Hello everyone!
Probably one of the reasons I'm more productive with my posting lately is that I immediately address the issues that bother me. Before, I'd simply shrug things off and go to sleep or do something else. As the saying goes, any untreated wound will fester. Now, I'm more upfront about things and no longer afraid to make decisions, regardless of others' opinions.
I might jinx myself, but I feel like I've started 2025 off right. While there's still much to work out, I no longer feel burdened by things that don't directly affect me or my family. As I stated in my previous post, my sister's recovery is my top priority. Everything else is just noise.
Miss Universe 2018, Catriona Gray, said we should look for the silver lining. I guess the silver lining in my sister's illness is that I've learned to let go of things without guilt. I felt I accomplished another act of letting go yesterday when I left the Hive group I founded with @indayclara here in Cebu. I felt it was the right time to move on to other things because the group no longer served my best interests.
I apologize for the bluntness, but I felt the group drained me. I wasn't getting anything meaningful from it anymore. It became a distraction, consuming a significant amount of time worrying about things I shouldn't have.
No offense to the group members, especially those I interacted with personally, but I no longer care if you're offended by what I did.
I feel I've dedicated my time, energy, and expertise to onboarding and supporting many Hivers. I believe I've given enough. I've been incredibly open and available, to the point where any member could message me about their problems, even though they had their own onboarders. Imagine if I had invested my time and expertise in something that directly benefited me? As I've said before, I'm not truly altruistic.
As we all pursue our different endeavors, whether here on Hive or elsewhere, let the title of this post serve as my advice to you. It's also my parting gift. Reputation is how others perceive you, while integrity is how you conduct yourself when no one is watching. On Hive, reputation is often quantified by the number associated with your name. It can be easily manipulated to make you appear as a valued community member. There's no reliable way to measure integrity here because it's impossible to quantify.
It's personal.
@indayclara asked why I let what happened affect me. I said it was time to move on to bigger and more important things. But honestly, I value integrity above all else. I felt the group had lost its values. What happened was merely a symptom of a deeper moral decay. I no longer wanted to be a part of that. I was disappointed but not surprised. There were subtle signs I initially ignored.
Do you know what I detest most? Being gaslighted and manipulated. I also hate apologizing, even when I know I'm right. If I'm wrong, I'm not too stubborn to admit it. I'll apologize and correct my mistake. I truly despise people who insist on something only to be proven wrong later.
I hate liars and manipulators.
"It's just one person, though." One drop can indeed poison the well. I'm sorry, but the well is already contaminated.
I've helped many people in the past, particularly those with Binance account issues. I had no prior experience with these problems, and they were often unique, but I spent considerable time finding solutions or workarounds. I received no compensation for these efforts. Now, if you encounter problems, please consult your onboarders. At least they're earning something from onboarding you. If you have questions about travel posts, direct them to the appropriate channels, such as the Worldmappin community's Discord. Please do not contact me directly with questions outside of official channels. For years, I've been readily available. That chapter has ended as of yesterday. I'm no longer available as if I'm the answer to all your problems. Guess what? I have my own significant challenges to deal with!
You can call me bitter, loser, or overly sensitive.
I don't care. I stand proudly knowing that I haven't plagiarized or participated in any form of abuse here. I've endured this long because I value my integrity more than my reputation.
Let me guess, you won't be around when posting is no longer profitable. You'll cash out everything you can whenever it's convenient.
The root of the issue is that you made me to apologize when I was right. Yes, I already mentioned that. I'm repeating it for emphasis and to increase word count. Besides, at least let me monetize my anger.
Kim Ybañez
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in the same boat as you are, too much of my time has been spent helping people on here and while it felt like the right thing to do at the time, i didn't realise how much i was putting my own interests and pursuits aside in the process
too many years were spent on discord either helping people with support or by trying to get people the curation i felt they deserved, and too many years were spent near single-handedly running a community nobody gives a shit about
made the decision recently to take a step back and put my time elsewhere, into things that benefit me but also actually interest me, no more sacrificing my time and health here; turning 30 in a month and the last thing i want to do is grow old on discord or slaving away doing things that purely support others, gotta look out for myself first really, and i haven't been doing that
this place can be so incredibly demanding when you're on the side that helps keep things running, getting caught up in such utter nonsense a year ago was probably the best eye-opener i could've had, but it still took me another year to realise i was putting too much time into something for others
really resonated with me
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And anger becomes money….😔
As they would say in Spain “¡te has quedado a gustito! “ Something like: you got it off your chest for good. But in a Spanish funny way.
I don't need to know the details of the story to intuit that you are doing the right thing, starting out with the best intentions does not guarantee that everything will always unfold as we expect.
It is wise to recognize when your time has come to an end. End of cycle, turn the page and worry about you and what can make you feel at peace.
Good therapy is to complain before going to sleep, I see it healthy hahaha Cheer up!
As we always do! What's not healthy is my lack of sleep or irregular sleeping pattern.
Maybe this post is the product of lack of sleep. Now that I slept through it, I realized that I should have clarified everything in a professional manner, but I would still leave. I agree that we should recognize when to stop and walk away. But before walking away, let's monetize it for the last time. 😆
Integrity is so crucial in the world we live in! There are unfortunately a lot of people who wouldn’t know what that was if it hit them in the chest. I’m glad you chose integrity over reputation because that’s going to serve you better in the long run!
I'll always prioritize my integrity over money even if I'll stay poor. That's why those who know me will even trust me with their keys to facilitate their withdrawals for them.
Hey don't know all the circumstances but when something is too heavy and it's something we no longer want to do it's time to move on from it. Our time can be precious and we need to maximize it at times for our own sanity. No sense doing things or being involved with them if it make us miserable. Take care and hope things look better moving foward.
I realized it was just a small thing. I just love being dramatic. 😆
But I would never back out on my decision to leave. I recognized it was my time to leave.
Hello Sr Kim! Thank you for everything. We missed you. Hope to see you soon.
Hi ma'am! I missed you all there! Mubisita ra nya mi ni @indayclara before sha maminyo. 😂
Hahaha nus a man na kaslon ang atong Disney Princess Kaha oi..@indayclara
Nangita pa daw ma'am. 😂
I felt a deep sense of relief "like a thorn was finally removed" upon reading your post Sir Kim. As someone who looks up to you and values your contributions to all of us, I truly admire your courage to step away from a group that no longer aligns with your goals and values on Hive. Honestly, I feel embarrassed about how some newbies have been inconsiderate, especially knowing all the help you’ve selflessly given without expecting anything in return. 😔 Leaving the group is a happy and healthy decision, Sir Kim, and I’d do the same if I felt so drained in such an environment.
Anyway, I’m sure we’ll still see you around on Hive! 😊And yes, we’ll meet one of these days sir Kim I still owe you for helping me with my thesis, even sending me HBD to assist with it. See you soon, Sir Kim, and stay radiant! Dili ta pa stress sa mga pipol nga dili mkahatag benefit sa atua. 😁
Dramatic ra kaayo akong exit ma'am Smile! 😄 Pero yeah, it's been a long time coming. Natrigger lang. Magmeet nya ta ninyo! Nice magtapok nasad ang mga OGs from Tabogon 😆
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's clear you've put in a lot of effort to help others, and your dedication is appreciated. It's important to set boundaries and take care of yourself. I hope you find the support you need, and I'm sure your contributions have made a positive impact on many. Wishing you all the best for the future.
Thank you! I think I have a good support system and I'm also learning to walk away without feeling guilty.
Your feelings and emotions are valid sir.
Thank you!