Hello friends, I hope you're doing great today and listening to music, it is with pleasure i present to you “Survivor” by Destiny child. Though this song may have been a lot more older than a twenty years old grown up man today but it's message and inspiration still comes off clear and vibrant. A lot of people in this world today have this feeling that without them, you won't succeed and you can do nothing. They are manipulative and try to make you feel they are always the one in charge, leaving no opportunity for you or anyome closer to them to make decisions of their own.
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These set of people can be found in many places, even in our homes. I've seen a woman whose husband orders around even in worst ways than some strict masters do to their servants. This woman literally does everything at home but does nothing that pleases the man. Even the way the man talks to his wife portrays no atom of respect or regard for the woman. I wasn't surprised when I heard from the neighbors the man actually hits his wife indoors but the woman being so much in love with him, chose not to bring the man's actions to public notice. Definitely everyone around still got to know about it somehow because as the saying goes, nothing is hidden under the sun.
Worst case scenario was when the husband hit the woman and she slumped and took the room temperature challenge and never wake up again. Finally his dead were already exposed, with more evidence. How he stopped the woman from going to office and doing her work into being a stay at home mom because of his insecurity. Even at that the woman always appears with bruises, he even isolated the woman from her friends who would have giving her good advice and those who were against how he treats his wife who could have given the woman a good advice. The woman was not also allowed to see or talk to another man at home or outside, be it an old friend or stranger.
To crown it all, the woman genuinely loves her husband and she loves her family so much and didn't want a separation. So when the worst happened, though the man was immediately arrested but she has lost her life. Neighbors living around recalled countless number of times when the sound of their quarreling troubles everyone in the neighborhood which made them wake up in the middle of the night. Soon after everything will seem to be normal again, they will seem to be happy again in such a way that everything looks like a play or joke. One of the lines in the lyrics of this song (survivor) that is somehow relieving is “now that you're out of my life I'm so much better “ the singer also went on to say she wouldn't publicize the evil of her offender publicly because she's better than that.
It's important to note that when you see yourself in a toxic relationship, you'll have to know that the number one priority is your safety (yourself). Many have failed to recognize this a lot of times and it led to tragedy. First is your survival, when someone tries so hard to sit upon you and cut you off from every resource everything you need or should have access to for you to solely depend on them, don't let that happen if you can. The reason is because most manipulators often starts from that. When they stop you from working or doing your carrier job to solely depend on their provision, most times they won't always give you what you deserve or needed when you request for it.
I'm not saying that everyone is like that or that every husband that stops their wife or family members from doing their carrier job is manipulative or wicked, No. It's important to know the kind of people we're dealing with and properly choose our life partners. Bad manipulative people can be seen everywhere even in our offices and different places of work. They are ready to do whatever possible to suppress you if you're a star and hinder you from shining out for others to see and appreciate your gift and ability. It is important for us to be sensitive at all time, be wise and stand strong to not fall a victim or succumb to someone's manipulations that will be so degrading to us.
When we take the necessary precautions with early detections and make bold decisions to survive by going to people who knows our worth and values us. Don't feel because someone made you feel worthless and little that it is truly what you are, there are a lot of people who will know your worth and value you if you go out and socialize with others. Take for instance, a bottle of canned water may be sold cheaper in a small shop or restaurant but in mega shops or restaurants would be more costly, same canned water with the same brand. The difference is environment (location). Let's not choose to stay permanently with those who do not know our worth and messes with our psyche.
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Lyrics to song
When it comes to marriage, I'm not encouraging divorce but when you see your partners action is getting out of control and their abuse can lead to your terrible end, give them some space, maybe they will come back to their senses. Same applies to your working place, it may not be easy but try and find other places and managers who will accept and cherish you because as it goes for you to survive, you have to move out of where people see you as worthless. The environment we are into and the type of people we associates with can easily affect our growth physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and even spiritually etc.
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