Trust

Trust is one of the most important things in life. It is what makes a relationships between two persons or people strong, When you trust someone, you feel safe with them. You believe they will be honest with you, you believe that they won't hurt you or doing thing that will cause pain in your life and will stand by you during hard times. But is so unfortunate that the people we trust sometimes are the ones that end up hurting us.

It takes time to build trust but can be destroy in a matter of seconds. For a person who hardly trust people especially in relationship may be due to several heartbreaks and pass experience and then decides to trust someone now and all of a sudden that trust was broken again, it will be very hard for such a person to truly trust anyone if not by grace.

If someone lies to you, breaks a promise, or betrays you, the trust you have in them begins to break. Once trust is broken, it is very hard to fix, and sometimes it never comes back the same way. A few experience I will love to share with you on some incident that occurred in my life

Something happened in my life some time ago. I had a friend whom we were so close. We were best of friends then and suddenly develop feelings. Well to cut the long story short, we were dating for over three years with not quarrel, or misunderstanding. Everything was going peaceful.

Due to the nature of how this lady was, her character and attitude, I developed so trust for her to a point that I can travel a far distance without worries that she is cheating. Yes!!. She is someone you can actually bet on that she won't do anything to hurt you. Sound funny right?? Betting on a woman. Well that is the extend to which I can stand for the lady then.

This is someone that will call you wherever you are and report to you that someone is trying to ask her out, or someone stop her on the way, or how many guys have actually met her in a day. Even if she does anything by mistake that she can actually hide it within herself, she will still report herself to me and ask for forgiveness. My best friend try to force himself and kiss her, she refused and reported him to me. So the trust was there. But at some point after a few years we've been together, I decided to go through she phone and what I saw!!! Hmm!!!
I couldn't believe what my eyes saw. That relationship broke that every moment. The trust I had for her broke.

About a few months later, she returned to me and asking for forgiveness, apologizing for her art and from her words, she said "I know I've hurt you very much and I don't deserve your love and no matter what I do, or what I say you can't trust me again anymore as you use to.........."

And truly I can't trust her the way I used to do before even if we came back which we didn't.

This trust issue is not something to tempered with because it will be very hard to build again when tempered with. It is something that take it's time to grows when people keep their promises, keep to their words and act in a way that makes you feel respected and valued.

I have experienced again that I felt I was betrayed not once, not twice, but many times by the same person. This person always comes to me when he is in need, and I always try to help. One time, he came and said he needed money badly to solve something urgent and promised to return it by the end of the month. I gave it to him because I trusted him. But when the month ended, he didn’t pay me back. It reached two months before he returned only half, promising to bring the rest soon. But until today, he has not returned the balance.

Later, he came again with another story, begging for help. He promised to return the new money together with the old one. I still helped him again. That was in April. Now, it is July and he has not paid back anything. It’s not that he doesn’t have money, he does, but he chose not to pay. The worse part is he won't communicate you or give you any reason for not repaying back. I kept quiet and watched.

Then one day, this same person came again, asking for more help and told me to trust him. He said he would pay everything this time both with the old once he owned. But I looked at him and told him, I can’t trust you. He felt bad that I said that. But I asked him, If someone had done this to you, will you trust that person again? And he became silent. That silence said a lot.

To keep a trust strong, one should be honest, keep to word and treat others with respect. Trust is like a glass. Once it’s cracked, it may never look the same again. So we must be careful with the trust others place in us, and we should also be wise with the trust we give. Trust makes relationships strong and without it, everything falls apart.