Life is just so funny at times that we wonder why some incident happens in a certain way, and we can't do anything about it but get lost in thought about why it happened.
This is more of a reason why I don't try to compare my life to that of others. I have my life to live and they have theirs. There were those times when I was younger and when our parents would want to scold or discipline us for our misdeeds, they would start giving us examples about other kids and how they have performed well or how some others are facing it harder and meanwhile, we don't value what we have.
It’s not a bad thing to do, the comparisons, and the competitive mindset they want to build in such a child. But to some extent, they also need to control and let the kids know that not all that glitter is gold.
I have not always been obliged with those words of comparison from my parents, instead, I just try as much to ignore what I am not good at and then channel my energy towards whatever I am good at. I know the result might not be clear yet, but obviously, someday it will be clearer.
While I was in university, the son of our landlord just arrived from law school. A smart and friendly man, he has the energy to make friends with people around him and even with strangers he has never met before.
We all believe that he is a nice person. Most times we addressed him as “The Law”, due to his profession I don't think there was anyone who knew his birth name.
With his friendly and jovial attitude, he's not just good at that, his kindness also knows no bounds because he is ready to extend his help to those around him even when he is at his lowest. There is no way you won’t get to like him and always want to be around him.
One day he brought his fiancée home, and we were all present that day. We were so happy to have met the woman who stole our friend's heart. We were so sure that she was a lucky woman who had a man like him by her side.
The shocker came when we spent about a week together with both of them. Like seriously, they were birds of the same feather. They have similar characters and attitudes. She was even way more friendly than The Law himself.
“The law! No way you must marry this lady!.” Abdulahi said out of nowhere. I guess he was done with his thoughts about both of them.
“Ooh. AbduLahi!.” The law responded cheerfully.
We all smiled and supported AbduLahi’s words.
“She is a good woman, from what we observed about her,” Muhammad added.
Muhammad and AbduLahi were my roommates. So I also backed them up.
A few months later, The Law invited us to his wedding ceremony. Wow!! We were so happy, that we rejoiced and celebrated his new beginning. We put in our best to aid him in the preparation of the ceremony because of the personality he has thrown at us. We all knew he deserved even more.
The wedding was a blast, a beautiful one to be precise, we were there as special guests. And after we got home it was the talk of the street and even in our room, we had the marriage as a topic of discussion ongoing for a couple of days.
After some weeks, The Law finally packed in with his wife and we already left the apartment. Our new apartment wasn't far from theirs, we were just like neighbors. All we expected was a cool couple relationship between both of them, but the reverse was the case.
Just a few months after the wedding, they started with some heavy quarrels and disagreements between them. The worst part of it was how they would always make it obvious that we would have to come in to settle it. It happened repeatedly that at some point we thought it would end in divorce.
What has happened between the two beautiful souls who we so much admired before their marital ties? Was it marriage that opened up their true characters? It's still something I have yet to understand. The Law and his wife are still together, but I just wonder how they continue to cope that way. It reminds me of the fact that not all that glitter is golden.
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Life is amazing, those you think have it all figured out at the moment, often have greater challenges in the future, that's why we need God 💯
That’s just the pure fact.
Competitive mindset🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️
Omoh. No be small
It's just like that. Some marriages go through that kind of struggle and with time, they will learn to adjust.
Some parents love comparing their children with others, which is wrong. Every child has their own gift and should be encouraged
Only if they know the consequences of those actions on the child.
Thank you
Every family has their own challenges.
The beautiful thing about family is how unbreakable they can actually stand and keep their unity and love during a time of test, trials, and stormy challenges.
Amazing read.
Thanks for sharing.
It is well. Marriage is one thing on it own because it is another institution one has to go in with a prepared mind and ready to change all the way the think and see life if they want to live happily. They have to learn and relearn.
This was a nice story and yeah, not all that looks good are truly good