IS IT A BAD THING TO NOT KNOW HOW TO CONSOLE SOMEONE

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Good day to you hive fam. I hope you’re all doing well.I know I haven’t really been active, it just that school has been exhausting. Without any delay, Let’s just get right into then.

Just this afternoon, my roommate got news about a relative’s passing. At first when I noticed her crying I thought it was just maybe because of cramps or something not so serious till her cry intensified.

At this point my cousin quickly went close to her and tried consoling her. And for some reason she knew the right words of comfort to use and also body gestures. I wondered if she was able to do that based on experience or was it just a God given trait.

But I, on the other hand was just seated on my bed and trying to process the whole situation. All i could do at that point was to make silent prayers for the departed soul. I started reciting various Quranic verses .

I still couldn’t help but wonder if I was acting heartless or just immature. Could I have helped calm her down faster if I joined my cousin in consoling her?

My relationship with her isn’t as close as that of she and my cousin but I still wanted to share some words of comfort but I just couldn’t find the words or maybe I was just in shock .

The very first time I can recall crying over someone was when I witnessed my kid brother have an epilepsy attack or maybe a seizure (I’m still not sure what exactly it was).

We were walking back home from school when it happened. Luckily, we were just about getting to the house so the neighbors helped us out.

He was quickly rushed to the hospital and I stayed home all by myself. I cried so hard that my eyes all turned red and my parents could tell when they got back. My kid brother even teased me about it when he later heard about it in the future. He claimed that I was just a big softie deep down .

I can still remember the thoughts I had that day. All I could think of was , is he gonna die, will he comeback home and will he get better.

I was so perplexed by my reaction because my kid brother and I have always had this cat and mouse kind of relationship.

I am really emotional but I always try hiding it . I guess I don’t want to feel vulnerable. But could it be that I wasn’t able to console my roommate because of the degree of our closeness or just because I didn’t know how to .

Which brings me back to the question: IS IT A BAD THING TO NOT KNOW HOW TO CONSOLE SOMEONE

I would really love to hear your thoughts on this . Thank you for your time and enjoy the rest of your day.