Boyfriend Is Not Husband: Set Boundaries, Stay Safe.

Most of the time, as young people, we have this misconception about boyfriend and husband and I feel that we have been clouded with the world love of a thing which is not making us think straight as we are supposed to. There is a different between someone that has paid your bride price claiming to be a husband and someone who is just a boyfriend which you both as a guy and a lady do not know your destination yet. As a guy and as a lady, we all have to set boundaries and set limits for ourselves.

Yesterday I was in a tricycle when I was listening to a radio station program. Because it's been a while I have heard programs on radio, I paid attention to it and hoping that I will be able to learn one or two from it. Then the presenter mentioned some things about ladies of this generation, which I truly love so much. She said most ladies now see their so-called boyfriends as a potential husband and then when you have a boyfriend you believe it is time to move into his apartment even with doing the required thing needed for him to do.

The boyfriend is not your husband. This is the warning that she keeps ringing into the heart of most ladies. I have come to realize that most of the killing of innocent young ladies during this period is as a result of most ladies throwing themselves at guys who they see to be a potential husband from their boyfriend zone. Most guys of this period take advantage of this, and sometimes they go into a relationship with a lady because they know they will be able to gain every access they want when they start to date them.

There was a day I was in a conversation with one of my lady friend and I told her about not doing something and immediately, she told me that if I was her boyfriend that she would have done some things and I couldn't stop laughing. I asked her a question which is, if was her boyfriend, does that give the certificate that we will marry eventually? She could not give a straight answer, but she said if I was her boyfriend it would have been another case entirely, so I just had to stop the conversation.

A lot of things are going on recently. Many young ladies are dieing prematurely, most people are getting missing all in the name of dating someone. I am not against dating or having a relationship, but there should be boundaries. As a lady, you are not supposed to start dating someone and then immediately you pack down to his house. If a guy loves you, he should allow you to have your rules and your boundaries.

We heard about a lady last week who met with a celebrity and went to his house because they were dating, and then she got killed by her so-called boyfriend. Which cases are getting too intense, and I am just trying to speak from my own point of view. Boyfriend is not husband. Stay wiser and stay safe.

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