Reflecting On How I Overcome Low Self Esteem

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Honestly, I am sure so many guys during their first phase of life must have experienced low self-esteem, especially from friends, school, or at work. Low self-esteem simply means when a person thinks negatively about himself. This is a critical quality any Man should possess, which is one of the main reasons we must learn to overcome low self-esteem.

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I have had negative thoughts about myself in so many experiences, especially at school. In my secondary school days, I was not that good in my studies, even though my parents did their best to put in extra effort to make me sound in my education journey I wasn’t good, I was often classed lowest in the class alongside Musa and Isaiah my friend. The three of us often argued about who would take last this term out of 32 students, we were always at the last bottom, I felt really bad because I didn’t love the way I tried to put in more effort but still ended up at that low level, I began getting depressed and even almost giving up because I knew I could not achieve anything.

Honestly, it was a painful experience then that I had to summon my courage to pick myself up and endure the moment, friends looked down on me, especially the ladies because no one wants to be friends with a dullard, everyone had their type of friends they felt i had nothing to offer them, i didn’t intend to be an introvert in class, the quiet one but i had no choice. I became the most gentle in class, because i felt i was not important and there was no one to talk to except ladies that just crush on me but see me as irrelevant because i wS a dullard so our talks was not really valuable to them.

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Later, i started picking up my cross and walk, i embraced myself, but it was too late because people already have a impression about me, i just had to be myself since I understand my capacity. I just didn’t care about what people think of me so I didn’t try to get approval from people but just be myself. I know i am perfect in my own way and understand, even this so called people that look down on me they aren’t that much perfect.

I stopped seeking validation from people and started to focus more on myself, didn’t care what people think of me again i embraced what nature gave me and since then i have always been doing good.

One of the way i overcome this was to get to talk to people that encouraged me with their words and understanding of life. They made me recognize that everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect and we all have our area of specialization even though we are not academically sound. Since then i stopped paying attention to negative thoughts and challenges instead i embrace it and muscle through the pain because it is life being a Man.

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My journey is different but I do struggle with low self esteem a lot.

But by now you must have overcomed it.

I thoughht I did but lately it came back

I am sure with time, you will overcome. You can engage in the gym or socialize with people.