Even though I am very young and still growing, I'm old enough to have learned a couple of life lessons.
I've stumbled upon some lessons which have become of extremely important use as I move forward in life's journey but there is this one I'd like to share which I've titled "It's not a sin to say No"
Saying no, refusing others, and turning other people down has always been a struggle for me.
I would always try to provide whatever you need once you tell me even when it's at my expense
Even if I don't have it at my disposal, I'd do my best to get it for you because I didn't know how to say no
Though this might sound like a good thing, trust me, it has its negative sides, and I learned that the hard way.
Once my peers and even close friends found out that I was that kind of person, they started to take advantage of me and it was hard to resist because I just couldn't
I got used to it and didn't care anymore because I kept in mind that "that's just how I am", until one day, the inevitable happened.
I got myself into big trouble; something that might have ruined, me and ended up causing me great harm, and that was when I realized I have to learn to say no and stand my ground
I saw that, once people see you as that kind of person, instead of them being grateful, they'd rather prefer to take advantage of you and walk over you like a welcome mat.
Once you're like that and start to say no, you'll find out that most people become friends only because of what they gain and not because they care or think about you.
Although saying no hasn't been entirely easy and I sometimes have to fight the urge not to, it has saved me from a lot of troubles I would have put myself into and I'm glad I learned a bit early that "It's not a sin to say No".
Saying NO is a must and the sooner you learn that, the better for you. Be a master of your own self and not the slave of others. Simple as that.
Also, I see there's room for improvement as far as your engagement is concerned. It would be great to see you comment more on other people's post as well. Engagement on Hive is key.
Thank you
I would do more of that
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I'm glad you realized that saying no is not a sin. I have learnt severally that not helping others is not bad, as far as you know sincerely rendering help at that moment will cause you sadness or leave you in need too.
I remember some years back I used to be like you, saying no was hard. Many of my friends will come running to me for financial aid, promising they will be so so day, weeks but when it gets to the time they promised, they will start acting funny, behaving like they never got money from me. I'm the one to start going to ask and if I don't ask, they pretend like they didn't borrow from me and that money just go like that.
Whenever I'm in need, these people I help whenever they run to me find it so easy to say they don't have,
while I kill myself to make them happy. That way, I learnt to say no, yes, okay, give and help when I know it won't choke me.
Yess some people are just opportunists and take advantage of people whenever they can... I'm glad we both learned to say no
Yes it is very important to say NO sometimes
Very important 👌
A lot of problems could have been avoided by simply saying no hut often times people it so hard to say it. I'm glad that you have learned to say No to save your life
There is need to stood to your ground dear