Respect is not Negotiable

There is one thing I refuse to tolerate in life: disrespect. I do not tolerate it from strangers at all, I don't even leave the chance for strangers to disrespect me because I always mind my business.

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As humans, we can't disassociate from everyone; we have family, friends, allies, colleagues, bosses, mentors, and loved ones, so we would still experience disrespect from some of these people.

They say respect is reciprocal, and that is one thing I am good at. I respect everyone, and that way, I earn their respect too...

Recently, my sister was telling me that she expected me to be harsh to her eldest son, who is 20 years old, so he can be serious with his life, and I told her, being harsh to him won't solve the problem, but I told her I will talk to the boy.

I asked him to visit me and when he did, I asked him what is going on and he explained to me, I realized it was not his fault, it is just the economy dealing with everybody, I told him I am not the type of Uncle that will be harsh or try to control him, he is already turning into an Adult too and should be able to make his own decision Cos I was not up to his age before I started working, in fact I was way younger when I started working and become independent...

I motivated him with my story rather than trying to control him. He has been trying hard to find a job pending the time he will go back to school to finish his studies. It was the same nephew of mine who tried to commit suicide; those who read my post often might have come across the post.

When it comes to disrespect, the place I often face this is my place of work, because when it comes to the workplace, there is no way I can mind my business; there is always something linking me with my bosses and colleagues, and this has caused a lot of fights.

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A few years ago, I taught in a school, and immediately I resumed, I was told about how rude the proprietress was by the other teachers, and even people staying around the school area were saying the same, and it did not take 3 days before I witnessed it...

She insulted a teacher whose class is next to mine for something I can't remember again, she did this in front of her pupils and the teacher silently takes all the insult without saying anything, right there I know I can't stay long in the school but as long as she doesn't bring it to my side, there would be no problem.

Barely 2 weeks after I started teaching in the school, she called me and said she had another school in Ijoko and she would like me to go and teach there, and accommodation would be provided, and she would also increase my salary a bit. She said I should go and think about it and give her feedback. The increase in salary kind of makes me interested, and I love adventure, so this is the kind of thing I love to do, but I decided to ask the teacher who she insulted about the place and what she said made me lose interest in the offer... The place is the bushy part of Ijoko. She talked about how mosquitoes won't let me enjoy my night. There is also a scarcity of water there; it is a rural area.

I rejected her offer, and since then, she has been giving me some kind of attitude, but I don't care as long as you don't insult me; there is no case with body language.

Two days after I collected my first salary, she called a meeting after school had closed on Friday, and this woman kept talking for a good 2 hours. I had the plan to visit the bank that day to deposit part of my salary, cos Pos was not a thing yet and I have to be inside the bank before 4 o clock or else I won't be allowed in... I asked for her permission to leave that I am going to the bank and it was close to their closing time but she didn't answer me and kept talking, after 10 minutes I excused myself and left the meeting to go to the bank. If you want to talk for 5 hours during a meeting, that is not a problem, just make sure you fix the meeting during school hours, that way, it is the time you paid for that you are using cos any time after school hours is no longer yours and we can not be forced to listen to you because we have a life and other things we also need to attend to.

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On Monday, when this woman came to school, she came directly to my class and saw a rag on the window and the next thing, she started cursing saying who is the unfortunate person that used this cloth to clean dirt, I answered her that I was the one and I didn't know it was not a rag because I saw it on the window and that was why I used it to clean my chair, I expected her to stop the curse but instead she started to direct the insult at me but unlike the other teachers that silently takes her insult, I didn't wait for her to finish before I return it to her and her children and that shocked her, she was not expecting it.

My last statement to her was fuck you and your school, Thank goodness I have collected my salary and didn't lose anything, I carried my bag and left the school, that was the end of my work there.

We should never let anyone trample on our self-respect because once we lose confidence in ourselves, it will be hard to regain it.

No matter how I love or respect someone, once they start disrespecting me, I will walk away... no other option.

I have left relationships because of disrespect, I have left bosses because of disrespect, I have distanced myself from friends because of disrespect; this doesn't change the way I feel about them, just that my self-respect matters more.

I love to be in places where I am valued and not where I am looked down upon.

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