Exactly @corina, I don't mean to be overcommenting I find topics like this captivating since I love psychology and I care about kids and their upbringing..

@hermansnsol , mom used to beat me anytime I came home late, so when I went out , all I thought of was the canes, it got to a point, when the play gets really fun, I'm tempted to compromise, and i still get home late..Knowing I'll be punished, well, canes made me know if I don't come home early mom will beat me, and it will be painful,

But one day ,I came home late, and when I thought mom will beat me, she told me . She's not gonna beat me. She expects me to act matured, and that I was not an animal to be heeding to instructions only when physical pain will be inflicted.

She went on to tell me, she gets quite disappointed,bcus as her daughter, she needs be to be a lady, and only ladies do the right thing, she said quite some stuff, which became a challenge,

I realised she challenged me to be a lady. Every single day, I wanted to be that lady , her words were genuine, and knowing my mom will take pride in seeing a lady in me, actually did the magic.

I also believe mom said that at a particular age, so for this reason, I'll say the punishments,(spanking,lashes ) when done appropriately are good for certain ages,... Parents should study their kids to know when to do what to do...