Peer Pressure; The positive and negative impact on our society.

Life is multidimensional

Many times when we experience different life scenarios. At times we feel like rushing some stuff in our lives, there are times when we keep imagining greatness and wish they could get to us so quickly. There are times when we would just naturally have to endure and be patient about our existence. This is solely because we are ourselves and no one else.

It’s common for kids to feel pressured by their peer groups but there is nothing they can do about it other than to rely on their parents and appreciate the little that comes their way. But with time as these kids continue to grow into this pressure then it continues to increase and makes them desperate about some aspects of their lives. This phase of their lives is where they try to decide who they want to become.

Many who come from a wealthy background might not find it hard to battle against peer pressure, they have it all right from their childhood and also just have a little less to work on when they get older. But for the poor and less privileged ones, the pressure might be so much on them because they might not find their worth in the way of life they had.

Only if everyone knew that we all have our fate and destiny in life, this is something we can hardly twist away. But nowadays a lot of people, especially the youth of nowadays, have gone beyond what it takes to live in their fate, instead of working towards who they are, they want to go against what they were created for.

In the olden times little did they experience all of these bad vices that we are seeing and hearing today. This is most times because back then there was a lot of contentment and patience.

Nowadays we get to listen to and watch different news updates about youths and even teenagers are fully involved in recent times, killings, kidnapping, stealing, robbery, engaging in fraudulent acts, rituals, and many more bad vices.

But why is all of this happening??

Peer pressure is one of the greatest pushes towards all of these happening. Youths and teenagers nowadays, especially in this part of the world where I am, Nigeria, can't be patient enough to fight over whatever form of peer pressure they are experiencing.

They fail to realize who they truly are and what their potentials are, they care less about their career and what the future holds for them. All they are after is just having a nice time even if it won't even last longer for them.

I got into a chat with a friend of mine, it's almost three years now since we departed. We greeted each other and reminisced about our past times together. Then he asked me about my girlfriend if I had any. I told him the truth that I am yet to have one, but I am also working on getting married instead of getting into any form of relationship with a lady.

What he told me was that I am too slow and shy and I don't want to change. He had been pressuring me to get a girl while we were together, he is more of a womanizer, and I am the opposite. He felt I was way out of real-world enjoyment. I don't know how he keeps enjoying swapping ladies from time to time. But no matter how hard he pressed on me. I wasn’t ready to change because I knew who I was and what I wanted. He is living the life he wanted and not what I wanted.

So that's where people get it wrong and easily fall into peer pressure. They think less of themselves, it might not be in terms of women or relationships, it might be in terms of luxury and money, job opportunities, education, and many more.

There are negative and positive effects of peer pressure, when you see the good in it, the positive effect, for example having a friend doing better than you in your field, you don't have to compete with them or envy them. Rather make good friends, build relationships, and together you both can achieve the best. But once you realize the impact of such would end up negative then you should back off as fast as you can.