Unwise decision
Often, when we are children, adolescents and even adults, we give more importance to the fun of sport, because besides being a training and competition activity, it gives us joy, pleasure and satisfaction. In the same way we perceive these elements in games.
Despite having had a mother, who assumed the role of father and mother I received her advice and guidance, I was often disobedient and gave more importance to fun, sport and games. But my mother, like a sentinel, was always looking out for me, because I was tremendous and the youngest of the siblings.
When I came of age, I had already achieved almost all my goals. I finished high school, then I entered the University and in a short time I graduated. I immediately started working and soon I met the love of my life: Efrain, we got married and had four children. Engels, Ernesto. Leocarmen, Simón and a nephew named Hernán, Luis, whom I love like a son. He spent all day at home and spent the night at his mother's house, Carmen Luisa, is very affectionate, brown hair, brown eyes like the fruit of the chestnut tree, cinnamon complexion and slender, she divorced my brother. My nephew liked computer games, but his weakness is the sport of Taekwondo. When they grew up and became teenagers, they neglected their studies and focused their attention on the fun of the sport of Taekwondo and computer games.
Two months passed and one night, while I was in my room with my husband, at that moment I said out loud a saying, very used in my village: “Today I had to take my own medicine” My husband heard me and asked me: “Why do you say that?”, very worried I answered: “When I was the age they are now. I, I did the same thing, thanks to the fact that at that time my mother with her advice made me take the right path”, my husband said: ‘Let's have a family meeting with them to channel this problem’.
The next day, after eating and resting. We sat in the dining room with the five children. My husband, very excited, took the floor: “Dear children, we are gathered so that you can tell us why you have lowered your average in your studies”, with a smile on his lips, Ernesto answered: “Please excuse us, we appreciate it. When we have an hour off from classes, we go to a computer game center. With the money they give us for snack, we pay for the hours of games.”Engels interrupts him: “It's true, we are so captivated with these games, that most of the time we don't go to class”, Leocarmen adds: “I go with you to play on the computers in that center. Then I go to the Sports Center, to Gymnastics”, Simon makes a suggestion: ‘How about if you and mom buy us a computer to play at home’, I interject. “Soon we'll buy it for you.
The four of them answered in unison: “We want you to enroll us in a martial art of sport and combat called Taekwondo”. Mr. Mauro has an academy of these martial arts, on Nueva Toledo Avenue. “Sometimes we don't run away from classes and we go to that academy to practice,” Hernán Luis adds, ‘We can attend in the afternoons, when we are free,’ ‘Don't worry, next week we will enroll them and their grandmother, Leónides, will make them the kimonos for Taekwondo,’ replied Efraín.
A little scared, Leocarmen said: “I want to be enrolled in rhythmic gymnastics at the sports center”, her father, very excited, replied: “Of course, my princess”. I added: “We are going to comply with the request you have made, I hope that from now on you will not miss classes and that you will fulfill all your obligations”. Once that meeting was over, I prepared dinner for everyone and we had dinner in harmony.
The following week, we complied with everything the teenagers asked of us, and in the second school trimester we saw good results in their studies, they were also doing very well in their martial arts. They were excellent, but the most outstanding in this sport was Hernán Luis.
At the end of the year they all passed the school year with good grades. School vacations began, they said they did not want to go anywhere on vacation. They would only attend their Taekwondo academy and their championships. Likewise, Leocarmen adopted the same attitude with her rhythmic gymnastics.
Two months passed, the school holidays ended, and the new school year immediately began, along with his sports practices. Halfway through the school year, Carmen Luisa, Hernán Luis's mother, visited me. Very kindly, she said, "Don't I want my son to practice taekwondo?" Surprised, I asked, "What's the reason?" "I don't want him to continue," my sister-in-law replied. I replied, "Don't make that mistake." "I've already made that decision, and I'm not going back," my nephew's mother added. I had no choice but to dissuade my nephew from practicing this combat martial art.
My children continued practicing that sport, but when they reached adulthood, graduated, worked, married, and started a family, they abandoned the sport.
Several years have passed. My nephew graduated, was working, and lost his job due to a severe depression that completely consumed him. He's now better, but under the influence of sedatives and antidepressants.
Every day, in my solitude, I think and reflect: "If I had had a little more courage and hadn't taken him away from that sport, which is truly what he loves and what he excelled at, Hernán Luis, my nephew, would today be an outstanding athlete in that martial art, taekwondo, and would, for a long time, be honoring the name of our homeland, Venezuela, with several gold medals."
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ESPAÑOL
Decisión imprudente
A menudo, cuando somos niños, adolescentes e incluso adultos, damos más importancia a la diversión del deporte, porque además de ser una actividad de entrenamiento y competición, nos proporciona alegría, placer y satisfacción. De la misma manera percibimos estos elementos en los juegos.
A pesar de haber tenido una madre, que asumió el papel de padre y madre recibí sus consejos y orientaciones, a menudo yo era desobediente y daba más importancia a la diversión, al deporte y a los juegos. Pero mi madre, como una centinela, siempre estaba pendiente de mí, porque era tremenda y la menor de los hermanos.
Cuando llegué a la mayoría de edad, ya había alcanzado casi todas mis metas. Terminé el bachillerato, luego entré en la Universidad y en poco tiempo me licencié. Inmediatamente empecé a trabajar y pronto conocí al amor de mi vida: Efraín, nos casamos y tuvimos cuatro hijos. Engels, Ernesto. Leocarmen, Simón y un sobrino llamado Hernán, Luis, a quien quiero como a un hijo. Él pasaba todo el día en casa y pernoctaba en casa de su madre, Carmen Luisa, es muy cariñosa cabello castaño, ojos color castaños como el fruto de la castaña, tez canela y esbelta, se divorció de mi hermano. A mi sobrino le gustan los juegos de ordenador, pero su debilidad es el deporte del Taekwondo. Cuando crecieron y se convirtieron en adolescentes, descuidaron sus estudios y centraron su atención en la diversión del deporte del Taekwondo y los juegos de ordenador.
