I am going to preface this by saying that I am often wrong, or offside, in my actions and thought processes. I'm not normal and I recognize that. This is just to explain why I do/did something and to gauge what the general concensus is regarding that.
The situation
A while back, a fellow came into the OCD discord and was quickly labelled "sketchy". Probably because he was.
I don't think he wanted to be sketchy, but whoever got him into Hive had given him some bad info. I sent him a dm and explained a bunch of things he should not do and told him that his original DIY content could be a benefit to me and a lot of others. I followed him and kind of coached him a bit.
I saw people recommending things to him about what they would like to see but I could tell he was watching the money and trying to get into communities he knew nothing about, probably because the rewards were high.
He then started reblogging things I wasn't interested in and not providing anything new for me to learn from so I quit following.
That was when the Discord message came in, asking how my family was doing and claiming to all of a sudden give a shit about me and my life.
It's not my first rodeo.
Now, I should mention that in the entire time of me trying to help, he did not follow me or ever interact with one of my posts. That's fine. I didn't really care because if you aren't into my content, it's cool. I am not into 99% of the content on here and I imagine you aren't either.
My point is that there had never been any interest in my family or even what I do on Hive until I unfollowed.
I am generally a blunt person so when asked, I explained everything bluntly. Basically, it was that he doesn't care about my family or me and he only cares that I unfollowed. I explained that the content was not what I was hoping for, also that there are thousands of people I don't follow and he should not take it personally. He was there to make money and I was there to do my thing.
I then explained what would have kept me following and wished him well.
Should I have sugarcoated it?
As someone who doesn't like things softened for me, I don't feel the need to try and make people feel like it was something other than what it was. I explained that it wasn't personal. We were never friends, I know nothing about him and he knows nothing about me. I think people mistake friendliness for friendship way too often on these platforms. It takes a long time to create a friendship online. There is no way to judge someone's true actions because we don't know what they aren't showing us. I'm not saying that friendships can't be formed, I'm just saying that it takes a while and a lot of work.
On both sides.
I think that's why I like @davedickeyyall. He seems like a good guy and he's not putting on a show. I imagine I would get along really well with him if we were neighbours.
The other option is that he is putting on a show and is a master at mind fucking. He could have a Silence of the Lambs basement full of crack whores for all I know.
Sorry, weed whores. He is too laid back to be a crackhead.
It doesn't mean he doesn't feed them crack though. Crack and plantains. There's no way he'd give that much weed away.
Why doesn't Pixabay have real crack photos?
What I'm trying to say is that if I unfollow you, it's not you, it's both of us. I unfollow people and communities all the time on YouTube, Reddit, and here. I am not emotionally attached to any content yet and if I don't find value in what you post, who gives a shit? I'm a fucking weirdo that likes scrapping and gardening with a smattering of a bunch of other interests. I don't matter and what I think doesn't matter.
I'm curious to hear how others think about this subject.
I unfollow for excessive reblogging ALL THE TIME. If you are sharing other people's content so much that it takes over my frikkin' feed, I will unfollow you. I may like YOUR content just fine, but if you're sharing 20 things a day that I don't care about, the unfollow will happen. If I wanted to follow those other people, I would.
I understand sharing occasionally, I will do it if I think something is really cool, like I have shared about the water wells projects and the cat feeding projects, or I have reshared a post with a recipe I wanted to try later, something like that. But I maybe average one reblog a week or so (on main; almost never on this account)?
Like if you want to get more attention on someone who is new or you think makes underrated content or something, great - but share selectively, or you're shooting yourself in the foot, imo.
And don't get me started on the reblog accounts, like, that is their whole purpose. There are a few that reblog me, that I never signed up for (supposedly, if you pay them, they will reblog you), and sometimes their choice of what to reblog is weird (a three week old post??). Is anyone FOLLOWING those accounts? Does anyone autovote everything they reblog? I can't imagine so, unless someone wants to set things to autovote and just have it be as widespread as possible, because their curation is random as hell. I just don't understand how that is advantageous to anyone.
Anyway, @davedickeyyall can hang out with his weed whores in the schoolie and they'll probably get a contact high just chillin' in there. ;)
Yes, I follow two that are constant rebloggers but I am told that when the ecency update happens there will be a filter in it to hide the reblogs. Fingers crossed.
I wondered why those reblog accounts did that. I assume they aren't getting utilized for pay so they just go at random to look busy. Every once in a while they reblog mine from a while ago.
