It's easy for new folks to feel left out but at the same time, that's a good thing, since nobody needs this stress. Part of me keeps thinking I'll be screwed over next, along with more of us. Indirectly, we are getting screwed. It's super annoying.
Maybe we are the kids who picked sides, got away from drunk-ass mom. Most of us are old enough to be on our own though and don't really need to be dealing with any of this. I look forward to family visits, where everyone has fun...
Hopefully that can happen, eventually.