Pasaron dos meses y una noche, mientras estaba en mi habitación con mi marido, en ese momento dije en voz alta un refrán, muy usado en mi pueblo: «Hoy he tenido que tomar mi propia medicina» Mi marido me oyó y me preguntó: «¿Por qué dices eso?», muy preocupada le contesté: «Cuando yo tenía la edad que tienen ellos ahora. Yo, hice lo mismo, gracias a que en esa época mi madre con sus consejos me hizo tomar el camino correcto», mi esposo dijo: “Hagamos una reunión familiar con ellos para canalizar este problema”.
Al día siguiente, después de comer y descansar. Nos sentamos en el comedor con los cinco hijos. Mi marido, muy emocionado, tomó la palabra: «Queridos hijos, estamos reunidos para que nos expresen por qué han bajado el promedio en sus estudios», con una sonrisa en los labios, Ernesto contestó: «Por favor, discúlpenos, se lo agradecemos. Cuando tenemos una hora libre de clases, vamos a un centro de juegos de computadora. Con el dinero que nos dan para la merienda, pagamos las horas de juegos.» Engels le interrumpe: «Es verdad, estamos tan cautivados con estos juegos que la mayoría de las veces no vamos a clase», añade Leocarmen: «Voy contigo a jugar en los ordenadores de ese centro. Luego voy al Polideportivo, a Gimnasia», Simón hace una sugerencia: “¿Qué tal si tú y mamá nos compran un ordenador para jugar en casa?”, interrumpo: «Pronto lo compraremos'.
Los cuatro responden al unísono: «Queremos que nos inscriba en un arte marcial deportivo y de combate llamado Taekwondo». El señor Mauro tiene una academia de estas artes marciales, en la avenida Nueva Toledo. «A veces no escapamos de clases y vamos a esa academia a practicar», agrega Hernán Luis. “Podemos asistir en las tardes, cuando estamos libres”. “No se preocupen, la próxima semana los inscribiremos y su abuela, Leónides, les hará los kimonos para Taekwondo”, responde Efraín.
Un poco asustada, Leocarmen dijo: «Quiero que me inscriban en gimnasia rítmica en el polideportivo», su padre, muy emocionado, respondió: «Por supuesto, mi princesa». Y añadí: «Vamos a cumplir con la petición que nos han hecho, espero que a partir de ahora no falten a clase y que cumplas con todas sus obligaciones». Terminada la reunión, preparé la cena para todos y cenamos en armonía.
A la semana siguiente, cumplimos con todo lo que los adolescentes nos pedían, y en el segundo trimestre escolar vimos buenos resultados en sus estudios, también les iba muy bien en sus artes marciales. Eran excelentes, pero el más destacado en este deporte es Hernán Luis.
Al final del año todos aprobaron el año escolar con buenas calificaciones. Comenzaron las vacaciones escolares, ellos decían que no querían ir a ningún lado en vacaciones. Solo asistirían a su academia de Taekwondo y a sus campeonatos. De igual forma, Leocarmen adoptó la misma actitud con su gimnasia rítmica.
Pasaron dos meses, terminaron las vacaciones escolares y de inmediato comenzó el nuevo curso escolar, junto con sus prácticas deportivas. A mitad del curso, Carmen Luisa, la madre de Hernán Luis, me visitó. Con mucha amabilidad, me dijo:"No quiero que mi hijo practique taekwondo". Sorprendida, pregunté: "¿Cuál es el motivo?". "No quiero que siga", respondió mi cuñada. Le respondí: "No cometas ese error". "Ya tomé esa decisión y no pienso volver atrás", añadió la madre de mi sobrino. No tuve más remedio que disuadir a mi sobrino de practicar este arte marcial de combate.
Mis hijos siguieron practicando ese deporte, pero al llegar a la edad adulta, graduarse, trabajar, casarse y formar una familia, lo abandonaron.
Han pasado varios años. Mi sobrino se graduó, trabajaba y perdió su empleo debido a una depresión severa que lo consumió por completo. Ahora está mejor, pero bajo los efectos de sedantes y antidepresivos.
Cada día, en mi soledad, pienso y reflexiono: «Si hubiera tenido un poco más de coraje y no lo hubiera alejado de ese deporte, que es realmente lo que ama y en lo que destacó, Hernán Luis, mi sobrino, hoy sería un atleta destacado en ese arte marcial, el taekwondo, y, por mucho tiempo, honraría el nombre de nuestra patria, Venezuela, con varias medallas de oro».
Sometimes our true talents are also our identities. So, denying them is like preventing someone to be who he really is.
Nice story :)
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I’ve noticed that sports have a great effect on people—not just physically but mentally as well. Even though I like sports, sports don’t seem to like me. Here in our place, the most common sports are basketball or badminton. The only sport I’ve learned is skateboarding, though I’m not sure if I can really consider it a sport since I don’t compete.
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It's a shame that promising young talents are lost and don't get the chance to shine doing what they love. Many times these situations get out of hand and we can't do anything.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
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A story with many reflections. It was beautiful to read. Love for your children is reflected in the respect and guidance you gave them as a parent. It is sad what happened with your nephew. That decision of his mother's you couldn't change it and you can't blame yourself for that.
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