Now I want to know about this schoolie.
@davedickeyyall Do you not post about your schoolie anymore?
I sold it with the property in Alamosa..
Oh I'm all out of the loop, sorry!
I live in Puerto Rico now..
Damn, I missed all that, sorry!
I must be the blockchain !pimp ... everyone thinks I've got whores..
Well there's a coin I didn't know existed. 😂
Better than being the blockchain !gimp
You must be killin' it out here!
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You earned 1.000 PIMP for the strong hand.
They're getting a workout and slapped 1/2 possible people today.
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I've seen your standards, and your reblogs. I actually look at some of yours. I don't know if that makes you classy or me a lowlife. I'm going with classy.
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So this one time I had somebody emotionally try to blackmail me into giving him votes because supposedly his high quality content was exposing all sorts of crazy stuff and he deserved it.
And if I didn't then his life was at risk and he was going to get murdered....
All over a $0.10 vote from me?.... What?
And then he got mad when I called him out on it.
Yeah that person was super sketchy and I just dealt with it up front and laughed at him.
He of course is the secret blockchain snitch.
However I think he's more like Cartman with an authority complex.
There are some crazy people
Yeah there are some crazy people but I often think I am one of them. I find that a lot of people in the physical world are passive aggressive and expect that everyone else is too. When I am explaining something it's like they are trying to find a hidden meaning where there isn't one. It's why I have very few close friends, I think.
I suspect there are a lot of people who are labelled as crazy but are really just misunderstood or something.
Yeah I try to be blunt because it's just easier for all the cards to be on the table and no mysteries.
So some people don't like it however I really don't care I'm too busy being me.
Really impressed with your interest and passions and how you're diving right into it.
Keep it up if they keep misunderstanding you it's just fine.
I must admit it did sting a little when I got my first unfollow but I soon realised that that is part of the game and something you really need to get used to on any social media. I like to see development in those that I follow as it keeps me interested in what they are at and sometimes people can clog your feed with too much samey content, especially if they post too often. People should not take it personally if you have to cull them. We live in an attention economy and sometimes you just don't have enough attention to spread out.
Yep, it isn't personal. There are lots of people that post, just to post and that's cool but I hate having to scroll so much when I get up in the morning to see what is going on. As for the attention part...
Hello @wannabescrapper. Thanks for explaining your point of view. I'd like to let you know we have a community for this type of content, called Rant, Complain, Talk. OCD is for topics that don't fit in any other community.
Here's a guide I put together to help you learn about how communities work -> Communities Explained - Newbie Guide.
Once you posted your post in the right community, you can then cross post it to OCD community. Here's a guide about cross posting.
Please don't delete any post with the purpose of reposting it in another community as that can be considered abuse! Leave this post here, you'll get it right next time.
Oh okay, thanks for the info. I had never heard of that community before.
Fuck em if they can't take a joke. Joke em if they can't take a fuck..
You're damn right. As long as it's consensual though. We don't want to be on the wrong side of the metoo movement.
Lol metoo.. damn I almost forgot about the me too movement
How's the wife dude? Everyone healthy? How's the scrapping business going? No more trucks eh?
Man I tend to release something about it's just a button about twice a year. It's nothing personal. It's usually cuz they reblog too much, maybe they're commenting is annoying, whatever it was I saw as a distraction.
I click it regularly. But because of it, I have vendettas against me by cunning people that I didn't realize were so cunning like right now, as I type this. Spiteful mufukers. Some people are extreme about things that don't matter. It doesn't mean I don't like you, doesn't mean I won't continue to stop by your page, none of that, I'll even continue to support. I just don't want to follow them anymore.
Not sure what's so complicated about that.
I like the Lakers but I don't follow them. I like giraffes and zebras too, I physically can't follow them. People bring feelings to this virtual space and it trips me out. Or maybe I'm doing it wrong.
But anyway, how's the dog dude?
Wait, did you say you don't like me?
The dog is good, the wife is excellent and the kids only talk to me once a month or so. They have their own exciting lives.
How can I help you?
(that's exactly how I act because I can't pretend that the person doesn't want something)
How about those Lakers? Will they take home the coveted trophy?
Shall we smite the spiteful amongst us? Will that make us smiteful mufukers?
Blasphemy!!
Wasn't until I went off on that little tangent I realized how confusing it can be if you type was and saw back-to-back like Lakers chanpionships.
The dude I saw was tall and was a saw horse and saw was his name. See what I mean?
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