My parents had me in their 40s and my only sibling has got good 14 years on me, that literally makes me the baby of the house. It also means everyone's becoming old right before me. While that is a good thing, because old age is a gift, it is also a scary reality for me.
Apart from my new family since getting married, this little family of mine is all I really have and I can swear they will always have my back. They're the real definition of 'being loved at home' and their love has made me feel secure all these years. I've had thoughts of a time when I wouldn't have them within reach but I try not to dwell on such.
However, seeing members of my family for the first time in while has me deep in thoughts about the future and being the last of the house of four. My parents and sibling look a lot older than I remember and it is a huge shock to me what difference two years look like. Despite the inevitable ageing, I think my parents ought to look better. Their health hasn't been the best and even the pictures and video I had seen of them before now didn't prepare me for the face to face meeting.
My mother has a lot of fears about her health and seeing her in person makes me understand her fears. I can barely look at her for long without my eyes welling up. I can barely look at both of them without running to a corner to cry. I'm supposed to be having a happy time with family but instead, I'm very sad and afraid. I want to help my mum around the house and hear her whine at me for doing something wrong, but she has little energy to even talk for long.
I have tried to keep up a bold face since I've been here and reassure her as always that she will be better in no time. She caught me crying today and ended up being the one reassuring me instead that she's fine and better now. I wish things were different but they aren't, so I can only hope for better and work hard to make my parents be comfortable in their old age.
My mum says she's lived most of her life and now I have to live mine to stand on my own. She didn't fail to remind me I was born for greatness and crowned it with prayers for me and the family. It was good to hear that but it's not stopping the tears as I sit in the dark in this balcony, being fed upon by raging mosquitoes while I cry thinking of my ageing parents.
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The issue of watching our parents age is a scary blessing.
Many didn't get the opportunity to witness it but few of us that do. We are grateful but the fear of what would happen next is still inevitable.
A scary blessing indeed. We can't evade old age and should be thankful for the opportunity to witness it. It's just so hard to see the once agile people you knew become weak. I'm grateful in all though.
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I can totally relate my darling, watching your parents age slowly and falling ill frequently can be so sad. I panic whenever my dad complains about any part of his body aching him.
Don't worry about it too much they'll be fine mi!luv🥰🥰
Here's a big warm !hug for you🤗🤗
Thanks dear @ibbtammy, I needed that hug badly 🤗
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You are welcome!
That’s unfortunate for sure and I have some experience with that as well. The good thing about it though is that you’re able to see them now and have good memories with them. It’s challenging but this is how life goes. I’m sure when you have children one day you’ll be able to have a similar talk! It’s strange, as we get older these things tend to be less scary. I’m more focused on making sure my sons life is good rather than my own and that’s what keeps me going. If my life is cut short, it’s difficult but it’s about making sure his life is looked after.
I guess I will not fully understand until I have children and they have to live their own lives. Currently, I really wish I could be beside them and make life easier for them to the best of my abilities but like my mum says, I have to live my life now.
It has happened to me too. The second of 7 children born to my parents, I have watched them grow older with deteriorating health conditions too. Especially my mum, the other time she even fell unconscious and had to be rushed and revived at the hospital.
It can make one cry especially as you are not staying with them. But honestly, that is a reality we all must face. We just have to be there and strong for them
Oh wow...I hope your mum is in better health now. I wish old age didn't come with so many health problems. The changes can be so overwhelming and confusing for them that it causes fear and anxiety which worsens their condition even more. It is well.
This is a fear we all get to face at some point. I have lost one parent and the other one is aging. In a country where one can't even guarantee good healthcare it bothers me a lot. There is nothing that can prepare or sooth us in this case (well except willful denial).
Healthcare is so shit and so many people love to exploit old people with health problems. I feel helpless not being with them but it's not like my presence stops the ageing anyway.
you just got me thinking of my grandma who is always complaining of stomach pain
That's all our grandmas 🥺