who don't shy away from their masculine side, for fear of being labelled with the term toxic masculinity. One should never feel like they have to water themselves down, not when they are standing up for what they believe in. I understand that some men (and women) can be toxic, but that term is being used far too readily in my opinion. We need strong men, just like we need strong women.

( One of the men who took part in my cuntcraft workshop, at Love Pirates Festival.

I also adore men, who are willing to step into the role of what it means to be a man. To be a provider and protector, to be a creator. Yes to also be in touch with their softer, feminine side as well. But the way the world is now, we need our warrior men, we need them to step up and us women need to support them. I have been following this amazing movement, called Sacred Sons, which
is (in their own words) Leading Men to Their Purpose. Connecting Men to Their Hearts. It is so inspiring to me, to see all these men come together, to share, create and support one another. To roar at one another, to wrestle with one another and then return to their hearts, to support one another. It's a rite of passage for men of all ages, that has been missing from modern society.

(My friend Danny, embracing his warrior Self.)

So I adore men, who are welling to take the steps to empower themselves, who are ready to roar so that they will be heard.

All images used in this post are mine.